I am currently raising money for BC, would like to raise awareness in men, most of my donations have come from women, two men have actually donated and not on my just giving site, its like a taboo subject in men, can you help with maybe giving your story, the pack i received from BC does not give an example at all which does frustrate me some what, this is an equal disease and to make men realise this is not about women. thank you
I entirely agree that men need the opportunity to share their experiences, And it is very important to provide the information. I was questioning the theory you presented about why women use forums and men don't , simply because I think the problem with getting men to talk about breast cancer is a much deeper one. I would suspect it's not simply because of them already having people who are supporting them , in the women around them.
I think there is more likely a complicated set of emotional constraints with the terminology 'breast cancer' , the Demasculating that exists in the mind (sadly) in having something that women get...even the jokes about 'moobs' and so on, can't help matters. I'm just Giving some thoughts and trying to help really ; just providing the space to talk about it may not be enough, as there are deeper issues to tackle. If it were even called something different in men like, err, I can't think of anything......darn
sorry, not trying to be difficult at all, I think it's great you are taking this upon yourself....and just by publicising it will get it across to people that this problem exists in men too.
......but if they are well served then do they need an online community? Sorry, not being rude to you, but querying the theory. 😊 See I'm not sure about the theory, as I suspect ( some massive generalisations here I know, and I appreciate all men do not fit the same mould) some of it might be in the sterotypical male female differences in 'talking about problems'. Lots of men find it easier to not talk about problems and hide them away, they don't feel comfortable with sharing their fears and feelings with even close friends. So, maybe women just naturally want to reach out and seek reassurance and reassure others ?
Encouraging men to communicate about something like this must be quite tricky, finding the right avenue to facilitate support.
I admire you for trying to reach out in support of those 'silent men' who are also diagnosed. I had a look at your link, and read some of the pages, and agree that the 'very pink' branding must have some impact on men feeling included. I wonder if also the fact that breast cancer is seen as only a female problem, makes men entirely embarrassed to associate with it as they will be seen as 'less of a man'. I don't know what the answer is to be honest, but I'm sure there is a genuine need for a more male orientated environment to have discussions. X
Thank you for sharing this information site for men with breast cancer.
You may also want to take a look at our information page on Breast cancer for men.
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i'm two years post treatment and NED. Because info for men is so hard to find I have launched a new web site here: www.malebc.org
all feedback is welcome.