I'm not quite understanding what you are asking. Your wording is a bit confusing.
Perhaps you could explain better
Big hugs Norberte. 3 hours holiday pay! pants schmants - that cant be right, surely you accumulate 28 days a year minimum? If doubts are raised about an ill health pension give me the nod and a posse of GODs will go sort 'em out.
You and your ld seem to be singlehandedly supporting Africa's cause. I'm sorry we couldn't just dole out the sun to them what wanted it (ie me in Cornwall) leaving cooler bright days for those who preferred that.
daughter has had 25 eggs harvested which is more than the average hen so she is chuffed. Onwards and upwards. I'm getting loads of support and feel quite privileged in this respect.
hallo all i've resurfaced. I had one of those towel thingies for getting changed on the beach - I think they come from the same drawer as the gloves on a string threaded through your duffle coat.
maybe a new flatter cossie will make it less likely you drown when you go swimming Norberte? Hag haven sounds like the place to be for GODs.
I was away in Corwall (St Ives) for the hot week wahey! Daughter has eggs harvested tomorrow and then chemo and radiotherapy start the week after so we are all crossed fingered. Work is unimpressive - I'm up to 5 hours a day next week so I hope it improves.
hugs to all
Hello lovelies, I'm back too, had a brief hol in Greece with two lovely friends who run a B&B in quite the most beautiful old greek farmhouse in a lovely village, where they are friends with all the older women in the village who think its great that there are no men in sight in their lives. PM me if you'd like the link for your own magic restful break.
Had a bit of a melt down about changing on the beach with MX and prosthesis etc.....we decided someone needs to run a course...probably at least degree level given the complexities... on breast management for those of us with various versions of different. First issue which prosthesis to take on hols, size of luggage, then how to minimise any strangers staring on the beach, what to wear to beach, how to carry other prosthesis in bag to beach without covering it in lotions or pricking it and watching it explode....etc etc
anyway I got over myself quite quickly and had a good time, but was reminded about how little even our close friends sometimes know of the boring daily issues facing us in our different breast cancer challenges.
love to all of you, hope you diddling along OK, N
I've not left you either! Just away on holiday in Somerset. Thinking about you all even if not posting.
Hoping holiday will do us both good, partner has been fantastic since my secondary dx last year(well she's always fantastic but has been doing EVERYTHING for me and has been extra brilliant!). Think we just need to recharge our batteries and Somerset has always been our spiritual home so ......
Take care, love to you all xxxx
Gosh Norberte I'm overcome. More to the point my little house is getting very excited by the prospect of being hoovered. I have very little carpet and tend to wave a cloth thingy on a stick thingy around. I think I've hoovered once this year.
Anyway .... thanks muchly! Big bag of gentle hugs for you too xx
Yes, sunshine in Sussex too!! Mind-you, am like you norberte, don't really do sun (that's why got awning!)but do like to see it.
Mmm, must get my CD's out .....
Julie, the sun just got used to your awning and got over its grumpy tantrum and is revisiting geordie land - phew!
Sitting at my desk smiling at your post Norberte - are you funny all day or just for us??
Yes yes yes Alison Moyet! Keep them coming and then I can go on spotify for anyone I don't know already..I always seem to be decades behind on music.
off to pick courgettes - why do they always all grow at once???
Think I'm guilty for the summer disappearing- had an awning installed on my new balcony ans sun not been around much since! Sorry!!
What about Alison Moyet?
Glad rads been ok - enjoy WOMAD!
Hi Lasses.....you know that online action site 38 degrees - we could post a petition on there asking for labbi siffre to be an honourary lesbian...does anyone else qualify -Amy W?
yeh I did fall off my shoes - working too much to be out dancing, and anyway they are my Breast Cancer shoes and I'm trying to move on...but if you insist I can give them a revisit!! This pic is me on hols in Norway
hope Womad brilliant Dawn,
where has the summer gone - its not in NE anyway,
I reckon moorcow has fallen off her shoes - that's why she's sitting down. Actually she doesn't talk about the shoe anymore - not when one refers to them as her 'dancing/pulling shoes' as i did earlier
going for an 'early' night now.
Hello you gals, loving all your song recs - especially your last two N. Keep them coming! 1980s dance music was me - and then of course tracy chapman and elvis costello ....and very wierdly "we are family" which I danced to at my CP party with my OH and gay nephew...ahhhhh!!
Just been down south cuddling the latest edition to the family, brill but so hard to remember not to pick him up and put on left hip, hold for bottle in left arm etc - it just isn't strong enough...
hope the rads episodes still OK Dawn, hope chemo bearable Sue,
just going to introduce a friend of mine to the main website now - shame she had to join it..
best as ever Nicola
Poo! just lost my message so will have to redo now.
Gloria and Because the night were played at every women's disco i went to for a number of years so I reckon Patti Smith is definitely allowed. Did every dyke wear large collarless shirts at that time or was that just in Yorkshire?
I vaguely remember Holly Near altho as I cant remember any of her music I'm not picking her for the desert island dykes discs.
Currently I like Grace Petrie's stuff - check her out
Norberte is your imagination better than your memory of lyrics?
Hi Norberte, yes I am on the June chemo thread, the comment I made was referring to another LGBT thread. Of course I have nothing against mingling with hetties, some of my best friends etc..
Can I have melissa etheridge and amy ray? And patti smith, OK she's not really gay but come on..(showing my age I guess!)
Dawn thanks, am doing OK, would accept more support if it was offered but mostly people seem to want to meet for lunch which is costing me a fortune! Must learn to say 'please come round and cook it for me'. x
I've had 2 radiotherapy blasts now. I need to somehow frame them as interludes or I'm going to be wishing my life away and the next thing you know I'll be back at work (and yes it will be a phased return but i'm not sure quite how long a phase they will buy).
Nicola, thanks to you i was ruminating on how one would play a singing & dancing wardrobe whilst being pinged by beams. I decide mirrors would work really well as part of the costume. I see you have a sensible avatar now - put your dancing/pulling shoes away hmm?
I bought Alex Parks first album (did she even release a second one?).I'm sure i had some Sweet Honey in the Rock music but it was so long ago that it was on cassette.
Hi Sue - I had 6 fec as well and finished 4 weeks ago. Be kind to yourself and accept support if the tiredness gets to you. before you know it you'll feel like an old hand at it and can wield advice to newbies willynilly!
Hi Sue, good to meet you and best of luck with the FEC. I did 6 FEC-T last spring/summer - in fact finished about 11 months ago. I got a couple of really good caps from suburban turban - altho not cheap, very stylish and I'm not a wig kind of a girl so just good for the chilly days when your head needs comfort/cover. Be good to yourself. Best thing my GP said to me when I was first diagnosed was -this will take a year to deal with - I couldn't belive it even tho I knew I had to have an op or two, chemo and then rads - but you know what- she was right for that range of treatments - I was fine by month 8/9/10 etc but just not my true self until now..
I sat atop the teachers' bus at London Pride. It was the day my hair decided to start coming out! Agree with you about the politics Norberte, but I thought it was great that the Union contingents led the London procession, a step forward methinks.
Oh and hello! Tried posting on another thread but it seems to be full of hetties, nice to have support and all but nice to meet you too. In recovery from 2nd round of 6 FEC.
got a tricky interview to do for work so thought I'd distract myself with popping on here!
lovely to be in touch N
s2s - my brain is fried too, I ran a group yesterday ( conflict resolution in the workplace), we put some "new habits" up on a flipchart which I promised to type up - and then promptly left on the wall in the venue, luckily I know the venue well, but hey, where is that brain...
re your rads - I think rads need as much attention and support as chemo for different reasons - my experience was that it was just very mentally draining and slowing physically tiring - the mentally draining bit being having to lie half naked on a bed everyday for ten mins - I'm pretty much an extrovert but it was still tricky, so don't let anyone tell you its a walk in the park; also it takes up so much of each day for so many days....hope you can find a way of dealing with it - I sang in my head (not allowed to really sing as it moved me around too much!!) The worst was when a cheryl cole song came on the radio which had been a song in the last LGBT panto (I had been in the panto as a singing wardrobe !) and the cole song was our last , everyone on stage, dance number ....SOOOO hard to keep still that day.
all the best from a very wet newcastle, N
Some of the lesbians have been up very late. This one went to bed but couldn't get to sleep so she has got up again before she wakes up OH.
nicola - give me the name of that "friend" and I'll sort her out with a non-violent slap aka sarcasm and pointing. I'm very impressed that you are at work 3 days a week. I'm going to have to go back to work at the end of August and the thought of it gives me the eeby-jeebies as i've lost the plot.I read my work emails and don't retain any of the info.
pride here is later but I'll probably make an appearance if only for old times and to meet friends.
Norberte - doncha know there's a recession on - three is just greedy; kd, horse or lea.
I'm getting a bit iffy about the my radiotherapy which starts on Wednesday. i know its supposed to be a 'walk in the park' compared to chemo but still .....
HI everyone, just popped on to see how everyone is - now you see I'm more kd than Horse, once did security for Horse at NE pride event - terrifying -as she kept jumping off the stage into the audience!!
Any ways, I'm mainly good, back at work 3 days a week, swimming each week, digging the garden, hanging out etc....but living with constant small voice in head about recurrance, lymphodema, etc - thats tricky. Had a whole day in my PJs yesterday so missed the newcastle pride breakfast held at a mate's cafe - shame but the OH flew the flag....just might have to have a word with a "friend" who has been seriously flirting with the OH since my diagnosis - talk about jumping in your grave - the OH describes it as "silly" and tries not to notice bless her - I might be non violently v cross soon -
anyway how were the festivals???
best wishes to you all, Nicola
kd and me; we just never clicked. i went one of her gigs and spent most of the time looking round the audience. Now Horse, that was something different.
Someone told me feminism is having a refreshed wave.
Been up since 5 and all steroids finished now so could be time for a really long sleep.
Martina was doing a 'meet & greet' at Eastbourne a couple of years ago and I wussed out because I realised all I would manage would be derr,errm and dribble. Can you see a common thread here - and that was without the excuse of chemo brain. btw, I don't even follow tennis
Is it nearly the weekend?
Cucumber sarnie, followed by strawberries and cream, such a shame I can no longer watch Martina at Wimbledon!......
Have a good weekend xx
Hi all (surely its more than 'both' - there must be more of us)
Two mins ago i was buzzing and thought i'd come upwith a list of 'juicy' stuff we could discuss. Wrong! steroid high has fled, chemo fog has swooped down and walloped me. List now reads: derrr, errm and ?
gotta go for zzzzzzzzzzzz
Hi all - I was wondering if i was the only dyke left in the village.
I had my last chemo yesterday so i'm rather phneurgh today but pleased to be saying goodbye to that chapter. 25 Rads to look forward to (!?!) now. If anyone says going to WOMAD festival one week into rads isn't a good idea I'll wallop them (in a relatively non-violent way obviously).
I would be feeling pretty optimistic if i wasn't waiting to see whether mum has bc now - bummer!