Thank you so much for replying. I never expected my husband to react like this, I was anticipating more of a response like yours. It’s good to know that other women aren’t going through the same rejection I have though.
I had a suspicion that after all this time his opinion of my appearance is unlikely to improve, and I think you’re right in that it leaves me with some difficult decisions about our future.
I hope you have found the support you need while coping with this horrible illness and I wish you all the best for the future.
Hi fenni11, I sorry you're going through this at a time when you would expect things to be perhaps back to normal .
I really think that you need to sit down with your hubby and have an full, honest discussion. However it sounds as though he is really struggling with how you look after your ops and I don't think that this will change after all this time.
If that's the case I'm sorry to say that I feel that you'll have a hard decision to make regarding wether or not you want to stay in this relationship .
I also feel really angry at the way he has spoken to you and I think that he's been very insensitive. As a man I would hope that I would cope a lot better than he has but I don't know for sure that I would, I would certainly expect to have a lot more empathy than he appears to have though .
My wife almost had the same ops and my main concern was how she would recover mentally, not how I would view her physically.
I hope you can work through all of this and that I've been of some help to you.
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