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Darling buddies from May - moving on

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Hi ladies

Not gone - yet!  Can't wait as weather looks fab. Packing nearly organised, just been trying to get a few more beachy type clothes as we intend chillin' out a lot and havent had a holiday to do this in years! Most of our recent holidays have been in Europe (not complaining!) and based around cities where we've done a lot of sight seeing. But this has meant smarter clothes rather than beach ready shorts ha ha. Of course this time of the year is a bit of a challenge to even see the right clothes in the shops as you ahve to fight through the rails of winter sales clothes.  But it's a task I feel I've been up to!  At least whatever I have bought can hopefully be used later when the summer weather catches up with us in the UK - fingers crossed.

No real news from me other than 'sandwich' duties (although my Mum sweetly gave me a some dollars to treat myself with whilst away in recognition of all the help I've been giving her). A bit of childminding but not too much which is good as I do get exhausted with a full days worth. Only brief hospital visits (one due later today for treatment/injections).  All in all a bit of a lull which is nice - but I expect this to all change at some point so I'm enjoying it whilst it lasts.

Hope all of you are doing OK, good to have a quick catch up from all of us - except Lisa Loo La ;-) who is always a busy bee. Enjoy the rest of the week off Lily and lets keep the sun shining wherever we are.

Nicky xx

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Hi all, it's been a while from me but not for any reason in particular.

Lily sounds like you had a smashing hen night for your daughter, hope the many cocktails did not cause a headache lol?

Nicky you might be off in sunny Miami and Lisa what are you up to? Do you still make the jewellery?

Thankfully for a week we have had super sunny weather, with no frosts surprisingly considering it is only Feb.  Still a sunny sky cheers you up no end.

Talking of which I'm just out to take the dogs for a walk. Aero is so big and strong it can be quite a chore, rather than a joy. Still I'm sure he will get better as he is still a puppy, the other female dog is much more calm but when she runs she runs!

Hope everyone is well and all enjoying sun wherever you are xxx

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Hi ladies,

sorry I don't know where the time went! Nicky I am definitely a sandwich carer then, possibly the whole loaf!! I can't believe how much snow landed on you when we got none at all to speak of. Weather can vary so much over a small area. Kids were disappointed of course but it was nice to not have the worry of driving on black ice or snow. Quite a lot of freezing fog this year. Nick you might be enjoying the sun by now, lucky you. I have been away on md's hen do and had a fantastic time, despite being one of the oldest. Just love going away, alll the girls together. I have a lot of great ideas Lisa, if you need any as our chief bm was amazing. Really made every minute count. I have drunk so many cocktails I am swimming so maybe an early night. Went clubbing and my knees are killing. Yes hmmm well that appointment I am not thinking about is coming up soon and I have no questions because I am really very scared of going so figure it will be a last minute cram. At least I don't cry, what a big baby!!"!!  Got to dash as online time going fast, take care love Lily xxx

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Hi ladies

Sorry it's been a while Ive been up to it with other things (mainly being a 'sandwich carer' as I think it's called ha ha) plus a few days out here and there and trying to log on to the new forum.  All thungs sent to keep me away from posting!

I'll try to catch up.

Lily, I hope, when you do get your appointment you have a list of questions and the the right answers to them and the op is less intrusive than you are imagining.  Let us know hiw it goes and what is decided.  How is Mum doing?  In terms of recovery as well as hoping she is aware of how much you are helping her.

Carole, has the bird feeder netting come through yet? Urgh. I'm hoping youre not checking all the time but I expect you'll need to to make sure all is OK.  Love the photos of the 2 pooches.

Lisa, good catch up from you, again with lots of planning to do for weddings and family celebrstions - what a busy girl you are (as always).  Hope you are enjoying all of it, something(s) to look forward to.

Well, yet again we had severe snow and Basingstoke was gridlocked, abandoned cars, blocked motorway, snowy then icy roads - just the same as a few years ago.  OH and I ended up do a few walks out on Saturday to get provisions!  All very lovely and pretty but quite exhausting by the end of the day.  The clearing pur driveway on Sunday ready for OH to be able to get out and drive to work on Monday.  I had GS all day Monday (adding to the exhaustion) and also overnight last night and this morning - making it a very busy week with little time in the middle to do things I actually needed to do.

Never mind, as you've all said, I've got something to look forward to which bith OH and I need. He is very involved with lots of financial details with his work at the moment but is adamant we are going away still.  He may have to take a few calls and reply to a few emails but he will then be claiming those days as non holidays.  Funnily enough no one else at a senior level seems to get their holidays interrupted so much, hmmmm.

So we are now back to wet weather and very windy at the moment.  Quite a few trees, or large branches of trees, were broken by the weight of the snow and with the strong winds a few more have suffered so its a bit precarious on some of our country lanes.  Keeping safe!

Take care, have a good weekend whatever the weather or whatever your plans are.

Nicky xx

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Hi all, thought ide better text before I fall to sleep. Carole baby snaps and dog snaps are gorge.

 

not been snowed in here but cold and had an experience on black ice... hate icy roads but all fine.

 

whens the appointment lily 😞

 

nicky, wow now I'm jeleous, blue seas and warm sun how lovely and well deserved. 

 

Not much to report here, no diet just food, my friends got me sorting her hen night and making all wedding invitations so shattered and still loads to go then onto ideas for mam and dad's golden wedding and 70th birthdays elks busy year. Well I've my annual check up but in April as pushed back last year for hols, my dad seen the doctor I see and who done my first operation at work and he hasn't seen me last two years as stand in, asked how he was and said he remembers it's my 10 year mark and prob won't be seeing me again. One that freaked me a little, two how lovely and omg how does he remember that, although I was probably the patient from hell, although he does stop for a chat in Morrisons whenever I see him, usually after I've visited the wine aisle 🙈🙈.

 

take care catch up more this week, no apologies for typing, just no time to fix lol. Ps hate new look too lol

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Morning all, Nicky what brilliant news I loved Miami but it was many years ago we went. Have a super time. I know what you mean about looking after the grandchildren ( and we only have 1 toddler, unlike Lily who has a few).  I found our GD quite hard work the short time I saw her but of course Baby GD is too small to require much at the moment.

 

Glad you've seen the Dr Lily, things might not be as bad as you think so best to wait until you see the specialist.   

 

Lisa always the busy bee!   How is your diet going?   Im not pleased to say that I still haven't lost what I put on after the steroid. But my dr assures me it can take months?????   

 

The doggies keep me busy, today the weather is very cold and frosty but at least we have a blue sky.  Something we've not had for weeks.   Yesterday Aero found a bird fat ball that had dropped off the hanger, yum yum, he ate the whole lot even the green sac.   I expected him to have a bad tummy but he hasn't, although he has toileted several times I'm still waiting for the green sac to emerge Man Indifferentaero.jpgAeroIMG-20181111-WA0004.jpgMea

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Hi buddies, lucky you Nick, sounds just the right sort of treat, especially in this cold weather. We have been spared so far, just a bit of snow that didn't settle and a frosty car. Mind you we have another weather warning for later this week, so fingers crossed for a day off work. The site goes staright to the last post for me but I'm on a pc which might make a difference. Have a lovely and well deserved holiday.

Lisa are you snowed in? I seem to remember you can get cut off quite easily as you rely on a small bridge to get across the river. Hope you are managing ok. Carole are you feeling the cold snap?

Well I did as I was told and went to the gp and been referred and the appointment came back much too quick for my liking! So will find out in a few weeks. Not going to think about it until nearer the time, so head back in the sand to make sure I don't start worrying!!! love Lily xxx

 

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Hi ladies

Not liking the new layout, but we always say that! Having said that though I think the white space is way to much and yet again we get sent to a page of our thread that is years old - and there’s no page numbers now at the top, you have to scroll to the bottom to go to Page 1 - grrrrrrr. Rant over,for now.

Congrats Carole and lucky you to be able to get to visit the new little miss so quickly. Wow,Mum will have her work cut out with that small age gap. Hope she is recovering well and at least has some extra knowledge this time around which is not there for first time Mums. A be,aged Happy Birthday and anniversary as well from me, did you do anything special or was seeing a baby granddaughter special enough 😊 Sorry I have just re-read your post and realised you went out for lunch. I hope it was a good one.

Lily, hope you don’t have to have surgery but can deal with the situation in a different way, whatever that might be - I don’t have a clue! Hope your Mum has also recovered enough to stop hallucinating and treating you a bit nicer. I didn’t know this until recently but it’s a common side effect of a urine infection in older women that they go a bit doo-lally until it gets sorted. It made sense once I was told as I’ve heard about it in several older ladies so it didn’t seem like coincidence.

Lisa, how are you? Busy, busy I expect but update us when you can.

Well, after my good news of my scan results we are going on holiday, hooray. We had booked everything a while ago but knew we could change our plans and cancel it all if we had to. So we’re off for a couple of weeks to Miami and the keys. Somewhere we have wanted to visit for a few years now and had to cancel our original trip 2 years ago when I had to go onto chemo (again), so we’re both super excited that we’re getting to go there at last. Can’t wait, and we’ll get some sun which is an added bonus. Other than that I’ve been on Glam-ma duty last week, which is quite exhausting as he is on the go all the time. Luckily not too much of that this coming couple of weeks, just enough to see the little lovely but not so much as to wear me out - I hope. As to other babies on their horizon they both emphatically say no so we’re not expecting the potter patter of tiny feet any time soon, unless they get a puppy of course!

Anyway must dash now and get on with some things, just thought I’d try and get to grips with this new format. As it is the new screen layouts are not working on my pc so I’m having to use my iPad,which is fine but it’s only got a small screen so trying to move around and see everything is rather annoying (mainly due to all the white space which takes up too much of the screen)

Nicky xx

 

 

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Hi all, and congrats all, I've been mega busy but will pop in tomorrow for a good catch up xxxx

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Hi everyone, another change to the site! Well at least they didn't lose us all this time. Carole happy birthday and happy anniversary. Did you go out? Lily xx

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Hi all yes I'm back after a whirlwind visit. Baby and mum are doing well it was lovely to be around them. Since my last post I've had my birthday and today is our 27th anniversary. We had a nice lunch out. Very chilly here, how about for you all?
All for now xxx
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Hi, lovely news aaah congratulations Carole. A sweet name. Hope mum and baby are doing well. Was she on time and how much did she weigh? I bet you can't wait to get over here to see them. Bear in mind our temperature just shot down to zero this morning and wrap up warm. Snow expected in some areas but unlikely down south apartr from a flurry if you look out at the ruight moment. Have a lovely few days love Lily xx

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Hi everyone
Just a quickie from me ..... to say I have a new granddaughter, born this morning. I'm so pleased, she looks so much like her big sister, who will find it hard as she's only 17 months old. I will give her name, Olivia Anna but will call her baby gd in future! Best of all I am doing a quick children visit Sat to Tues, as I need some grandchildren, and children hugs.

Fantastic news Nicky, I'm so pleased for you.

Love to all xxx
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Hi everyone. Nick that is the bloody best news I have heard for ages. Fantastic, well done, well deserved and I am so pleased for you. I know the jinx thing and I am like it myself as my witch powers only work for others. God bless whoever discovered fulvestrant too. You took such a big leap of faith with the heart op and liver surgery and really deserved this. 

Mum has been halucinating and has a big water infection, so with a bit of luck there is a reason for all of these weeks and she will improve. I keep telling myself this! I got referred to the hospital too, so no need to nag any more. I was good. Forced to see a different dr by a bad mouthed receptionist in a bad mood 'don't we all!! she said to me, when I asked nicely if I could see the same dr as asked to think about treatments. Or I could wait until mid Feb!! This doc seems to think might not be surgery but as I declined another hands on, she didn't have a lot to go on. Fab news Nick love Lily xxxx

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Sorry for the lack of communication from me, waiting for results can be a bit of a *ugger at times!  Although I wasnt stressing (too much!) its still there in the background and you don't want to say anything either positive or negative.  Anyway the results are in, and we can reveal (drum roll) that I'm still stable - hooray.  No liver mets are visible on the CT so the op and recovery from the op last year have all been worth it.  Buys me a bit more time, which is always a plus.  I'm staying on fulvestrant which is by far the easiest treatment I've had even though it means a double injection - one in each buttock - every 4 weeks.  So a big sigh of relief and carry on carrying on as us secondary ladies say.

Onto your posts.  Lily, it doesnt sound surprising that your Mum is reacting this way after how you have described her behaviour over the years.  What a shame she can't see all the hard work you do for her and stop thinking of herself so much.  She will really notice all you do when (if) you have your op and literally can't get to her for a few weeks.  Maybe it's better she gets on with it all now!  It's so sad she is like this, I'm assuming this wasn't always the case and was after your Dad died?  I think you do need to stick to your guns though and although you don't want to 'burden' your daughters I'm sure they will all be more than willing to listen and help you if you don't feel you want to share with your Mum. Poor you.

Carole, as always January is such a difficult month.  Not much going on and normally very dull weather.  I'm trying to get out more for walks, which took a bit of a backseat at the end of last year after my Dad died as I was always off to see my Mum and didn't have time for myself - which is important for all of us to do.  We've so far managed 2 pretty good walks, not too long as I realise I can't keep going without a break in the middle to rest my weary legs and hips.  Maybe force yourself to get out each day, although you probably do this already with the dogs.  Hope Mr P is back soon so you are not too lonely.  God only knows what Brexit will bring but I can understand your anxiety and the uncertainty of it all.  If only there could have been more give and take when negiotations were taking place as it will affect EU nationals living here as well as UK nationals living abroad, all of whom would like to know what's going to happen.

Lisa, how are you?  Busy, busy since going back to work I expect.  I hope you find an eating plan that works for you, that you can continue with whilst you are on your many holidays and nights out ha ha.  They're the difficult times arent they. At home you can just buy what you should be eating and not have any tempting things in the house.  Outside its a whole new world!

Enough from me. Happy January, I'm smiling at least

Nicky xx

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Hello, hope you had a nice weekend.Carole after seeing Greece and even Algeria with snow, I think damp and cold might be the best you can hope for. So many avalanche warnings for skiers, it looks a dangerous time to visit some parts. Its not particularly cold here for January. In fact I haven't even looked for a scarf (sorry Lisa, you might be a touch colder) yet. Some nippy mornings thta's all so far. Plenty of time yet of course. Yes it must be a worry about Brexit. I have had several people tell me they are taking up citizenship where they live, so I think a lot of people have concerns. The unknown is often more worrying than when you actually know what you are dealing with. That links with how I am feeling about this new condition so I will be going to the dr. I have had quite a lot of stabs and odd feelings to make me feel that I could have an emergency. That's probably a little dramatic but I think my slight chest infection with a deep cough has not done me any favours. I had a temperature for a few days and felt under the weather and woke up ticking like a little watch being wound up, but seems to be almost over today. I have a small nag about my knowledge that our treatments increase risk of other conditions so ought to get it checked. probably be a long wait anyway but hoping to be reassured before planning a holiday. My current hope is that its minor and easily fixed, just needing me to be brave and go. So I will. Carol your description of the less she does, the worse she gets accurately describes my situation. I ahve had to grow a thicker skin or I would be crying after most visits. I hate to worry my girls, so mum would be the person I go to for a little tlc and to boost me to do things. Not easy when theperson closes their eyes so they don't have to see you and hangs up on you. Or the new thiung, not answering at all leaving me worried. I did nothing and didn't go over. Later got a call from one of my girls who she had told she had really wanted to see me but I didn't go. Its a game I'm not willing to play. Today she demanded I went over and did everything because she'd told the carer to pack and leave. I said I can't come, bang went the phone. Carer didn't know anything about it when I rang her but they had a small row about trying to get to the commode safely. She also told me today she could no longer ring anyone and pretended she could not open her inhaler (which she did not need). Craol I obviously need you to sort mine out too. Do you think they are related??? You are spot on with your observations, sadly for both of us. Nicky hope your mum continues to make more effort than ours are. Have you managed to keep away from the nasty colds that are around? With a toddler around, you often come in contact with more bugs. Have you news of your scan, that is one thing that has been on my mind. Please let me know when you can, fingers crossed as always for continuing stability.

Lisa how are you feeling now? Have youshaken off your cold yet? Mine has no runny nosejuyst lower in the throat. I need some encouragement on diet so tell me your triumphs to inspire me to start. You always do so well over the first month and I think maybe realising and planning for that slower progress in month 2 might help you get to where you want. Good luck. BTW Carol latest news apparently is that its healthy to have a high carb diet with lots of fibre. They just keep changing theri mind don't they. Love Lily xx 

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Morning, it's damp, cold and very grey here.  What is it like for you?   I really hate these type of days so roll on some sunshine.  Nothing much new this side of the water, except my Brexit worries continue as it's impossible to get an appointment with our prefecture (like council office), I am not alone as I belong to a group who discuss their issues.

 

Lily sorry that your mum is causing problems, I think it's power for the course unfortunately. We found with our Mum that the less she actually did and had everyone doing everything for her, the less she wanted to do so in the end became completely dependent on others (or lazy!). Even simple things like changing channels on her TV "she couldn't work it out" so gave up until someone did it for her. We had, and still have, a problem with knowing what was true or untrue and made up for the hell of it to cause us more distress.   This hasn't changed even in her nursing home.  Is your Mum eating ok?   This is still a big problem with our Mum, she complains nothing is cooked how she likes it so won't eat.  She seems to have no hunger - but I think this is often a problem linked to dementia. Hope it gets better for your peace of mind.

 

Lisa sounds like you've been hit by a winter virus, I always found breathing steamy water quite good, especially with some tiger balm or vicks in the water. I decided to do low carb as I've heard a lot of good things about it.   The idea is that you eat very few carbs but more meat, protein and fat.   The fat and protein is meant to keep hunger away and fill you up longer.   I've actually gained a kilo in the last week so it is obviously not working for me.

 

Nicky how are you doing, any news yet on results? 

 

Well that is it for now, keep warm and bug free XXXXX

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Hi everyone, sounds like we all enjoyed Christmas and the New Year celebrations. Craol you have reminded me about my need to see Barcelona, it looks incredible. The GP sounds so glam and I am surprised as I've asked Victor loads of times about going but he says he doesn't want to, otherwise I might have seen you there one day. I think he's just lazy about the effort to arrange it. You know I always have to get a plan to get him on holiday. No doubt he will be using my problem as a reason to not do anything, so this camel might need to het her head out the sand, to save future holidays!!! Carol my daughter uses a lot of people for her animals and when you find a good one its such a relief to be able to relax when away. 

Nicky please let  me know when you get your latest results, you know I like to keep up with you. I will have fingers crossed as always but I think you probably have a good idea from how you feel. Such a lovely peaceful spell for you, long may it last. Your visits over the festive season sounded lovely and I will get to see the LOndon fireworks one day but I gather its incredibly busy if you want to be in a prime spot. We also have a lack of trains after about 11pm so rubbish to come back after an event. 

Lisa, sorry you have a bug and hope it passes soon, take multi vitamins and anything else that helps you get through. I did laugh when you said you were cutting back and then listed a line of events. Ha ha don't ever change! Mum is back now and causing me a lot of grief as she thinks she is lady muck, just lying down and doing absolutely nothing to help herself or get her independence back. Im worn out from trying to talk her round as she is as stubborn as a mule, so it will be her own fault if she gives up a lovely independent house and life for a wheelchair and nappies. So frustrating as she can walk a little and needs to build up gradually. Her carer is nice but just turns the heating up to maximum (seriously over 30 C and the electric heaters on too) and lies on her bed on her phone grrrrr. No idea which one I need to get tough with, seeing as mum can be a master manipulator at times and no idea what the truth is. I had a good talk to both of them and had to do exactly the same, next day after.Sending my straight talking brother in to sort them out.

Well better buzz off as struggling to get up early in the morning after a long holiday. Are you the same LIsa? Love Lily xxx

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Hi all, hope everyone has had a nice weekend xx

 

ive been hit with sinusnpain and a saw dust throat and large glands, worst of it is I'm sooo tired, never been so tired so glad it was a quick 2 day working week, back to full on tomorrow and Lily it might be your first day back 😕.  I've not much planned this year as have some money issues so need to stop enjoying myself until I get sorted, that's single house owner life for you lol. End March 4 nights for friends hen party in Tenerife, can't say no as I'm maid of honour but I did manange to get it for under £200 and it's Easter hols so good hunting , then Florida in May Day after friends wedding. Then big save up for parents golden wedding and 70th birthdays ....

 

Carole, how come you are on low carb diet? I struggle without carbs i get headaches whenever I try xx

 

Lily, glad you've told family and feel free to express your fears here, it's hard when been op free for so long and a choice thing (in a way).

 

Nicky, your New Year's Eve sound perfect, how lovely. Well fingers crossed for results and look forward to hearing your holiday plans 👍👍.

 

well watched dancing on ice so off for a cuppa before bed, no wine for me, gained 10lb in 3 weeks as been away and Xmas and went to town, so liver and guts getting a wee rest and hopefully can reverse any damage or this bridesmaid dress is going to be let out, seen as I ordered a size smaller in my madjesty 😤😤

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Hi and HAPPY NEW YEAR dear Buddies and thank you all for being here for me in 2018, long may our thread continue.

 

We had a very quiet, but lovely Christmas Day, Mr P, YD and myself plus the 2 pups.  We had video chats with the children in UK, and grandchildren (has to make do).  Then a very quiet NY, none of us was awake at French midnight.   The fireworks looked amazing and watched via TV.

 

Yesterday was Aero's first birthday, he didn't have a party lol but was wished a nice day and both pups had a special dinner!

 

YD flew to Paris early yesterday morning from Toulouse, which is why we were all in bed before midnight. I was a bit worried about her going to Paris as there have been lots of demonstrations recently, however, she got there ok and is staying with a friend on the outskirts. Then back here for the weekend before going back to work next Monday.  She was on ABs over Christmas for having bronchitis. The joys of working with young children she seems to have been hit by lots of germs, and headlice Smiley Frustrated

 

Nicky your NY and Christmas sounded lovely, especially for you seeing GS and how lovely to be there to see the fireworks, well some of them at least.   Yes you're right, Brexit is a worry although France's interior Minister has said Brits will keep their rights they have a present, as long as it's the same for French expats in UK.   We do have to apply for a card, like a residents card and these are dealt with by each department's "council" equivalent.   The problem we have is our department is not giving out appointments. I'm adopting a wait and see attitude as I'm sure after Brexit - deal or no deal - things will become clearer. I wish you good results when you get them, you are amazing and keep active so I'm sure your scans will be good.

 

Lily thank you for putting yourself first for a change.   Don't be scared about the operation and don't worry about them poking around with your bits, you'll be asleep so won't know ha ha.  I think a live in carer for your Mum is a good idea, at least for a few weeks and perhaps it's a good idea when you have your op too. Not for you but your Mum, so whilst you are recovering you know your Mum is being cared for? What do you think about Nicky's suggestion of a care home?

 

Lisa how are you now has your cough gone? I saw that you've over indulged and I am sure you haven't gained as much weight as you think.   I'm getting bored with my low carb diet, some of it is good like eating lots of veg but I can't find a good low carb alternative to bread.   I've tried the minute muffins but without sugar they're not great. I tried low carb pancakes the other day, YUK.

 

I joined a pet sitting/house sitting site because we need someone in May when we go to the Barcelona GP.  I made a request on saturday lunchtime and by saturday evening I had already had 3 requests.   Today I video chatted with someone, it's such a difficult decision though to pick the right person for 2 energetic dogs that even WE find a bit tough to manage at times.

 

Apart from that, no other news really, it's just too quiet here at the moment Smiley Very Happy Love to all Carole x