Hi Mai-I just wanted to say hi and say I hope you are doing well. I unintentionally dropped off a thread or two and have found myself joining threads I don't belong to! .
Alibobs how disgusting of your colleague to treat you like that, how dare she! You have every right to be treated with respect at work , I know it's so hard to fight back when you are so upset but don't allow anyone to treat you like that, poke her in the eye from me when you see her next!! 😡
I'm relieved to hear your manager is fully aware of your breast cancer and treatment, etc. and witnessed the laughing. It sounds like she is taking the necessary steps to help you-you're not super sensitive. I'm disgusted that your colleague treated you that way given they are aware of your illness.
Your reactions are perfectly normal for someone who was so competent at their job and who's brain (for good reason) is letting them down. Hopefully, once you are back at work consistently, and for some time you will gain your confidence back and show them why they hired you in the first place. And once you've been back for a while, your brain will start behaving. Sometimes we just need to re-wire ourselves.
Jobey, my turn in January for the big birthday too! My "kids" are 21 and 22. I now look forward to hitting another birthday, no longer worried about loss of youth, more concerned about staying alive and grateful to see another birthday. xx
Alibobs, I agree with Marla, this is awful and you should have a chat with your line manager. Why are people laughing and being so horrid after all you've been through. xx
It broke my heart reading about how awful this person was to you at work for laughing in your face. Does your manager know about your BC and are *they* understanding? It may be sensible to tell your manager about the person who was awful to you today, and maybe even take the initiative and say to that person "I know you must think I'm scatty but I've had a lot of medical treatment over the last year and my brain is not working as it was-please be patient with me-it would really help me out"-something to that effect. I honestly think that people are plain stupid. And they can be nasty in the workplace. It's hard to be assertive when you feel like crying but perhaps when you return from leave you can have that chat with the awful person or with your manager (and have your manager speak to some of the team)-I don't know what industry you work in but there is no reason they need to be so nasty.
Thinking of you and hoping you have a wonderful time away...
Glad you had a nice holiday. I feel for you regarding work. I am at the same point as you ( had my op a year next week) and am in two minds as to whether to go back to work. I fall into the age bracket where I will have to work until I'm 67 to receive my state pension. I'm 55 now. It's a big decision as to what to do. If I had been in your situation I too think I would have burst into tears. I can also understand about your concern regarding not hearing about your mammogram yet as neither have I and it's on my mind. I had a GP appoinment today as haven't been too good and discovered I have Shingles on my scalp. More awful SE's apparently-great!! It seems to be one thing after another with me.
Try to have a nice week off next week and forget about it. Easier said than done I know.
Bless you Mai! I was a youngish mum many years ago, my boys are 27 and 29 now and I turned 50 this year 🙈Xx
Honestly I am didnt intend to do as much yesterday but it was lovely and an easy stroll, felt soooo good to be outside. We are only doing a very short walk tomorrow, weather permitting and then going for lunch. I have a couple of "dates" lined up over the coming weeks with my girlfriends, which is giving me something to look forward to. It will be interesting going out for dinner at night to see how long I can stay aware for xxx
Jo, I always thought you was a young mum and the pic was you and your baby! Didnt realise you're a gran. Well done. Yes I too am grateful for everything I experience now. My daughter graduated in the summer and I felt like one of those emotional mothers because it was a really big deal to still be here. x
Well done ladybowler. As Jo said, little and often...... x
Thanks to both of you for your support ever since I first came on here in a bit of a flap!
Yes that's my overriding emotion too, have seen both sons marry and welcomed our first grandchild since my diagnosis and I'm so very thankful for this Xx
I am 4 weeks post op today, yay. I am getting better and stronger every day, although might have overdone it a little yesterday as I went for a walk with my friend, did 2600 steps but I didnt half sleep last night, did 6 straight hours then up for a wee, back to bed and slept for another 2, that is the most I have done at one time since my op. xxx
Thanks Jo, in some ways it gets easier. I have a consultation on Friday regarding recon (I was on delayed due to inflammatory factor and large diffuse tumour) but I'm just glad to be aliiiiiiiive! xx
Thanks Ladies, I hope you are both doing well too. You must be at least high speed shuffling by now ladybowler? x
Getting that first year under your belt Mai is a huge milestone and does wonders for your confidence going forwards 💪 Jo Xx
Hiya, I just wanted to share that I am officially one year NED today. A year since *the* surgery. I am waiting for my annual mammogram results now. Pessimism is always an option as you well know so trying to just not think about it! xx
Shi, how about a bit of Time Warp? ...as long as time doesnt warp us back to chemo? xxx
You got it in one but I am being really good. The nurse was very pleased with the way the scar is healing and reckons after Monday I should be well healed so fingers crossed and I will not have to go again after that xx
Ladybowler, thats brilliant news. You can relax and look forward to a relaxing Christmas break now. Hope you are healing well. Slower than you'd like, I expect.... xxx
Thank you darling, it is just the not doing hardly anything that is getting to me, not used to doing nothing and I am getting a numb bum!! Yep I know bringing the tone down again
Once the area of the scar that is taking time to heal is sorted I am sure I will be a lot better, it is pain going every two days to get it dressed but they were pleased on Monday the way that it was going so fingers crossed it is looking good this evening when I have to go again.
Wanted to share my good news with you, the results came back as a benign cyst, so onwards and upwards to recovery frommy hysterectomy.
Thank you for your wonderful support
Oh that is wonderful news and I wish you both all the very best for the future. I remember when I moved in with my partner Colin, that was 18 years ago and we are still together
I am taking each day as it comes, I honestly did not realise despite people telling me, just how invasive it is and the extent of the scar, I had a bikini line op, but also I can not believe how well I am doing only two weeks after the op, but I am not going to push myself too far, there is always next week to start doing a bit more.
Oh yes, I know my priorities changed dramatically post bc diagnosis, the things that used to matter and stress me out just seem so insignificant now.
Ah so glad to hear things are progressing positively. I think we sometimes underestimate the extent of the surgery and treatment we are having - I certainly did - so it sounds like you are doing really well.
I am making the most of life, living in the moment and just remembering how different things were one year ago. Cancer certainly changes your attitude to life doesn’t it? I have very exciting times ahead - my partner of 5 months and I have decided to move in together - so life is definitely on the up. God willing it continues.
Much love to all the ladies on this message stream.
Not too bad at all darling. I am now 2 weeks post op, had my staples out just over a week ago, got a slight problem with a tiny bit of the scar not healing but the nurses are sorting that out and are pleased with the way it is going, just trust me to have that, mind you I have that problem when I cut myself sometimes it takes a while to heal.
Cant believe how well I feel considering the surgery that I had. Walking around well, eating well!! am now a third of the way through to my first milestone
How are you doing? xx
Thank you so much, oh I am taking it easy, I have not done anything today as I have been feeling very tired.
Cant wait until I can say I am 12 months post my hysterectomy. Well done you lady lovely to hear and so reassuring xxx
Speedy recovery Helena - take it easy 💐, enjoy Cuba Alibobs ⛱ very jealous 😊. I love that we are all cracking on with life in the Club 💃🏖🌊✈️🎉
A quick hello to everyone from me - especially to you Helena.
It is one year ago today that I had my last op - ovary removal - and I cannot quite believe a year has gone by. Lots of living done since then, which I am very proud of. God willing it will continue.
Love to all.
Just popped in to say hello. Well 5 days post my hysterectomy had my staples out today, not feeling too bad but it has been a tiring day so resting up. I came out of hospital on Thursday evening, was told I could go home at 8.30am that morning but by the time I was finally discharged it was 4pm so a frustrating day.
Hope you are all well xx