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So much for the semi retirement............isn't it funny you get so much busier??

Aaah good news all your girls are home, is your YD off for a while?

Had my lunch out was very good I couldn't eat all of it which is most unusual for me.

Have to do shopping tomorrow and pick up a new bra, hate bras now and stick with the same one till it falls apart, I find them REALLY uncomfortable..........

House is very, very quiet YD and GS have left for a couple of days, I miss them already xx

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YD just messaged me to say they're all home safe. Mum & baby discharged from hospital this afternoon. GD is doing well: "feeding and pooing like a trooper" apparently (and she doesn't even have any of my genes!! Smiley Tongue)

 

Looong day. Usually I have Thursday afternoons to myself because OH takes a taxi to a nearby pub on the canal, after he's spent a couple of hours volunteering in the library, and I fetch him back at 5pm. Today he came straight home from library and wanted me to take him to the allotment. I was not best pleased! My few hours mowing the lawn and pottering leisurely about turned into speedily mowing both lawns, ferrying OH to the seed shop and the allotment, planting onions and digging up leeks. Then whizz home to get dinner and back out to swimming. Grrrrrr.

 

However, I have persuaded him that we need to take the car when we go away for 2 weeks in August. Can't face negotiating trains with enough luggage for 2 of us self catering for 2 weeks!! He thinks he'll be able to cope with the journey if he sits in the back, like he does all the time now; much less stressful - for both of us! So last night I booked a cottage in Colwyn Bay for 2 weeks. It's Sunday to Sunday too,  so no problem with his ridiculous aversion to travelling on a Saturday. Yay! Smiley Very Happy

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Yabba dabba doo! A baby girl!  Many congrats to you JCJ on becoming a grannie, gran. nanny, nana, grandma!  Whatever name you have chosen.  More congrats to your girls who have become parents ftor the first time.Glad everytthing went well although long.

 

Weather is bleuch!  Drizzle and fog. Spirits are lifting though as February is done with and it's nearly time to put the clocks forward!

 

I was going to go out today with Daughter to a local garden centre but it's been postponed as littlest GD has a nasty cold and is off school.

 

 

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Any new news on the girls JCJ??

 

Dental check up today, all good, clean and shiny now! 

Received early Mothers Day gift, ED can never wait haha and off I was blubbing again, so am going to sit on the "getting on my own nerves" bench............and eat all the chocolate..............

Feet are not unbearable so that's good, must be kicking in and next lido is soon, hurrah.

Out for lunch tomorrow and have been invited out to lunch on Mon too (late birthday gift) so am all excited.

Youngest GD had her check up yesterday she is heavier than baby GS, she is a big girly. She is doing everything she should be doing so she is doing very well xx

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Woo hoo scooby/booby doo, many congratulations JCJ, a baby GD, hurrahSmiley Very Happy

Wonderful news!!!

Sending you big nannie hugs xx

 

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Extra choccy supplies by the CSL bench, Katy - or the teary blubby bench as you've renamed it? Smiley Tongue

 

GD born this mornin!! DIL's waters broke Monday lunchtime,  she was induced yesterday and baby finally arrived at 7:30am today. Only spoke briefly to YD on the phone this afternoon because they were all exhausted having gone 36 hours without sleep. Seen photos and I can't wait to meet the new family member in person in 4 1/2 week's time!  Smiley Very Happy

 

If you're reading this, FF, I hope you've had the sunny day we've had and that it has lifted your spirits. Hugs. 

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Was soooooooooooo tired last night, everyone came in the afternoon, couldn't be bothered munching dinner sooooooooo had to search the shed this morning for leftovers.........

Did a lot of tidying, hoovering and ironing today, went to have a muggatea and the milk was off, yuck, which meant a quick run over to supermarket.

Am having serious problems just now am constantly on the "teary, blubby" bench, I CAN'T stop anything slightly emotional whether sad or happy off I go...............it's getting to the embarrassing stage now. Even worse ED is still emotional after having baby so am making her cry tooSmiley Embarassed  xx

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It's all those chocolates, Katy...... Oh. HIS bottom. Smiley Very Happy

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Glad you are beginning to pick up FF, we were worriedSmiley Sad

 

Hand looks good so no hospital visit, thank goodness.

Was meant to have everyone here today but it's been snowing for ages so for the moment it's cancelled, am ok about it because I can just faff around, much needed to get over yesterday haha.

Sounds as if reports are excellent JCJ, all down to you ofcourse.

GS is sitting quietly beside me while his Mum is in the shower, bottom has just exploded, his not mine...................xx

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Helloooo FF *waves both arms wildly in the air*.  Relieved to see you in BENCHLAND again. We missed you. Sorry you've been feeling ****. The nights are definitely drawing out now and  the clocks go forward at the end of the month so hopefully you'll soon feel a bit better. I hope Purdie is behaving herself and keeping you company. Hugs xx

 

Hugs to you too KTC after your sh**ty day. Hope your hand is OK. 

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Hello * waves* Sorry I've been MIA for a while .Some of it is due to sporadic wifi but most of it due to SAD.  I have been particulary affected this year. Usually  take St Johns Wort  which helps but haven't been able to this year as other meds more important react with it.  I've been reading but haven't felt able to conribute. 

 

I am feeling a little better as I am now leaving school in daylight. there is now light at the end of the tunnel! .

 

Katy, I appreciate the PM and the text messge, sorry I worried you and JCJ but this happens every year with the SAD.

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well have had a stinker of a day.................so many things went wrong to mention grrrrrrrrrrr!

last one being while washing a juice glass it broke and sliced my hand, properly sliced, arrrrgh

i burst into tears, more of frustration than pain haha. thought i literally have no time to go up to hospital so when it stopped bleeding i closed over little flap stuck gauze and a plaster on it and will sort it out tomorrow, sigh.

So am going to go to bed early to shut out the crazy for a little while xx

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hope all went well and reports are glowingSmiley Happy

will have to look for the choc yummy things haha.

quiet day, actually fell asleep, must have been the excitement of my 40th, Smiley Wink

saw mum yesterday and after weeks of her not looking too well, she was looking fab, so that was really good.

received some pennies for birthday so am thinking of buying some really nice perfume so will be sniffing around tomorrow................

have not eaten too many creme eggs this year............not cause i'm being good................but because i'm eating every other choc known to man.................xx

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Dreaded O in school today and tomorrow. No idea how it's going but by tomorrow evening it will be over at long last. Hopefully we'll have done well enough for them to leave us alone for a while. Fingers crossed. 

 

Still frantically knitting a green 3-6 months hoodie. I've bought chocolates for the mummies too, to go in the parcel of cuddly toys and knitted hoodies. If I can resist eating them!! (the chocs, not the toys or knitted items! Smiley Tongue)

 

Discovered my new favourite thing: dark choc pretzels = "Flipz" . Oh my days! So deliciously, irresistibly moreish!! 

 

Had to Google PDT, Katy - I'm guessing it's nothing to do with Pacific  Daylight Time! Smiley Very Happy - doesn't sound TOO scary? Hope it sorts you skin problems out.

 

Horrible wet, windy weather today. Kids in all day at school - just what we needed??! And Met Office weather warnings for strong winds tomorrow. That'll make the little darlings even more wampy. Deep joy!!  Hey ho. 

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Shed is intact, 40 candles, you guessed correctly JCJSmiley Wink

Lovely times in Benchland and at home and lovely gifts, sentimental, of course that had me blubbing awaySmiley Embarassed

 

Sometimes it's not good to know or see too much JCJ, just keep in mind that nurse was really pleased with your OH and his progression. Hugs to you x

Your baby GD will be here soon!!

 

Appt was for leg, what am I like??

No operation because of the scarring, so she has decided PDT, not confirmed as combined team make the final decision, so will wait and see. Am going to be using chemo cream on my face, arrrrrgh. Hopefully will not be too messy. Pre cancer bits so having been using another cream, she says chemo cream will get rid of them once and for all.

Was a really nice day, now it's torrential rain, yuck xx

Ooops thank you for special birthday dinner, yum, yum!!!

 

 

 

 

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Happy Big birthday Katy. 40?? Smiley Tongue Hope you had a lovely time. The sparklers were amazingly beautiful - (even if some of the words spelt out were a tad shocking!) Dinner tonight was in your honour: baked ham with maple syrup infused gravy with all the usual, followed by nectarine slices in brandy, shortbread, ice cream and frozen peach & passion fruit yoghurt. Tiaras compulsory. Enjoy. Chocolate birthday cake in the shed - be quick and blow the candles out before the whole shed catches fire! Smiley Tongue

 

Fingers crossed for your appointment tomorrow, whatever it is!  Hope it goes OK and you get some answers/effective treatment. 

 

Watched the PD documentary on TV this weekend . And wish we hadn't! Bit of a depressing end to it, and it was quite worrying to see just how debilitating the disease is. Really wished OH hadn't watched it. He was in an odd mood before and it certainly hasn't helped. Smiley Sad

 

Still waiting for baby news. And the dreaded O. at school. Hopefully, the latter will be this week, to get it over with.  I'll be happy if baby is 2 weeks late because then she'll still be wee small when we meet her at the end of April, but DIL has had enough and wants her born ASAP. I remember that feeling! 

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Hello Ali, am sure you will find the answers you need on hereSmiley Happy, remember and let us know how you get on.

Woo hoo JCJ, it's done, another job ticked off the list.

No baby news as yet???

Have had a really quiet day, it's really cold so am glad I didn't have to venture out. My feet are a mess am obviously walking in an odd manner, have blisters and cuts on the soles, nothing really I can do apart from not walk haha.

Am off the "unhinged" bench, have been thinking that appt is really too fast, can't see it being that quick and was thinking it's prob the appt that I have been waiting almost 3 years for...............nothing to do with my leg. ED says phone them but am just going to wait till Mon, it's only a few days. Either or it's fineSmiley Happy

Am celebrating a big birthday this weekend so ballgowns, tiaras, sparklers and glitterberry juice order of the day!! xx

 

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Hi Ali, lovely to "see" you. Can't offer advice re reconstruction but I'm sure there will be many ladies on the forum who can help you decide. 

 

Car is gone. Driver turned up on time. He examined the car and phoned the company (same one as before as they were offering the highest price with no admin fees or collection charge) they knocked another £300 off the price they were prepared to pay for the car because I hadn't mentioned (or noticed) that both bumpers were scratched. I'd told them about the scratches along the side of the car. Apparently bumpers are harder/more expensive to fix Smiley Sad. As the driver took the car off the drive, I noticed an obvious dent in the rear passenger side door which I'd not spotted before. I didn't mention it, but it's made me feel a bit less annoyed about the lower price. Money in our account before the driver took the car away. Sorted. Not as stress-free as I'd hoped, but at least it's done without TOO much hassle.

Reversed my car back on the drive afterwards - loads of space now - and made a proper mess of it. No point of reference, in the dark, without the silver car to line myself up on!! Doh!! 

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Hello Benchies! I've been in France for a couple of weeks, OH had to work there so I tagged along. Twas lovely! Might have to brave the main forum to ask advice re reconstruction. Skin has recovered after the urgent removal of the implant so now its on to the next step. I don't fancy another implant, nor having any muscle cut and moved so it's either stay as I am and use Gladys (doesn't everyone name their prosthesis?) or the DIEP flap option. Hmmm....

Am going to make myself a cuppa and read back to see what you've all been up to Smiley Happy

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Thank you xx Had to laugh, you KNOW me soooooooooooooo wellSmiley Happy

Fingers crossed car is gone, maybe a woo hoo???

Did you try someone else? xx

 

PS I do remember your neighbour's storySmiley Happy

 

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Hugs KTC, I've put buckets of tea and several creme eggs and a large chocolate cake by the Jittery Bench. At least they're on it quickly and you don't have to stress for 5 weeks!!

 

My neighbour has had several skin cancer ops over the 30 years we've known him and he's still going strong in his 80s so don't panic!!

 

Trying again to have OH's car collected today. Just had a call from the driver to say he'll be here between 2:30 and 3pm, so we're already doing better than last time! Fingers crossed - (those that aren't already crossed for you, KTC Smiley Tongue) xx

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Am on the feeling "slightly unhinged" bench, went to docs yesterday and he confirmed that the thing on my leg was still there despite the chemo cream etc so he said he would send pics off and would prob have an appt in around 5 weeks.

Wasn't too surprised being honest..............

Well this morning I receive a phone call asking if I could come in on Monday, so now the FEAR starts haha.

 

GS had his 3 jabs and had a cry, so did I, he's a little out of sorts today but next one isn't until he is one, whew!

It's pouring with rain here and unfortunately I do have to go out, grrrrrrrrrr, have been hanging off hoping it would stop but will have to bite the bullet and be drenchedSmiley Frustratedxx

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That's great news JCJ about your OH, nice to hear he is doing well, will def give him more confidenceSmiley Happy

Would just go with the Benchland regalia, you have all the stuff and you know you look fabulous!!

Any day now.....................exciting................

 

Nipped into town early this morning, came home and sat for a few hours, phoned a taxi and went up to see Mum, YD and GS came home around teatime, so am now exhausted..........

Lido has to build up in your body and because I had to wait the 10 weeks it's like I'm starting from scratch againSmiley Frustrated Pain is superly intense at the moment, grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Going with YD and GS tomorrow for his jabs, then off to docs for me, they are in opposite directions so may just jump in another taxi, what am I like?? haha xx

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Goodness me! Where did that week go? More to the point, where did February go??

 

I'm OK, adapting to the new routines. OH's physio appointment was on Tuesday and they gave him a "torture device" which straps around his ankle and hooks into his shoe eyelets. There are tension straps which keep the foot from dropping or turning inwards. He wore it for a very short,  painfully slow walk in a country park on our way back from the hospital, then took it off and has refused to wear it since! PD nurse came to see us on Thursday. I thought she was coming to assess his needs around the house and I was a bit depressed that I thought that meant they were assuming an imminent decline in mobility/ability, but it turned out to be just a routine follow up appointment. She said he's doing incredibly well for someone 5 years on from diagnosis. He's still on fairly low doses of drugs and there are other options available too if/when needed. Made us feel so much better.

 

There was a programme on tele about PD this week. I recorded it but so far haven't managed to bring myself to watch it. 

 

Got to dress up (grrrrr!), for world book day on Thursday, as a WORD from my favourite book. What?? That is so difficult! I've chosen "fascinating" from The Owl Who Was Afraid of the Dark. Any ideas? Should I just go with the full BENCHLAND regalia?

 

OFSTED due any day (we were told "February"!!) so school is a tad stressful. We are all on tenterhooks!

 

Dinner tonight is roast chicken, Yorkshire pudding, roasties, roasted parsnips, creamed leeks, sprouts and carrots followed by.... probably plum & apple crumble and custard.... haven't decided yet. All welcome as per... 

 

No news from the girls yet. Any day now - due date is 8th! I'm still knitting. Green hoodie size 6-9 months. Grey hoodie, a very cute cuddly grizzly bear, the BCC bunny and a half-made card are all waiting to be parcelled up. So exciting. I hope they don't give her a very long name because I've not left a massive space for it on the card, between “Welcome" and "S*****n"  (their surname) spelt out in colourful shiny letters. I've got a  tubful of letters so that shouldn't be a problem.

 

Rest those feet, Katy. Is your lido not doing its stuff this time? When is the next one due?

Hope everyone else is doing OK. 

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All quiet in Benchland................hope you are all ok.

Have been quiet here too, YD and GS in another city for a few days.

Soooooooo have just been faffing around, can't really jaunt around at the moment.

Bought a new pair of shoes really padded but not really making a differenceSmiley Frustrated

Getting some more Mum stuff done, you think something is done and dusted then it pops up again, grrrrrrrrrrrr. Am hopefully nearing the end now, every time I say that???

Sunny but oh sooooooo cold here, my teeth have been chattering this week xx

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I didn't know that...............cupboards SHRINK.................

Oh well won't be doing anymore clearouts then hahaha! Great excuse.

Dinner yummy, love roast beef!

Quick run into town, had hair chopped and dashed into supermarket. Feet are not great so am just doing short journeys.

Not long now until your grandbaby will be born JCJSmiley Happy Are you still knitting? Can you crochet? Are they all prepared? xx

 

 

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There's a rule about kitchen cupboards that I have discovered: as soon as you take anything out of one it shrinks ever so slightly so you can't get it back in. Obviously, if you take everything out, you won't have any chance of getting it all back in. I think it's that built in obsolescence we hear so much about - eventually your cupboards will be so small you're forced to buy a new kitchen. Smiley Tongue

 

Dinner was roast beef etc (no yorkies though because we went away instead of doing the supermarket shop and I didn't bother trying to make any because mine never come out right) followed by chocolate pear pudding and ice cream. By the virtue of virtuality it is still both hot and delicious! Smiley Very Happy

 

Training day today. Spelling. All day. Yaaaaawn! 

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Oh my gosh what a bargainSmiley Happy, sounds good too..................

All the windows??? you are on the "swotty dotty" bench.

 

Must be catching, thought I would clean out the cupboard that has pots, dishes etc, idea was it would be neat and tidy and I would have more space...............not a chance..............it's a little tidier and I have no space whatsoever??? WHAT, how did I manage that??

So am hopefully looking forward to dinner tonight, have been loitering around the shed for hours now xx

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I have made a new bench. It's an amalgamation of the Smug Bench and the kn*****ed Bench. I've just cleaned ALL the windows in the house. I never do them all in one go because we have big picture windows in every room of the house and a sun lounge that is more than half glass!! Suddenly, paying the window cleaners £11 to clean the outsides doesn't seem half so expensive!! No doubt I will soon be on the FF bench when the sun moves around and highlights all the streaks, smears and missed bits! Smiley Mad

 

Dinner last night was good. We all had the roast dinner special (choice of any, or all, of: beef, pork, chicken) with all the trimmings, followed by a dessert (chocolate fudge cake and cream/white chocolate & raspberry roulade/lemon meringue pie respectively) and it all came to under £30 for the three of us. Bargain!

 

You've gone quiet, FF, hope you're OK xx

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Happy you have enjoyed yourself albeit with not much sleep haha.

Glad also OH was fine and you were able to drive without any turmoil, I thought it was because he was grumpy and didn't even think about the PD, the more journeys you do perhaps he will be able to relax a little more too. Fingers crossed.

Have never tried a memory foam, I don't know anyone who has either...........

 

Have been on the "sad" bench today, it's been horrible, the realisation about Mum is finally hitting homeSmiley Sad

Will be fine tomorrow just one of those days..........xx

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Home already. Feet up in my sunlounge, enjoying the spring bulbs in the garden. Nice to get away. Lovely to be home again. OH survived my driving and coped better than usual - more practised at being a passenger now?! I'm considering trying to book our summer holiday somewhere that's within a 2 hour drive instead of taking the train somewhere coastal like we originally planned. Sooo wish we didn't live as far from the sea as is possible on this relatively small island!! Smiley Sad

 

Not swimming tonight because I'm meeting up with friends for a pub meal. Another one! Not such a treat this week?!

So tired. Not slept properly - or much at all - for 3 nights due to OH snoring and twitching and not having my own room to escape to. I've discovered I don't like memory foam mattresses either. Too hard to turn over in bed and too sweaty. At least it's saved me the expense of buying one and then finding out! Smiley Happy 

 

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Well it's been good to get away from the house but next time, if it's more than 2 nights I think we'll self cater. This hotel does breakfast but no other meals,  so we've had to go out to find food. Last night we were fed up of pub food/chips so I went to the supermarket near the hotel and bought cooked chicken, salad,  a small baguette and some "not butter" (which we spread with the handle of a teaspoon) and had a picnic in our room. Possibly the best meal all holiday! Smiley Tongue Got to go. Time to leave. More later. 

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hope you are having fun JCJ, lovely to just get away................

thank you as always for dinner, yum yumSmiley Happy

 

been up to see mum and managed to sort some stuff out, felt pleased about that. she was chatting away really well today but still looks poorlySmiley Sad then out for dinner tonight it was lovely, threw in a glass of the red stuff too, woo hoo.

lots going on tomorrow, don't think i will manage to do it all in one day, aargh...........

but there will be birthday cake in the shed GD 's birthday, not sure yet but suspect it maybe chocolate xx

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Glad your DIY went to plan.  No odd left over bits or wonky legs! Not even on the furniture! Smiley Tongue

 

Not really a posh hotel. - "only" a 3*, but that's posh for us. We're more used to Traveldodge! It's been really odd packing to stay in a hotel with the car. Usually only use hotels for Morwich and Norecambe "visiting/meeting the girls" trips when we/I travel by train. 

 

Oh doesn't moan when I'm driving, or comment at all - unless I'm driving his car - but his anxiety makes him shake and twitch more which I find really off-putting when I'm trying to concentrate. (Imagine a dog scratching rigorously; that's what it sounds like). Travelling in the back makes it less stressful for him and therefore for me too. Hopefully tomorrow's journey won't be too bad. I know the road: driven it loads of times, and it's not too far.

 

Dinner is roast pork, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, sprouts, roast parsnips, carrots, stuffing, apple sauce and gravy followed by pears poached in brandy,  ice cream, shortbread (still getting through the Christmas stash!!) and chocolate brandy sauce. Help yourselves. No more cooking for me until at least Thursday, possibly not until next weekend. Smiley Happy 

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Yes better to sort it when you have the time.

Enjoy your break, is it a posh hotel?? 

When you are driving, if OH is moaning just say do you want me to stop and let you out so you can make your own way there???

That'll teach himSmiley Happy

Well, been busy DIY ing..............couldn't buy the under sink cabinet because sink is an unusual shape and pedestal part is huge so would have defeated the purpose..........sooooooooo bought a small cabinet that sits at the side, managed to make it up but put hinges on the wrong way, all sorted now and am really pleased with results. Also bought a towel ring and that is up now too, woo hoo!!

Am just going to the chippie tonight, on the "CBA" bench most of the day and believe me it will be an effort to walk around the corner, but a bigger effort to make anything haha xx

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Both cars still on the drive. Smiley Sad I just didn't have the mental energy to renegotiate with OH AND car buying company. I had intended to sort it out during half term, as we're not visiting the girls this time, but I have just booked 3 nights in a hotel in Ashbourne, Derbyshire  for next week, as OH desperate to get away from the house. It's only about 90 minute drive away so hopefully he won't stress too much about it - and he sits in the back in the car now which makes it easier. We haven't booked our summer holiday yet and if this one goes OK it might give us more options.

 

Spent an hour or so in the garden this afternoon doing a bit of pruning and tidying. Lovely to be outside and not be freezing or getting soaked.  The spring bulbs are all flowering and the birds were twittering away. Wonderful. Smiley Very Happy

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Oh my gosh, can't believe it, how very annoying,and infuriating grrrrr, after me saying easy and hassle free................

Fingers crossed, it's gone................xx

 

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Have you a local handyman who can come and build cabinet for you? I've seen adverts in our local paper for such a service. Doesn't cost too much - furniture still probably cheaper than ready built?

 

I am on the FF bench. They never showed up to collect OH's car. Spitting feathers! After I spent so long convincing him that it was worth accepting less for the car in order to have a relatively stress-free transaction. Collection due between 2pm and 6pm. Driver will phone an hour before. Phone call at 1:30pm to say driver running late. Will now be between 5:30pm and 7. 6:30pm - another call: had I heard from the driver yet? No! By 8pm I tried to ring to see what was happening but of course none of the numbers were being answered - office closes at 6pm. So they couldn't have completed payment at 7pm anyway? ? Grrrrrr! As you can imagine, it's been a very stressful afternoon! OH has tried really hard to keep it together but at 8 O'clock he finally snapped and told me to "Tell them to st*ff it!" I have blasted off a strongly worded email - keyboard warrior that I am Smiley Tongue - but I don't think OH will sell to them now even if they come grovelling. Back to square one. Smiley Sad. Felt like ramming the da** thing when I put my car back on the drive just now!

 

Glad you won't have to wait so long for next lido, it's good to have the date. 

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Dinner was delicious, thank you!!

Day at home today, woo hoo, house full in the afternoon, lovely timeSmiley Happy

Not too bad a week ahead, up to see Mum, into town and out with GD on Thurs for tea. We have finally managed to have a free evening..............

Cold here, frosty evenings and sunshine during the day, don't mind this weather.

New lido appt came over weekend, 7 weeks, so that's great.

Have been looking at under sink storage cabinets for YD's bathroom, but the one that is pretty is DIY mmmmmmmmmm, struggle to build things now, would have liked to surprise her, will see when I venture into shop if it's an easy one or complicated, why are the instuctions always so difficult??? xx

 

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Dinner in the shed: lamb, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, smashed roots, cabbage, peas, gravy and mint sauce followed by raspberries, shortbread biscuits, mango & passion fruit frozen yoghurt, lemon sorbet and chocolate sauce. Help yourselves. I. Am. Stuffed. 

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Condolences to your family FF, you never want anyone to suffer.

 

So pleased car is going JCJ, thought it was a great service, Mum was also very sad to see car go, she was "the driver " in the family and that sense of freedom was diminished, it was def the right decision (for Mum) albeit a sad one. Your OH still has you driving, may be able to start thinking about scooters again in the next few months. 

Happy you are enjoying being a part timerSmiley Happy!

 

Both GC are doing well, GS is very dainty and GD is a hulk hahaha!!!

Colic has gone, think it was the one of the worst things ever and made me very glad I didn't experience it with my children............hats off to all parents that endure.............

Had a lovely, lovely surprise yesterday, ED sent me flowers, chocs and a little note was enclosed that made me blubber for ages...........

Am busy, busy with washing, have loads to do, miss a couple of days and there is a mountain to climb, only one more load to go, woo hoo. Everything that can be tumble dried is being dried that way.

Still have to hooverSmiley Frustrated, will do it after the next cup of tea, this is the third time I have said that.

Did you venture to chippie last night JCJ??? 

Lots of GC appearing, one more on the horizon for you FF??? haha xx

 

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Deleted as posted twice. I forgot to tick I'm not a robot but it posted anyway and I hadn't realised. 

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Commiserations to D's family, FF. Although, as you say, I'm sure their grief is softened by relief that she's no longer suffering.

 

OH's car is sold. Online company coming to.collect it on Monday, (thanks Katy! Smiley Happy ) That will be an extremely sad and difficult day for OH. Smiley Sad But I will be relieved that it's gone and isn't sitting there, in my way and steadily devaluing. Hopefully,  when it's no longer there as a constant reminder, he might feel better. Probably not.

 

Only 1 week left to half term. I'm not as desperate for a holiday as I usually am at this time - the benefits of being a lazy part-timer! Smiley Very Happy I even made some bread last weekend! Not sure I'll make a habit of it because it was a lot of faff, iand I won't be on "Bake Off", but the rolls were yummy, if a teeny bit solid. Made with Wholemeal seeded flour. Tasty! I'll put some in the shed with my homemade turkey soup. Made Barrabrith today. I'll put some of that in there too.

 

Don't think we're going to Morwich this half term because DIL is about to give birth, YD doesn't want to take time off work until the baby's born, so she can have her 2 weeks 'paternity' leave, and we're going in April anyway. May go somewhere else for a couple of days. Or may just stay here on the CBA bench?!

 

Hope the babies are still doing fine, Katy. It'll be lovely for the cousins growing up, being so close in age. Smiley Happy 

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Congratulations on being Nannie to four, you are catching me up!  So glad everything went well.

 

Snow all gone after all the rain we've had.  School much as usual.

 

SIL's mother died last night and really it is a blessed release, she was 91 and her quality of life for the last year was......?

So i've done quite a lot a babysitting for the last few days.  Some interesting/difficult questions from the 13 yr old GD who obviously didn't feel she could ask her Mum and Dad!   Eek!  Hope I got the answers right but I've relayed it all to he Mum so we'll be on the same page.

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Congratulations! Nanny x 4! Smiley Very Happy 38 minutes??? That was quick! Well, I suppose it was her third. So pleased she had it naturally _ I'm guessing baby turned herself around?

 

Glad lido effective and not too much hassle this time. 

 

Are you able to get to school yet, FF?

 

Had to put 2 new tyres on the car yesterday. Tread was still legal, but they were cracking and wearing unevenly. Not the best timing with my first reduced pay cheque! Ah well, if they last 10 years like the ones they replaced it won't be so bad. 

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Congratulations! Nanny x 4! Smiley Very Happy 38 minutes??? That was quick! Well, I suppose it was her third. So pleased she had it naturally _ I'm guessing baby turned herself around?

 

Glad lido effective and not too much hassle this time. 

 

Are you able to get to school yet, FF?

 

Had to put 2 new tyres on the car yesterday. Tread was still legal, but they were cracking and wearing unevenly. Not the best timing with my first reduced pay cheque! Ah well, if they last 10 years like the ones they replaced it won't be so bad. 

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I am a nannie, woo hooSmiley Very Happy, ED and baby both well, natural birth 38 mins after arriving at hospital in another city, very happy tonight xx

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Maybe we are???? And we don't know it???? Arrrrrrgh

What a difference a day makes, can put my feet on the ground without inwardly screaming and I am feeling ok hurrah!!

Went really well, canula second attempt, posh new surroundings but within the bowels of the hospital, found a short cut on the way back out but think I used docs private lift haha, it was very swanky.............

Still trying to get me to have it in tummy but am really trying to resist, last thing I wantSmiley Frustrated

ED will be off to hospital on Wed, there was a cancellation so am hoping baby arrives that day and she's not there for days, am feeling super excitedSmiley Happy xx

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I wrote a reply and it's disappeared. I can't be bothered to do it again.

 

Snow mostly gone from town but outlying villages (i.e. school ) only passable in a 4×4.  Rain forecast tonight, hope that washes it all away.

 

Am I a robot?  Don't think I am but ..........would I know if was or not?

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I'm not one either...............or am I???

It was just the complete hassle free way for Mum to get rid off car, she didn't have to leave the house and am sure money was in her bank account an hour or less later. Fingers crossed it's gone soon, one less thing to worry/think about.

Lido tomorrow seems such a long wait, had to buy new slippers today because old slippers had a cushion sole and felt as though I was walking on sharp stones ouch, new slippers are firmer so hoping feet calm down.

ED has to go to hospital on Fri unless baby appears before that, she also has appt on Tues, which means I will have to take GS to my doctor's appt because our appts are at the same time so that should be interesting haha.

Am really hoping dinner is on the menu tonight, am going to leave some clotted cream rice pudding in the shed, it's really lovely, yum yum xx