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That's terribly sad FF, hopefully she remains peaceful and pain free.

Fingers crossed GD's depression is now under control, it's just awful. Great she can chat to you though, talking is a great help.

Well done JCJSmiley Happy, glad you enjoyed the Fayre, you are allowed to be happySmiley Happy, bah humbug to OH..............

 

All ok here, touching wood as I am typing.............

ED looks fit to burst and still needs iron tabs, YD had her post natal exam couple of issues but not drastic and also needs iron tabs. Baby doing so much better, whew!

Am out for dinner tomorrow night, woo hoo!!

Not having Festive Meal but sticking to main menu, X has crept up so quickly this year, am out of sorts cause am usually fully organised by Oct haha, not so this year..............

Very, very cold here, long way to go methinks xx

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Christmas Fayre today. Sold my knitted toys and Christmas decorations and home made jam. Also got rid of some unwanted school books. Made £76 to split between school and Macmillan, so I'm well chuffed.

 

Christmas cake is in the oven. Can't open the door until it's completely cold so it's fingers crossed it's cooked ok.

 

OH in a mood because he's had to pay the heating engineer today. For a job that didn't really need urgently doing but that OH has been pestering him to do as well as servicing the boiler. Honestly! I don't know what he expected. A free job? On a Saturday? He has pestered relentlessly and now it's done and he's in a mard about it. Seriously think he's losing his mind! He's also got his a**e in his hand because I went to school today. Well. Tough. I'm giving up my afternoons in January, and I love the Christmas Fayre, so he can just suck it up!! Oops! Sorry. Rant mode?

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So sorry everyone having alarms and excursions..  Hope your tummy is better today JCJ. Lawks, Katy, Mum falls over, ED having troubles and GS not well. all worrying.....and tea all over the floor.....yes, there are worse things.  On the bright side, glad you enjoyed tea with GD.

 

Down here, SIL's Mother (in a home 93 yrs old) has been moved onto end of life care.  There is, according to the Drs., something wrong with her digestive tract (she can't eat and is being sick every time she tries). Drs. wanted to put a camera down, she refused to have it done. so palliative care only. So hard on SIL .

 

Eldest GD diagnosed with depression, now on anti depressants,  I'm trying to help her too.  She sees her Mum as "that's what Mum's say" but seems to see me as an Oracle.  Help!

 

Haircut today, faced the mirror, and now looking better.

 

 

 

 

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Hope your tummy is holding out JCJ and you have managed your swim tonightSmiley Happy

GS is improving, is a little brighter, looks a little better, he's very needy as he obviously still feels yuckety yuck, so YD has banned all visitors until at least the middle of next week, whew! We were all terribly anxious but are calming down a bit now.

Went out for tea with GD tonight, we had a lovely time and spoke about X present, so pleased as instead of money she has decided she would like a ring, came home and ring is duly ordered, woo hoo! I am happy because I would rather still give her an actual gift.

YD was making tea when I arrived home she dropped the whole lot all over the floor and cooker, what a mess!!! Just shrugged my shoulders and smiled, there are worse things.................

Had afternoon meeting regarding care home fees etc, only lasted around half an hour so that is the almost final thing that had to be organised for Mum.

ED's baby is due in Jan so still a while to go yet. xx

 

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Oh good grief, Katy! It never ends?! I hope GS is ok. When is next GC due? I hope it's not too long - sounds very ouchy for ED! I've heard of "glue ear" but I think that's something different to mum's experience? Smiley Tongue

 

Stomach much better today - never got to the dashing to the loo stage; just "am I hungry or do I feel sick?" stage. Hope it continues to stay better: too much to do to be ill!

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Thumpy head much better now, BUT am on the "really????" bench................

Mum fell last night and split her ear open, after a long wait she has had things glued together again.

Baby GS was supposed to have his first immunisation today, couldn't be done as he had started coughing and sneezing, phoned health visitor and then doc, saw a doc and he was rushed down to other city hospital, gone straight into chest. Airways cleared, bloods taken, results good, was supposed to stay overnight but so many children in ward with contagious things going on they thought it would be safer for him to be at home, so an anxious night ahead. ED was also at hospital, her muscles have split because baby is lying hammock style and very low, so they will keep an eye on her.

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Hope your tummy is improving JCJ, so many bugs at this time of year!!!

Hope you also manage to keep knitting without having to run to loo too often xx

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Hope your thumpy head is better now, Katy, and everything crossed that they DO open up a lido ward in your city. That would make life sooo much easier?!

 

Don't knock it until you've tried it: muesli with the addition of chocolate peanuts (or chocolate peanuts & raisins) = delish.

 

Had a dodgy stomach for the last 24 hours - reminiscent of 3 years ago, but I think it's probably the bug that's doing the rounds at school (some schools in the area are actually closed because of it!) Managed to stagger around S*******y's tonight and I've got most of the Christmas shopping in - just in case we don't go again before the big day (3-weekly shop would be Christmas day itself!!) There's the fresh fruit & veg to get, obviously, but we can pick that up from the farm shop when we collect the turkey.

 

Now I'm frantically knitting Christmas tree decorations for my stall at the school Christmas Fair on Saturday. Received our first Christmas card yesterday and I haven't even started making mine yet! I seem to leave it later and later every year!!

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Choc peanuts and muesli?????????Mince pies and choc peanuts????????

Hope all went well and you had a lovely time with daughterSmiley Happy

Yes FF I am persevering, still half and half or maybe slightly less, have purchased a few and when I was sorting Mum's house I lost 2 yes 2 of them, men who were clearing found one of them. I spend half my days searching for them..........................drives me crazy, will have to tie them around my neck cause used to do same with my glasses, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Had my lido on Fri, bit of a thumpy head still going on but can live with that. Had to have a consultant do canula this time, went to loo and he was waiting outside for meSmiley EmbarassedSmiley Embarassed haha.

We are being moved to a different dept and are assuming there will be more of us as there only 4 people treated each day, consultant says a ward maybe opened in my city soon, that would be truly wonderful, they are really pushing for us so fingers crossed.

It has not stopped raining here for days and it's cold, winter is here, indeed xx

 

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Wet and very windy here too.

 

Hurrah! for having sorted Mum's house, KTC, hopefully life will calm down a bit now. Can you get a smaller "thing" that you can keep in a pocket so you don't keep losing it? 

 

Glad my finger crossing worked, FF, (although dodgy hips can be successfully replaced whereas spines not so much?!) I agree with Katy about your job. 

 

Lots of banging, crashing and sawing noises coming from next door yesterday and a Borough Council van parked outside until nearly 9pm. OH said they must be converting to make the house more accessible for Mrs H. How? It's a bungalow! OH said they might be widening doors for wheelchair access but I had to point out it's an ARM she's lost, not a leg! Dawned on me today that it's probably the bathroom they're adapting (toilet in the skip outside was a clue!). Perhaps that's where she fell? Smiley Sad Walk in bath or shower? Anyway, these major renovations probably mean she's coming home in the not too distant future. Smiley Happy

 

Good news today, OH has sorted transport for his Friday night swimming for the next four weeks so I don't have to do it and will have my Friday night "me time" back up until Christmas. Yipee!

 

Observation at work this week. Think it went OK but observer summoned back to her own (reception) class, in the middle of it, so we could have a fire drill! Not had official feedback yet, but I'm not going to stress about it!

 

Had to get OH some cash, after swimming, tonight. This meant walking past the chippy. Twice! I managed it. Just. But had to have 2 pieces of toast when I got home instead! Oh, and some of those pesky charity sweets jumped off the counter at swimming!! Smiley Tongue Chocolate peanuts in my muesli in the morning then. Smiley Very Happy

 

YD coming for the weekend for the mince pieathon. Christmas must be nearly here! So much still to do!! Don't panic!

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FIND that thing that I persuaded you to buy and use it, please.  I do not want you to end up like me on meds and hoping for rain! Smiley Wink

Glad that you have sorted out Mums house and given back the keys, that must be a weight off your mind. And baby doing well too..  Is Mum now settled into her new home?  Nice for you to have tea and a catch up with GD too.  I rarely see my eldest GD these days but I know what's going on from my Daughter.

 

Very windy and rainy down here.........town has been briefly cut off from the rest of the world through floods but all roads now passable with care.. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Oh my gosh JCJ, your poor neighbour, awful how things can turn.

It will take time for your OH to make adjustments, you always think that'll you will manage and it's so difficult to come to the realisation that you won't get better and you will have to change, it's just coming to terms with the fact that aids and appliances do make things betterSmiley Sad extremely difficult.............

FF, glad it's not your hips although having arthritis in your spine is no picnic, let's hope physio can ease things off a little. You may have to think seriously about work as no point in making things sooooooooo much worse as it is a physical jobSmiley Sad

Hope you are doing ok, ali.

Mum's house is DONE, keys handed back yesterday, woo hoo. Am having migraines constantly, obviously due to stress, fingers crossed I can feel calmer soon. 

Baby is now 7lb 1oz, woohoo.

Haven't been seeing GD too much recently, so have arranged that we are going to have tea out every few weeks for a catch up, she is growing up so fast, makes your heart beat faster.

Still raining here, so boring arrrgh..............

Keep losing that thing you persuaded me to purchase FF, drives me CRAZY, will have to tie it around my neck, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr xx

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Finger crossing worked JCJ, hips are ok.  That neck to groin CT scan that I had two years ago is now proving helpful as that is how they are comparing these new x-rays.  So hips show no change, Yay!   It's just my spine that is falling apart Smiley Sad. I asked the Dr. today did the degeneration have a name? Is it arthritis or osteoporosis or .....?  Answer...."We generally talk about wear and tear and getting older but since you've asked it's osteoarhritis".

 

I told her about the Xmas shopping yesterday and the many sit downs...... and the fact that my back is so much worse today after it, she was sympathetic and in nice words said " you can't do what you used to do"..

 

Apparently physio could well help but I'm still waiting to hear from them.

 

Two more weeks signed off work, how long is it going be before work gets kranky?

 

 

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Good luck today, FF, I hope they can sort your hips out. Fingers crossed. xx

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Well I wasn't washed away, the yellow warning turned into a bit of a damp squib.  Yes, it rained but not enough to flood around here, thank goodness.

 

So sorry to hear you're coughing for England/Scotland JCJ, but glad you're still managing to make us a lovely dinner!  Selfish? Me ? No!

It must be so difficult for your OH to reconcile what he once could do and what he can do now.  Your poor neighbour, awful news. You are so right in saying never take anything for granted!

 

Glad that your results were good Ali.

 

Been to local City today with Daughter, shopping for the December event, got some things, had to stop and sit down many times as back was complaining, thankfully there are a lot of benches along the High Street. 

 

Drs tomorrow to find out the results of the hip x-rays.

 

 

 

 

 

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Coughing for England - and Scotland! - and do feel a tad yukky. Despite this, I made a super hman effort and took OH to his volunteer allotment so he could clear some c**p out of the garage (to make room for a mobility scooter???? Maybe not yet) I messed up reversing his great beast of a car off the drive, so the trip didn't start well (I'd tucked it in tight to the hedge out of the way of my car coming and going.) 

 

He had a bit of a melt down while we were there - memories of when he was fit and well and enjoying being there. I said, after Christmas, when I'm working part time, I can take him - and any other volunteers - a couple of afternoons if he still wants to go. Not so long ago, he was saying it was becoming a chore and he was looking for excuses not to go. Perhaps that was just the stress of driving? You don't know what you'll miss until it's gone?

 

Bad news from next door when we got back. Lovely elderly couple in their 80s, been our neighbours for 20+ years. I got up to go to the bathroom at 3am one night last week, and saw flashing red lights. Had a nose and it was an ambulance next door! Oh No! Watched them wheel Mrs H out and drive off VERY carefully. No sign of anyone in the house, but we got to talk to her son a couple of days later, who said she'd fallen and shattered the bones in her shoulder - of her good arm, she has a not-Parkinson's tremor in her other Smiley Sad . Owy owy owy!! Today, we have just heard that they have had to amputate the arm because it went black. I cannot begin to imagine what the poor woman is going through, but apparently she's managing to laugh and joke with her family!! I keep thinking of all the things I do, that keep me sane, that require the use of both my hands. Never take a moment for granted!!

 

Dinner is cooking: lamb shanks, braised root vegetables, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, cabbage, broccoli, gravy and mint sauce followed by individual chocolate cheesecakes (bought). I'll have to go VERY steady on the lamb - can't digest it and I'm already sleeping badly due to coughing and a head full of snot!

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hope you are not coughing, spluttering and barking JCJ and cold has not taken hold.

Had a reasonably quiet day yesterday and fingers crossed today too, woo hoo!

It started raining here last week and hasn't stopped since, oh how I hate the rain, it's all fine as long as I don't have to go out...........

If you feel too yucky to even contemplate dinner tonight, I will step in, a takeaway of course, orders can/will be taken for local chippie soon xx

 

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Unexpected couple of hours to myself tonight. Yippee! I was expecting to take OH to his swimming and sit in the carpark again, like last week, but his friend came to collect him and he's getting a taxi home to give me a night off! Just as well, because the dreaded cough has started - inevitable whenever I get a cold. I'll be barking for weeks now! Sitting in a cold car for an hour would have been even silier swimming myself last night?!

 

Weekend! Woohoo!

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Sleep swimming, no, probably not a good idea - although if dreaming of swimming has the same health benefits you may be on to something!

Finding money, woohoo! I occasionally find a fiver in an old handbag (or the posh going out handbag, tbh I have more handbags than fivers - there's probably a link!) and that feeling of unexpected riches is rather lovely Smiley Happy

And yes, it's been bloomin cold here too! I assumed it was just me getting over the op, I've been huddled under a fleece blanket in front of the fire all week but if you think it's cold too then I can blame the weather. I'm struggling to get going again but my friend reminded me yesterday that it takes three weeks for the anaesthetic to be properly out of your system, not just one, so a snooze in front of the fire is perfectly acceptable.

Black Friday, hmmm. Anyone find any bargains or am I being too bah humbug about it all? As a small, independent  shopkeeper it's a nightmare trying to compete with online prices at the best of times, maybe I'm just not in the mood this year? Good for electrical gadgets though and those strange technology thingummybobs my OH and son love Smiley Happy

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woo hoo scooby/booby dooo, ali, great newsSmiley Happy

bet you are soooo relieved, a couple of years ago I had huge bruising all over my legs after numerous tests it was discovered a med I was taking was causing bruising, could it be something like that?

 

Oh no JCJ you cannot ever swim whilst sleeping..............chippie tonight?

FF, hope you are not in too much pain, hugs flying your way.

 

Few things to do today, keep saying to myself only a few more days of craziness then things will be calmer, touch wood haha.

Visitors have been here every day this weekSmiley Frustrated,WHAT............am used to relative peace and quiet...........

tidying out a drawer yesterday I found £80, woo hoo, usually put money aside for xmas stuff, so at one side was the money I have been adding to and on the other side under a duvet was the 80, think it must have been from last year am well pleased xx

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Woohoo! Ali, that's good news! Not the dreaded C! Yey! Sleep well.

 

Washed away FF? I hope you're not going to have to heft everything upstairs again, THAT certainly won't be good for your back!

 

My cold is making me feel c**p. Nearly didn't go swimming but dragged myself out and just managed the mile, but there were several moments when I thought about my bed and snuggling into it, and just stopped swimming. Not good when you're face down in 6ft of water?!