Hi Maybe some of you can help me with my conflicting thoughts now that my treatment has "finished". I had lumpectomy and radiotherapy and just recovered from the side effects of radiotherapy. Firstly can I say that although friends and relatives rallied round fantastically initially I am shocked that this support has now disappeared apart from a couple of lovely ladies, who have been through cancer too. My supposed BF said "we will be positive and proactive" and then disappeared apart from one email 6 weeks after the operation to say how was I and sorry she had not been to see me but had been busy. After replying to her I have not heard from her for 2 months. Another couple of relatives who came to first appointments with me when hubby could not get time off work seem to have disappeared too. I guess they all struggle to cope with my diagnosis, but I hardly talk about it at all as I realise that people just want you to say you are fine now, which we all know we are not at this stage. My youngest son, who I am very close to, seems not to be able to talk about it at all. My eldest son was very concerned and supportive but now he and wife seem just concerned with when I can visit to babysit again (a 3 hour journey and then staying for a few days each time whilst they travel abroad for work) and although hubby has been fantastic I know he just wants to move on and seems mostly concerned with when we can book a holiday. Am I being selfish/unrealistic to have hoped for things to be different? I am visiting support groups to try to get support from them and am on a waiting list for counselling. I see my oncologist next week. Any tips on how I can move on? Many thanks
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