07-11-2018 08:20 PM - edited 07-11-2018 08:36 PM
I'm relieved to hear your manager is fully aware of your breast cancer and treatment, etc. and witnessed the laughing. It sounds like she is taking the necessary steps to help you-you're not super sensitive. I'm disgusted that your colleague treated you that way given they are aware of your illness.
Your reactions are perfectly normal for someone who was so competent at their job and who's brain (for good reason) is letting them down. Hopefully, once you are back at work consistently, and for some time you will gain your confidence back and show them why they hired you in the first place. And once you've been back for a while, your brain will start behaving. Sometimes we just need to re-wire ourselves.
07-11-2018 08:19 PM
Jobey, my turn in January for the big birthday too! My "kids" are 21 and 22. I now look forward to hitting another birthday, no longer worried about loss of youth, more concerned about staying alive and grateful to see another birthday. xx
07-11-2018 08:17 PM
Alibobs, I agree with Marla, this is awful and you should have a chat with your line manager. Why are people laughing and being so horrid after all you've been through. xx
07-11-2018 08:13 PM
07-11-2018 08:03 PM
It broke my heart reading about how awful this person was to you at work for laughing in your face. Does your manager know about your BC and are *they* understanding? It may be sensible to tell your manager about the person who was awful to you today, and maybe even take the initiative and say to that person "I know you must think I'm scatty but I've had a lot of medical treatment over the last year and my brain is not working as it was-please be patient with me-it would really help me out"-something to that effect. I honestly think that people are plain stupid. And they can be nasty in the workplace. It's hard to be assertive when you feel like crying but perhaps when you return from leave you can have that chat with the awful person or with your manager (and have your manager speak to some of the team)-I don't know what industry you work in but there is no reason they need to be so nasty.
Thinking of you and hoping you have a wonderful time away...
07-11-2018 08:00 PM
07-11-2018 07:39 PM
Glad you had a nice holiday. I feel for you regarding work. I am at the same point as you ( had my op a year next week) and am in two minds as to whether to go back to work. I fall into the age bracket where I will have to work until I'm 67 to receive my state pension. I'm 55 now. It's a big decision as to what to do. If I had been in your situation I too think I would have burst into tears. I can also understand about your concern regarding not hearing about your mammogram yet as neither have I and it's on my mind. I had a GP appoinment today as haven't been too good and discovered I have Shingles on my scalp. More awful SE's apparently-great!! It seems to be one thing after another with me.
Try to have a nice week off next week and forget about it. Easier said than done I know.
07-11-2018 06:35 PM
06-11-2018 09:54 PM
Honestly I am didnt intend to do as much yesterday but it was lovely and an easy stroll, felt soooo good to be outside. We are only doing a very short walk tomorrow, weather permitting and then going for lunch. I have a couple of "dates" lined up over the coming weeks with my girlfriends, which is giving me something to look forward to. It will be interesting going out for dinner at night to see how long I can stay aware for xxx
06-11-2018 09:34 PM
Jo, I always thought you was a young mum and the pic was you and your baby! Didnt realise you're a gran. Well done. Yes I too am grateful for everything I experience now. My daughter graduated in the summer and I felt like one of those emotional mothers because it was a really big deal to still be here. x
Well done ladybowler. As Jo said, little and often...... x
Thanks to both of you for your support ever since I first came on here in a bit of a flap!
06-11-2018 08:53 PM
I am 4 weeks post op today, yay. I am getting better and stronger every day, although might have overdone it a little yesterday as I went for a walk with my friend, did 2600 steps but I didnt half sleep last night, did 6 straight hours then up for a wee, back to bed and slept for another 2, that is the most I have done at one time since my op. xxx
06-11-2018 08:47 PM
Thanks Jo, in some ways it gets easier. I have a consultation on Friday regarding recon (I was on delayed due to inflammatory factor and large diffuse tumour) but I'm just glad to be aliiiiiiiive! xx