I just wanted to add that a friend did contact me today. She told me this about breast cancer: " that area is one of the most easily treatable and with best rate of success rates." Ugh! I would have preferred that she stayed silent. Not only did she talk down to me but she invalidated the seriousness of what I'm going through and what I may face.
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I've read all of your stories, and I was very moved by them. I'm so sorry that you've experienced this, sorry for all you've gone through. God bless you all. I can relate, because I'm going through this right now. I haven't been diagnosed with cancer, but I have several symptoms and a suspicious lump showed up in a mammogram and ultrasound a few weeks ago. Yesterday, I had a stereotactic breast biopsy. It could be a couple of weeks before I get the results. My friends and family are already running away from me! Two weeks ago, I'd announced on Facebook that I needed a biopsy and got few replies. I told myself that maybe they just didn't see the post. After all, it was a holiday weekend. After I announced yesterday that I'd just had a breast biopsy and could use some prayers or positive thoughts, only three of my 200 friends bothered to comment and no family members did. I'm shocked. This has been quite an ordeal already--the worry, the stress, the pain, the fear of what's to come, and I know it's just the beginning. Their lack of support and concern really hurts. It makes me feel like I've done or said something wrong, something to be ashamed about. I feel shunned. And I'm really shocked that two friends in particular haven't offered words of encouragement. One of them, someone I've known for 20 years, is in remission for lung cancer (miraculous since she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and had a 1% rate of survival). After she'd announced her cancer a few months ago, I contacted her every day to see how she was doing, and I always tried to encourage her. I wanted her to know that someone cared, that she wasn't alone. Another friend lost her mother to breast cancer last year. I thought that she, if anyone, should understand what I'm going through. Even my mother-in-law has said nothing on or offline. I'm so disgusted that I've decided to close my Facebook account and end a few friendships.
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