Hi Love my babies
I have never posted on here before but your post is very similar to how I feel.
I am 39 and have 2 young children, Evie 2.5 and Henry 10 months. I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and following a CT scan, liver and stomach metastasis. The shock of being told this was overwhelming. The days that followed just consisted of tears, anger and total fear of what was to come and leaving my babies behind. Every time I think of them growing up without me I find it hard to breathe. How unfair can life be. They need me and your little beauties need you.
I’ve had 1 round of FEC chemo, 5 more to go. And then I’m not sure of the plan. I’m just praying the chemo does it’s job.
I heard my diagnosis and simply thought that was it, My time was up. But reading lots of posts on here and talking to my oncologist I’m slowly realising that it’s not the end. Not yet. And there’s so much to fight for. I haven’t been given a timescale either, like yourself, I don’t think they really know yet.
It can be a lonely place. I don’t feel like I can talk too much to my closest family about my fears as it upsets them. But I also need to make plans. Future plans for when I’m not around.
Saying that, all I know for sure is that I’m not ready to go anywhere yet. My babies need me and I’m going to put up one hell of a fight for them.
You can do the same. Look at them, and focus all your strength into your treatment and the next steps. Your babies need you and they still have you. I think the hardest part is getting your head straight. The rest will follow. Your babies will help you find the strength to carry on. Enjoy all the moments you have.
You’ve got this xx
Welcome to the forum. So sorry you have had to join us but please know there is so much information and help and support here.
You are newly diagnosed and still in shock but you are not alone. You will find women on here who have been living many many years with breast cancer including secondary and they didn’t even start out on the new meds we have now. The targeted therapy for HER positive has had amazing results and those of us who aren’t HER positive are now also starting to get this type of targeted drug. Don’t read about statistics as they are “ an average” and most statistics take 5 to 10 years to accumulate. You will find many ladies on here with liver secondaries and are living full lives, the meds keep the liver secondaries stable.
Treatment has come on so much in the last few years and more is on the horizon.
Take your time looking around the forum and get familiar with the jargon ask anybody anything no question is a dumb question we have all been where you are.
breastcancer.org is also a good forum, it’s an American site and there is a section for young women diagnosed with secondary’s
Be kind to yourself it takes time to get your head around it .
Hi and welcome to the forum, I'm sorry you are having to deal with so much especially with a young family.
i don't have secondaries but wanted to acknowledge your post and reassure you that there are some lovely ladies here who will be able to help and support you as they are going through the same.
You are still in the early days of diagnosis and will be struggling to process it all and it is perfectly natural to feel panicked and frightened about what is going to happen. We have ladies many years on with secondaries doing very well who I am sure will be along soon to offer you their support.
I think one thing we all agree on here is taking things a step at a time helps us to cope, trying to process the bigger picture is just too overwhelming, I don't know how you feel about maybe taking something to help you get on top of the anxiety but it would be worth a chat to your Gp.
If you feel you are getting overwhelmed the helpline here is wonderful and they will talk through your worries with with understanding and compassion and may be able to join you up with someone going through exactly the same as you are right now.
This is so tough but there is plenty of hope and treatments available amd always help and support here for you Xx