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Club Tropicana - Pull Up A Chair and Chill

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Mishy18 that is my absolute favourite Xmas movie too!!!💖💖
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Well I've just had my first annual mammo!! Hope you have managed too Juliewulie!! Wasn't too bad although I did have to spell out to the radiographer that yes 8 have has one before!!!! Anyway I expressed my concern that it may be painful due yo scar tissue etc and she got a colleague in to hell her do it manually. She did manage to squeeze my collar bone to death though and I have a lovely red mark there to show for it!! Waiting for results could be up to 4 weeks so just have to get on with stuff in the meantime and try not to fret!! Hope everyone is ok 💖💖
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Haven’t done the tree yet but my Christmas CDs came out of the cupboard last weekend. My (relatively new) other half looked pretty appalled! We are merging two houses, so we have two lots of Christmas decorations. Suffice to say, I think the house will be looking very festive.

 

Wishing you all a happy weekend.

xxx

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Yeah chucking it doon in the toon too 🌧️🌧️🌧️ more like tropical storm than club tropicana
Any of you ladies got your tree up yet? Apart from Shi 🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄🎄 👍 i still haven't got all my decs bought im still in a quandary as to whether to ha a real one or not the look and smell gorgeous but im worried if it goes up too soon it will peg it before Christmas day and incase my dog drinks the water !!!!!
Need some cinnamon sticks and oranges im going all rustic this year!!! I hope it looks nice!!!! 🎄
Christmas hasn't officially arrived at ours unless we watch National lampoon's Christmas Vacation its a bit of a tradition in ours its hilarious.. They don't make films like that anymore 😂😂😂😂😂😂https://media.giphy.com/media/W4Yo3cN6V0Nhe/giphy.gif
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rosie

 

Same here it has been pouring down and is very windy since the early hours, thought we had had all we were supposed to get yesterday, they are even forcasting thunder as well, very weird.

 

xxx

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It’s not feeling very ‘tropicana’ this morning. The rain is pouring down and the wind is blowing. Time to hunker down with a coffee I think.

 

Just a quick note to say hello to everyone. Christmas is approaching with alarming speed and I am hoping it will be a much happier Christmas this year versus last year. I have decided to do my bit this year and to that end, I am volunteering in my local Tesco on Saturday to encourage customers to buy an extra item for the local food bank. My way of giving a little something back.

 

Happy Thursdays to all.

xxx 

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Thanks spider woman that s sensible and helpful

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Serenity, I would say listen to your body,  when it says no then it means no. I had lumpectomy and sentinel   node biopsy in Jan (quite minor in comparison to what some ladies have on here) and it’s taken me until now to feel totally up for life, even now if I have an overly busy day then I can get a little sore, day by day it gets easier 

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Hi ladybowler

 

i know I need to push myself to exercise but just feel tired most of the time. It’s been just 3 weeks since right side  WLE and 1x snlb and 1 xaux node operation  and meeting oncologist next Monday to plan 15 radiology sessions in December. I do usually play indoor bowls  but apart from that do little else though still work P/t . Do you have any idea when I can start to play bowls again. ( am right handed  and have aches in arm and some pins needles in hand I hope that wears off soon with the exercises) 

 

serenty 18

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Happy belated birthday spiderwoman 🎂🎂 and we’ll done with the running 👍👍👍Rosie, aren’t you tempted to just M&S it? They have a right good selection or a booths if you have one of those near you again right good selection 😋😋😋 we’ve got to get the tinsel and the 🎄up soon in club Tropicana 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻🕺🕺🕺💃🏻💃🏻Girls, time to ✨✨✨✨💕💕✨✨✨Shi xx
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Belated happy birthday from me too!

xxx 

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Spiderwoman

 

Belated happy birthday to you, sounds like you were totally spoiled xxx

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Hi Ladies, so fab that you are all doing well. Busy week for me as it was my birthday so lots of treats and fun. Have started running again so downloaded the Couch to 5k App as starting from zero fitness, it’s hard work though 🏃‍♀️

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Shi

 

I promise I am but also need to push myself a bit as well.  I can not believe that it will be 6 weeks on Tuesday since I had my op, I remember thinking how on earth I was going to get through it and how i would cope, well I have and I did, I am amazed how resilient our bodies can be, as long as we listen to them.  Girls like everything we have been through there is a bright shining light at the end of that tunnel

 

 

xxxx

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🤣😂🤣😂🤣mishy 😘😘😘is forgotten how 😷😷😷🧣🧣🧣🧣we all were last year, we had a right arsenal in our handbags didn’t we 🤣😂🤣😂🤣I even used to carry my bum cream and plastic gloves and baby bitty wipes everywhere too 🤣😂😘😂🤣😂that Christmas market sound divine, enjoy yourself and don’t think about op mishy, you just have fun 🤪🤪🤪 ladybowler that’s great youvechad a lovely day out, please rest up tho, you are still mending 👭👭hi juliewulie and Alibobs 😘😘spideewoman, saw a lovely spider handbag in tk maxx today and thought of you, hope you are well k 😁tune on the jukebox ‘golden’ by kylie minogue 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻🕺🕺🕺💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻😁😁😁💕💕💕✨✨✨Shi xx
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Mishy

 

Hiya, bowls outdoor do not start until April next year, the season is 6 months long, so I have plenty of time to get fully back up to strength.  It will be interesting to see what difference this makes to my bowling in terms of bending and the discomfort I used to be in at the start of the season with my hip, which I had never put down to what was going on inside me with my womb, but now I wonder if it was as the discomfort was getting more and now it has completely gone.

 

Oh your weekend sounds wonderful and suh a difference from last year xx  My friend took me out today to a garden centre and a craft centre, we had breakfast and shopped til we dropped.  I am knackered tonight but it is all about building up my strength.

 

 

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Ah thank you Mishy18 - we are planning a family Christmas (he has three grown up sons), so I will be in my element doing turkey and 52 veg for lunch.

 

Still cannot believe the difference one year has made and I am sooooo grateful to be in the position I am now in.

 

Love to all.

xxx

 

P.S. Still making chutney .....

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Hi ladies glad to hear everyone is getting along just fine Helena glad you are recovered from your op how long is it till you get back to your bowling not too long i hope
Shi i am going to the Christmas Village in Newcastle this weekend it looks fab, a bavarain indoor beer garden complete with an open roaring fire, oompah band,loads of lovely food with a huge Christmas tree in the centre of village which also has a grotto, ice rink, (no skating for me 😨) lots of craft and Christmas stalls to enjoy as well Newcastle has certainly pulled the stops out this year as we have a huge Christmas market too in city centre with local and international stsll holders again lots of food chocolate and festive gifts hitting that this Wed although im sure i will be going more than once looking forward to Christmas this yeae even though i have my op looming its not spoiled by chemo and radiotherapy, this time and am relishing being able to shop around people without my scarf round my face 😂😂😂😂 theives oil on my hanky and boots first defense up my nose 😂😂😂
I do need people to carry the bags though 🎁🎅🎄
Rosie i bet you are looking forward to Christmas with your new partner how lovely 💖
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Hi Alibobs ,Glad you eventually got your appoinment. You wouldn't think it would be so hard. I had a call from a friend this week who had her op in December last year and had  her mammogram begining of November. I admit she had her op in a different hospital to me.Let's hope we get our results pretty soon. The last thing I want is to worry over those for ages.

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Hi Juliewulie. Just to let you know after 6!! Phone calls and being passed from pillow to post I finally got an appointment date too , 30th November the same as You!!!! 💖💖💖
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rosietd

 

Hello sounds like you have had a busy day and well done you celebrate how far you have com., A friend of mine always includes a jar of chutney in my xmas present, I love homemade presents. 

 

Thank you for your lovely thoughts, hard to believe that it is 5 weeks tomorrow since my op, I honestly do not know where the time has gone

 

xx

 

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Just a quick note from me to say hello - I always keep an eye on this thread. 

 

Helena - sounds like you are making good progress. Well done you.

 

i have spent today making a LOT of chutney. No prizes for guessing what my stocking filler gifts will be this year. Such a difference to this time last year - I am very grateful and making the very most of it.

 

Love to all.

xxx

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Juiewulie

 

Thats good news and lovely that she is going to be pro active and chase up ther esults afterwards xxx

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Hi Helena and Alibobs
I contacted my BCN today and she's chased my mammogram for me. I was on the list and not forgotten. It's on 30th November. She even told me to contact her after a few days and she'd chase up the result for me.
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No. I haven’t had a bone scan yet. I’m not too concernedSmiley Happy. Will have review with oncologist in the next month or so. xxx
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So pleased for you Helena. You've come on leaps and bounds. Well done you.

I have to speak to my Oncologists Secretary on Monday anyway so will mention it to her. 

Thanks for your advice.

Xx

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Juliewulie

 

In view of Alibobs experience I think I would ring sooner rather than later.

 

Doing even better in that my scar has finally completely healed so no more nurse apts and I can finally have a shower now instead of the top and tailing I have had to do for the past three and a half weeks xxx

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Alibobs

 

Oh for god sake the sheer incompetence and it is totally unacceptable that you have to follow this up yourself, thank goodness you checked.  Well make sure you insist on being seen asap and that they do not try to fob you off that there is nothing availabe, it is their mistake.

 

xxxx

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Marla, are they putting you on zoledronic acid too?  This usually goes with aromatase inhibitors to reduce the risk of osteoperosis and bone mets. x

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Alibobs and Juliewulie, 

 

I couldn't agree with you more. Whenever I encounter anyone in a service/care industry, the first question I ask myself is "would I have you work for *me"? Nine times out of ten the answer is no. 

 

I, too, pride myself on my five star service to my clients....responding to enquiries promptly, spending time with them (they pay for 50 minutes-I see them for 50 or longer)-I don't cut sessions short which is what I've experienced in the BC arena.  

 

As soon as you walk through the "private" sector door in BC care, it seems they want to get as many patients through the door as possible; I never know how long my appointments are supposed to me but by god I do know how much my insurance co. is being charged. And I also know that my premiums will sky rocket next year.

 

I pride myself on working in the private sector and seeing *fewer* clients than I did on the NHS-this allows me to provide a quality service and maintain a work-life balance. As long as I earn enough to pay my bills I'm happy. I never set out to save the world or own a Ferrari. Smiley Very Happy

 

I've seen things from both sides now that I am a patient in the private sector and I must say-I do things so differently and I'm very proud of how I run my business. Good god. It's called Ethics. 

xxx

 

 

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Hi Mai-thanks for the link (I'm entertaining my father this week so may only have a chance to read once he's left). It sounds like we have very similar presentations (I remembered this from when I first read one of your messages). As my consultant keeps saying, lobular cancers are "interesting". Mine is ductal but it appears as lobular...here there and everywhere which is why we won't know what surgery I will need until we know *how* it has shrunk. It *will* shrink, but we don't know *how*.  

 

My Onctotype Dx test score was 1 so chemo was never going to be part of my treatment plan; (a score of 25 and over suggests chemo and anything under suggests the risks might outweigh the benefits). My consultant assured me that a score of 1 is a good thing, so I'm not too worried about that. I'm aware I am simplifying things but it is my understanding that Letrozole does to Estrogen + tumours, what chemo does to non-Estrogen + tumours so I'm really not worried at all. We'll know more in a few months, if not a years' time. It does take time to shrink the cancer. I'm just trying to get my life back on track-a lot has been "undone" and I now need to rewind the clock to pre-August. Right now, it's a "wait and see" and "do nothing other than take Letrozole" approach so I'm very happy with the plan for now.

 

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Thanks Alibobs
I agree I should ring just in case. It doesn't surprise me in the least the way you've been treated. I'm finding people are not capable of doing anything there days. I like you stress about work and make sure I do the best of my ability. We are in the minority it seems.
Xx
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Marla, that sound like a good plan and you seem much less anxious now.  Hormone positive tumours don't have a high response rate to chemo, mine only had a partial response after 8 rounds so I think trying the Letrozole could be a revolutionary move for hormone positive people.  Mine was scattered (diffuse) too and was primarily ductal with some lobular mixed so I had grown quite a magnificent masterpiece with an equal and opposing medical challenge.  We all grow a different masterpiece and the job of decoding what we have created isn't as clear cut as we'd like to think.  However, none of us intended to grow a tumour and I agree that the upheaval it causes for us is quite disturbing and we want everyone to understand that we have lost control of the fundamentals in our lives.   We're told we're ill and yet, suddenly we now have to work even harder to stay alive and not sink financially.   Like you, I have never been a person to take of much sick leave, in fact, I've never really suffered ill health until *this*.  I hope your Letrozole works well for you.  I still had to have the dreaded mx and I've now started consulation discussions on recon.  Keep us posted on how you're doing. In the meantime, this is a lovely read:  https://anticancerclub.com/inspiring-stories-from-cancer-survivors/dear-every-cancer-patient-ever-to... xx

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Well ladies I took Helena's advice and rang the breast cancer department to ask about my first annual check up as it's a year since my operation. Guess what I'm not on the system!!!!!! Unbelievable!!! It was about 3 month ago that some one there assured me I was and to wait did the appointment!!! So when I explained this today on the phone the very nice but rather dim sounding advisor told me yes, I was on there for the normal 3 yearly checks like everyone bug not for an annual follow up!! She then said oh yes you were referred to us in 2017! No shiz Sherlock that's when I had cancer!!! Can't believe the incompetence of people theses days! I stress about doing my job correctly why bother? Any how I have to ring the breast secretary's on Monday to see what's happened. Good job I rang again isn't it! Juliewulie you mighg wish to do the same for peace of mind!!! Thanks for the heads up Helena😘😘😘
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Thanks Helena

Yes Shingles is not leasant especially with the meds as they have SE's too which are unpleasant.

I've met with Occ Health and they say I'm not fit for work between one thing and another so am considering leaving-bt it's not that easy.

last tme I spoke to my BCN was before Xmas last year and she said if I haven't heard about my mammogram by this Xmas to et her know so  think I'll give it a coupe of weeks and see if I hear anything.

Glad to hear you're feeling better afyer your op.

Julie x

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Hi Mai,

 

I'm really pleased to hear you are doing well. Yes, it is absolutely normal to get upset sometimes-the realization of the enormity of what you've been through...it hits us all at different stages of this process. But all in all you sound really well. 

 

I have actually decided (with the full support of my surgeon) to defer surgery and give Letrozole a chance to shrink my cancer (I'd love to say "tumour" but with lobular cancers it's not so much a tumour but "here, there & everywhere" from what I understand. If Letrozole shrinks it in the way we want it to, I may be able to be spared a mastectomy but to be honest, I do think it is unlikely given the nature of my cancer. Having said that, I am all for giving it a go if only to have more time to prepare for the surgery and have ample time off work, etc. 

 

There is no hurry whatsoever and my consultant assured me that I am safe and not putting myself in any risk by deferring surgery. Apparently Letrozole first stops the cancer from growing and then shrinks it. I've only been on it a month so we won't know anything for at least another two months but I am prepared to wait and just have it monitored via MRI's. I am in a very good place mentally re-my decision. I've now just got to get my life back on track because this has completely derailed me. I stopped work quite suddenly (as suddenly as one can as a psychotherapist) in order to attend my appointments (one of my team gave me a telling off and a lecture when I was unable to take the first appointment offered to me-I already had my own patient booked in) so I stopped working in order to make myself available 24/7 for my appointments.

 

That has probably been the most upsetting part of all of this-the fact that once you have a BC diagnosis...you are no longer treated as a human being with a career (I don't have kids) but a cancer patient (who doesn't have a life to live)-this has been *my* experience anyways. I don't usually operate this way, I don't take long periods of time off work so this has really been upsetting in so many ways. 

 

I am not rushing to get back to work full-time-I will return full-time in January. But at least I can feel confident that the next time they say "surgery" I will not kick in to "what date" mode, but rather *I* will be in control and *I* will be in charge.

 

The one thing I wish cancer teams understood is this: once you have a diagnosis of cancer, you are no longer in control of your health..."something" is happening to your body that can make you feel out of control, i.e., "I can't stop this from happening to me". So it is vitally important to help patients retain as much control in other parts of their life, but some teams do not see it that way. It's as if you have to surrender and be at their beck and call. The other thing I've learned about this process (again, just in my experience alone) is that we are all lumped into one group "BC patients". Yet Grade 1 is different to Grade 3 and the decisions one makes at Grade 1 are different to those made at Grade 3 or even Grade 2, and I wish it had been made more clear to me from the start that surgery is not urgent. I might not have disrupted my life in the way that I have (work is a bit part of my life and the nature of my job adds another layer to it)-I have lots of clients and lots of explaining to do re-my time off. I don't work with machines, I work with human beings. And I care about *them*. 

 

So, for me, the disruption to my life over the last 3 months (especially in light of the fact that I am now not having surgery)-is something I am not happy about, and the fact that I felt that one member of my team in particular had no compassion or understanding of the fact that I am still working and therefore can't always make the 1st appointment on offer....over and above the cancer diagnosis, hands down-these two aspects have been more upsetting for me.

 

All that said, I am doing well, given I do still have the cancer "in" me. This, for some reason, does not bother me. Knowing that the Letrozole is (hopefully) doing it's thing is enough for me to feel like I am in treatment, albeit it's hormone therapy and not surgery. Interestingly, my surgeon told me that for my type of cancer, the hormone therapy is more important than the surgery in "saving" me, i.e., surgery does not stop the cancer from growing; the hormone therapy does. 

 

I'll of course update on one of the threads when I have any news. For now, I'm just trying to get my life back on track. 

xxxx

 

    

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Hi Marla, I'm doing really well thanks.  I still get upset sometimes but that's to be expected I suppose given the lifechanging experience.  Where are you at now with your treatment, I saw you mentioned something about hormone therapy first on the diagnosed thread.  You are always welcome on this thread if you want to ask any questions or just have a chat. I bounced around all over the place in the early days.  I still move around a bit! xxx

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Juliewulie

 

Oh mate sorry to hear that you are struggling and having shingles to boot, that is not good, this is the trouble when our immune systems are compromised as a result of the treatment we have had, I really hope that it improves quickly for you.

 

I would suggest the same as I have with Alibobs, give your breast clinic a call and ask when your 1st year mammo is booked for xx

 

It is hard to go back to work after such a long time, but hopefully you will be on a phased return to work, has your employer arranged an occupational health referral for you so that they can ensure that they are doing everything they need to in relation to your health and wellbeing for returning.

 

Helena xxxx

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Alibobs

 

Oh darling I am only just catching up on your post.  I am so sorry and angry that you have had to put up with such ignorant and inappropriate behaviour from that person but glad to hear that your manager witnessed it and has been able to do something about it.  Please please do not let them affect you they are simply not worth your energy darling.

 

I would agree the anniversary is always a difficult one.  I would suggest that you ring your breast clinic and ask when you are to have your mammogram so that you have the comfort it is in place, and just in case they have missed you.  My hospitals policy was to do the first one 18 months post surgery and they sent the apt out 4 weeks before that date.

 

Thank you for your lovely thoughts, I am doing well and today I am wearing my normal clothes instead of the baggy pants and tops of the last 4 weeks.  Some bonus from it all is that I have lost 6lb in weight, crickey I might have to buy new clothes at this rate Smiley Happy Smiley Happy

 

Sending you loads of love and hugs

 

Helena xxx

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Alibobs 👭👭👭 please 💪💪💪💪lady ignore those pathetic articles that are passing themselves off as humans, they are clearly not, because real humans like us treat each other with love, kindness, respect and dignity. You have buckets of this and you are good at your job, it does take a bit of time to get back into the swing of it, don’t let them upset you, pray for them because they clearly need it. 👭👭👭just imagine they have a big long snot hanging out of their noses when they are talking to you, you’ll have a lovely crazy smile on your face at them and that will confuse them and if they ask what are you smiling at tell them at what a beautiful day it is, because let’s be right ever day is beautiful isn’t it 😁😁😁Mai you amazing friend 💃🏻💃🏻🕺🕺🕺💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻That calls for a dance bit of Ask by the smiths 💃🏻💃🏻🕺🕺🕺💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻On the jukebox ❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕✨✨✨✨Shi xx
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Actually Alibobs I think your manager should discipline the person in question and as your manager she is responsible for ensuring that you are treated fairly and with the respect you deserve in the work place you are covered by law in the discrimination act being a bc patient in recovery
It upsets me reading that you had to experience this kund of behaviour, me im fed up with people looking at me like i should be back at work.. oh if only i certainly wasn't expecting to be a Neuro patient in the same year as finishing my bc treatment and as i say i don't think people understand what a gruelling time from diagnosis treatment surgery etc it is be kund to yourself and forget about that idiot from work i hope they are ashamed of their behaviour 💖
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Alibobs pleased you had a lovely holiday but really feel for you re work all i can say is what a 💩 bag that person was i wish people would realise that we are still dealing with the aftermath of emotions after bc treatment and be a little understanding anyway anyone that had been off work for as long would struggle at first i hope you are feeling OK after it, its been so long for me now off work I'm worried about the future re working as i my spine isn't happening probably now till end Dec (haven't been able to return to work after bc because of this) my appointment with surgeon made me feel really fragile again just want to get it over with now !!
Cut yourself some slack Alibobs speak to your manager in confidence about that work colleague of yours and remember how strong you are 💪
Ladies hope you are looking forward to Christmas this year atm shopping is my new favourite pastime as ling as i have someone to carry the bags im fine 👍
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Hi Mai-I just wanted to say hi and say I hope you are doing well. I unintentionally dropped off a thread or two and have found myself joining threads I don't belong to! Smiley Embarassed.

xxxx

 

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Alibobs how disgusting of your colleague to treat you like that, how dare she! You have every right to be  treated with respect at work , I know it's so hard to fight back when you are so upset but don't allow anyone to treat you like that, poke her in the eye from me when you see her next!! 😡

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Hi Alibobs,

 

I'm relieved to hear your manager is fully aware of your breast cancer and treatment, etc. and witnessed the laughing. It sounds like she is taking the necessary steps to help you-you're not super sensitive. I'm disgusted that your colleague treated you that way given they are aware of your illness. Woman Frustrated

 

Your reactions are perfectly normal for someone who was so competent at their job and who's brain (for good reason) is letting them down. Hopefully, once you are back at work consistently, and for some time you will gain your confidence back and show them why they hired you in the first placeSmiley Happy. And once you've been back for a while, your brain will start behavingSmiley Happy. Sometimes we just need to re-wire ourselvesSmiley Happy

xxx

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Jobey, my turn in January for the big birthday too! My "kids" are 21 and 22.  I now look forward to hitting another birthday, no longer worried about loss of youth, more concerned about staying alive and grateful to see another birthday.  xx

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Alibobs, I agree with Marla, this is awful and you should have a chat with your line manager.  Why are people laughing and being so horrid after all you've been through.   xx

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Hi Marla thank you for your kind reply.💖💖. Yes my manager is fully aware of everything and she was sat behind me today when this occurred. All my team know I have been off sick with BC. I do not want them to treat me with kid gloves but a bit of respect and consideration would be nice! I had private words with my manager who has agreed to reshuffle the team and make sure I am sat with someone who will act as my sole point of reference when I go back. I guess that's all I can ask for really. Think I am super sensitive to everything just now. Thank you again for helping me feel better xxxx
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Re: Club Tropicana - Pull Up A Chair and Chill

Hi Alibobs,

 

It broke my heart reading about how awful this person was to you at work for laughing in your face. Does your manager know about your BC and are *they* understanding? It may be sensible to tell your manager about the person who was awful to you today, and maybe even take the initiative and say to that person "I know you must think I'm scatty but I've had a lot of medical treatment over the last year and my brain is not working as it was-please be patient with me-it would really help me out"-something to that effect. I honestly think that people are plain stupid. And they can be nasty in the workplace. It's hard to be assertive when you feel like crying but perhaps when you return from leave you can have that chat with the awful person or with your manager (and have your manager speak to some of the team)-I don't know what industry you work in but there is no reason they need to be so nasty.

 

Thinking of you and hoping you have a wonderful time away...

xxxx

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Re: Club Tropicana - Pull Up A Chair and Chill

Aww Juliewulie thanks so much for replying. I am 61 and have to work until I'm 66 too. It's worrying as I don't think I can stick it out that long but definitely need my wage!! Hoping things will calm down again when I go back. My manager promised me support on my return to work but apart from phased return that seems to be sadly lacking!! Sorry to hear about you having shingles. I've heard they are really painful you poor thing. Sending you gentle hugs 💖💖