Hi Ann, He’s just generally a “worrier” and it’s almost as though I can’t deal with him being like that when I’ve got enough to worry about. Also he has a very close family whereas I am a very private person and I know his anxiety would mean he would discuss it with them, even if I ask him not to. So I feel I can’t put that pressure on him, without allowing an outlet of his own. But you’re right, it is just investigation and I guess it’s easy to jump from one thing to another and start imagining the worst. Must try to stay positive! Thank you.
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I’ve been (for want of a better word) nursing a breast lump for the last 4 weeks. I’ve given it a full menstrual cycle and still it’s there so I’ve been to the GP and got a 2ww referral. I was coping ok and being optimistic until the GP started talking about BC being one of “the best” cancers to have and there’s lots they can do these days - mastectomy, chemotherapy etc. Working in a GP practice myself I was expecting a referral but maybe more of a “ I don’t think it’s anything to worry about but we will refer you anyway “ kind. The part I am really struggling with is feeling scared and alone. I don’t want to tell my partner yet as he will fret and make it huge before it needs to be; Its just not an option until I know the facts. I don’t have any close female relatives that I can trust enough to keep it to themselves and I don’t want to put on my friends. I just feel like I want to tell someone but without the sympathy and the feeling that I’ve put on them emotionally. I literally have no one that could / would just say they’re there if I need anything and not try and take it on as a crusade (if that makes sense?!?). Is anyone else struggling in this way? Or am I just being emotionally incompetent 😂
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