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If the "knickers shop" starters don't hijack you, another option could be smoked salmon with cream cheese on a toasted bagel, toast or even posh crackers? (Sorry, FF, perhaps you could have pate on whichever instead? Smiley Tongue

 

Mobility scooter was a disaster. I'm sooo disappointed. I really hoped it would help, but OH frightened himself silly just trying it on the flat by the man's house. He didn't even attempt to drive (ride?) the thing down the steep hill to our house. Because it is steered by handlebars, like a bike, it is too sensitive for him to use with his tremor, so the steering was all over the shop and he was terrified of tipping himself out. I really wish he could have waited to try it until I could have been with him. Perhaps I could have stopped him getting quite so anxious. Probably not. He has said he might try a different style - some are steered by a knob apparently, rather than handlebars, but I think he's secretly relieved not to have to learn a new trick, as it were. Hey ho. Carry on with taxis - and me - then! Smiley Sad

 

 

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Thank you for the ideas JCJ, prawn cocktail we did for 100 years haha, last year it was mussels, thought that smoked salmon minus avocado (melon replacement) may be quite yummy, (sorry FF), pate is a no no.

Went into that shop that is famous for underwear today and they have a lot of yummy starters so may take the cheats way............we'll see.

Think it's a great idea for a try out JCJ, he may love it..........it's just getting your head around the fact that it is there to help you, pride has to take a back seat, fingers crossed.

Good job you checked FF, here's hoping appt is very soon.

Just ordered some colic stuff has really good reviews, he slept through last night but has been screaming on and off most of the day, really not sure what is worst haha. 

Raining here all day, yuck xx

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I really don't like that sort of thing, smoked salmon...ugh, avocado... ugh, prawns... ugh,  Just no!  I can eat a few things that I don't really like to be polite but that would be my worst nightmare. 

 

I well remember a colicky baby daughter that didn't let me go to bed before 3am for ages. Night  terrors passed mine by, thank goodness.

 

Thank you for dinner, lovely as usual.  Good idea to sell mobility scooter to OH as a replacement car rather than a walking aid.  Hope he gets on with it.  Looking forward to seeing the dog jumper.

 

I went into Drs. last week to chase up the physio appts., they gave me the phone no. for physio to phone them direct.  It just rang and rang, no answer, so I popped up there today and surprise!  They've got no referral for me.  Back to Drs., they show a referral for me.......there's been a c**k up somewhere along the line . So, referred again today and marked as urgent.

 

Tried to organise yesterday to get things done so I wouldn't have to go out today as weather forecast awful........that all quickly went pear-shaped so I've had to go out today TWICE and got soaked both times.

 

Xmas is coming too quickly.  I'm just SO NOT READY!   Help!

 

 

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Another starter idea: I once had a smoked salmon, avocado and prawn salad in a restaurant. Easy to prepare. Looks posh. Tastes delicious - if you like that sort of thing! Smiley Happy

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Prawn cocktail is dead easy. Melon? Pate? - you can buy some lovely ones and toast and a bit of garnish is easy. We pig out so much on the main event that we don't bother with starters any more. I used to do prawn cocktail - until the year I had them, ready prepared, in wine glasses, in the door of the fridge and they fell out and smashed when I opened the door. Grrrr!

 

My sympathies. How I remember those evenings pacing with a screaming, squirming baby. It gets easier once they're on solid food (as long as they don't then suffer from night terrors like ES did!! Smiley Sad)

 

Yes we did have dinner last night: we had roast pork, apple sauce, stuffing, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, roasted beetroot, crispy kale, smashed roots and gravy followed by raspberry and apple crumble and custard. And that was after I made 2 dozen more mince pies. Neighbour mentioned that she doesn't make mince pies any more and doesn't like shop ones. Aha! That's what I'll give her for Christmas then! She's not having any of ours: we're already onto the freezer stash! It seemed to take aaages without my willing sous chef!!

 

Started the dog jumper. It's coming along nicely. Won't be done by the end of term though but should be done by the time we go back in January.

 

OH just had a phone call from someone he knows who is selling a mobility scooter (he has 3!) and is going to let OH borrow it, over Christmas, to try it out. OH is saying "Oh god! Has it come to THAT?" and I'm being very firm with him and saying it isn't instead of walking, it's instead of a CAR: so he can get further away from the house than he could on foot. We'll see. He's arranged to collect it on Wednesday - if he doesn't chicken out! I hope he loves it and it makes life a bit more bearable for him, but I'm not holding my breath!

 

 

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Did we have dinner last night?? Am so confused am forgetting which day it is..........

Did manage to wrap all presents last night, hurrah, it's not my favourite job........

Am on the "twitchy" bench, as you know I am not fond of clutter, whole house is full of clutter, mmmmmmmmmm. My bedroom has all the wrapped gifts and hallway has old tv and YD's presents for GS and herself, am trying very hard not to twitch too muchSmiley Frustrated

Oh my colic is awful, baby is superly good all through day and evening, come 11pm it starts and can last until 3am, it's terrible. I had no idea.

Now serious stuff, am trying to think of an EASY starter for X dinner, so any ideas would be more than welcome, do have soup but something else needed xx

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Cards finished, written and posted. Hand delivery ones will be delivered next weekend. Last presents bought - I think, haven't actually checked my stash yet! Cake marzipanned. I'm on the "getting there" bench. Still got a mahoosive "to do" list but what doesn't get done doesn't get done!

 

Turned on TV to watch recorded "Strictly" final, only to find it's in the last half hour and it hasn't recorded! NOOO! 

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Am on the "finally organised, woo hoo" bench!!! psst near the "I know I am getting on your nerves" bench.

All presents done, cards written and posted...................fresh food still to be purchased, list written so I know whats what! Do still have to wrap, hopefully this weekend.

 

Glad to hear SIL's Mum is doing better, yes FF you do now have to wrap up well, we are on an amber warning here for snow. 4* eating????  Why not?? You have to spoil yourselvesSmiley Happy!

That sounds interesting JCJ, a jumper/coat for a greyhound, you will need to put up pic when you are finished.

What are you both doing for the big day?? everyone will be here, so house will be superly noisy and busy, looking forward to it all apart from the dishes, daughters are nagging me to use dishwasher, am sure it will be defunct after 7 years.............

Had some surprising news this week, my Mum has been wandering around care home, WHAT??? I couldn't believe it.................staff nurse says it seems to be when she is relaxed she can do it but any stress and she's on the floor. Still in shock...........xx

 

 

 

 

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High street vouchers, FF! You can buy them online or in post office and they can be spent in lots of teenage-friendly shops as well as on "BigRiver" and other internet shops. Slightly more of a gift than money but still allows recipient the fun of spending. I bought one for son's GF's birthday.

 

Glad your son's MIL is improved. Sounds like she was right to refuse invasive investigations?! (Always reminds me of my late father's saying "Don't b**ger I about!")

 

Much colder here today too. Just come back from swimming and the red ice warning kept coming on in my car. The roads didn't look like they'd been gritted either! Noooo!

 

I'm nowhere near ready for the big day either. Still got at least 6 more cards to make, never mind writing and posting or delivering them! Christmas cake needs marzipanning and icing. None of the presents are wrapped - and I offered to do OH's as well (except mine! Smiley Very Happy) as he hates it so much. I haven't even checked whether I've got everything! Going to put tree and Dec's up tomorrow evening while OH is at swimming (his friend's taking him again. Yey!) Usually put them up on 11th, but I was out having the festive meal with ex-colleague at our favourite pub on Tuesday, frantically making cards last night and swimming tonight. Busy, busy, busy! Also, only 1 1/2 dozen mince pies left (and only because they are hidden in the freezer!) and neighbour has hinted that she'd like some. That's her Christmas present sorted - just need to find time to make them!

 

Can't wait for all the pre-Christmas faffing to be done because, at the school Christmas Fayre last week, a colleague asked me to knit a jumper for her greyhound! I've found a pattern online and bought it, along with some "wool" and I'm itching to get started on it! Smiley Happy

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The 25th of the month is looming, am I ready?  Noooo, I need at least another month. Sorted most of my family but two teenagers may be getting money to spend on whatever they want (they may prefer that....who knows). Even their parents can't give me any ideas what to buy them.

 

Went to nearest City shopping yesterday with Daughter, just found a couple of things but had a lovely lunch in a 4* restaurant.  That was worth the trip.

 

SIL's Mother is improving, more alert and eating again, so that's good. There are still problems but she's ok for the moment.

 

I popped out today to go to the Library and the market wearing the usual clothes and coat.  Big mistake, sooooo much colder today, temperature has plummeted. Fortunately I had a pair of gloves in the car but I so needed a scarf.  It's so cold and such a change.

 

 

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That's terribly sad FF, hopefully she remains peaceful and pain free.

Fingers crossed GD's depression is now under control, it's just awful. Great she can chat to you though, talking is a great help.

Well done JCJSmiley Happy, glad you enjoyed the Fayre, you are allowed to be happySmiley Happy, bah humbug to OH..............

 

All ok here, touching wood as I am typing.............

ED looks fit to burst and still needs iron tabs, YD had her post natal exam couple of issues but not drastic and also needs iron tabs. Baby doing so much better, whew!

Am out for dinner tomorrow night, woo hoo!!

Not having Festive Meal but sticking to main menu, X has crept up so quickly this year, am out of sorts cause am usually fully organised by Oct haha, not so this year..............

Very, very cold here, long way to go methinks xx

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Christmas Fayre today. Sold my knitted toys and Christmas decorations and home made jam. Also got rid of some unwanted school books. Made £76 to split between school and Macmillan, so I'm well chuffed.

 

Christmas cake is in the oven. Can't open the door until it's completely cold so it's fingers crossed it's cooked ok.

 

OH in a mood because he's had to pay the heating engineer today. For a job that didn't really need urgently doing but that OH has been pestering him to do as well as servicing the boiler. Honestly! I don't know what he expected. A free job? On a Saturday? He has pestered relentlessly and now it's done and he's in a mard about it. Seriously think he's losing his mind! He's also got his a**e in his hand because I went to school today. Well. Tough. I'm giving up my afternoons in January, and I love the Christmas Fayre, so he can just suck it up!! Oops! Sorry. Rant mode?

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So sorry everyone having alarms and excursions..  Hope your tummy is better today JCJ. Lawks, Katy, Mum falls over, ED having troubles and GS not well. all worrying.....and tea all over the floor.....yes, there are worse things.  On the bright side, glad you enjoyed tea with GD.

 

Down here, SIL's Mother (in a home 93 yrs old) has been moved onto end of life care.  There is, according to the Drs., something wrong with her digestive tract (she can't eat and is being sick every time she tries). Drs. wanted to put a camera down, she refused to have it done. so palliative care only. So hard on SIL .

 

Eldest GD diagnosed with depression, now on anti depressants,  I'm trying to help her too.  She sees her Mum as "that's what Mum's say" but seems to see me as an Oracle.  Help!

 

Haircut today, faced the mirror, and now looking better.

 

 

 

 

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Hope your tummy is holding out JCJ and you have managed your swim tonightSmiley Happy

GS is improving, is a little brighter, looks a little better, he's very needy as he obviously still feels yuckety yuck, so YD has banned all visitors until at least the middle of next week, whew! We were all terribly anxious but are calming down a bit now.

Went out for tea with GD tonight, we had a lovely time and spoke about X present, so pleased as instead of money she has decided she would like a ring, came home and ring is duly ordered, woo hoo! I am happy because I would rather still give her an actual gift.

YD was making tea when I arrived home she dropped the whole lot all over the floor and cooker, what a mess!!! Just shrugged my shoulders and smiled, there are worse things.................

Had afternoon meeting regarding care home fees etc, only lasted around half an hour so that is the almost final thing that had to be organised for Mum.

ED's baby is due in Jan so still a while to go yet. xx

 

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Oh good grief, Katy! It never ends?! I hope GS is ok. When is next GC due? I hope it's not too long - sounds very ouchy for ED! I've heard of "glue ear" but I think that's something different to mum's experience? Smiley Tongue

 

Stomach much better today - never got to the dashing to the loo stage; just "am I hungry or do I feel sick?" stage. Hope it continues to stay better: too much to do to be ill!

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Thumpy head much better now, BUT am on the "really????" bench................

Mum fell last night and split her ear open, after a long wait she has had things glued together again.

Baby GS was supposed to have his first immunisation today, couldn't be done as he had started coughing and sneezing, phoned health visitor and then doc, saw a doc and he was rushed down to other city hospital, gone straight into chest. Airways cleared, bloods taken, results good, was supposed to stay overnight but so many children in ward with contagious things going on they thought it would be safer for him to be at home, so an anxious night ahead. ED was also at hospital, her muscles have split because baby is lying hammock style and very low, so they will keep an eye on her.

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Hope your tummy is improving JCJ, so many bugs at this time of year!!!

Hope you also manage to keep knitting without having to run to loo too often xx

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Hope your thumpy head is better now, Katy, and everything crossed that they DO open up a lido ward in your city. That would make life sooo much easier?!

 

Don't knock it until you've tried it: muesli with the addition of chocolate peanuts (or chocolate peanuts & raisins) = delish.

 

Had a dodgy stomach for the last 24 hours - reminiscent of 3 years ago, but I think it's probably the bug that's doing the rounds at school (some schools in the area are actually closed because of it!) Managed to stagger around S*******y's tonight and I've got most of the Christmas shopping in - just in case we don't go again before the big day (3-weekly shop would be Christmas day itself!!) There's the fresh fruit & veg to get, obviously, but we can pick that up from the farm shop when we collect the turkey.

 

Now I'm frantically knitting Christmas tree decorations for my stall at the school Christmas Fair on Saturday. Received our first Christmas card yesterday and I haven't even started making mine yet! I seem to leave it later and later every year!!

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Choc peanuts and muesli?????????Mince pies and choc peanuts????????

Hope all went well and you had a lovely time with daughterSmiley Happy

Yes FF I am persevering, still half and half or maybe slightly less, have purchased a few and when I was sorting Mum's house I lost 2 yes 2 of them, men who were clearing found one of them. I spend half my days searching for them..........................drives me crazy, will have to tie them around my neck cause used to do same with my glasses, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Had my lido on Fri, bit of a thumpy head still going on but can live with that. Had to have a consultant do canula this time, went to loo and he was waiting outside for meSmiley EmbarassedSmiley Embarassed haha.

We are being moved to a different dept and are assuming there will be more of us as there only 4 people treated each day, consultant says a ward maybe opened in my city soon, that would be truly wonderful, they are really pushing for us so fingers crossed.

It has not stopped raining here for days and it's cold, winter is here, indeed xx

 

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Wet and very windy here too.

 

Hurrah! for having sorted Mum's house, KTC, hopefully life will calm down a bit now. Can you get a smaller "thing" that you can keep in a pocket so you don't keep losing it? 

 

Glad my finger crossing worked, FF, (although dodgy hips can be successfully replaced whereas spines not so much?!) I agree with Katy about your job. 

 

Lots of banging, crashing and sawing noises coming from next door yesterday and a Borough Council van parked outside until nearly 9pm. OH said they must be converting to make the house more accessible for Mrs H. How? It's a bungalow! OH said they might be widening doors for wheelchair access but I had to point out it's an ARM she's lost, not a leg! Dawned on me today that it's probably the bathroom they're adapting (toilet in the skip outside was a clue!). Perhaps that's where she fell? Smiley Sad Walk in bath or shower? Anyway, these major renovations probably mean she's coming home in the not too distant future. Smiley Happy

 

Good news today, OH has sorted transport for his Friday night swimming for the next four weeks so I don't have to do it and will have my Friday night "me time" back up until Christmas. Yipee!

 

Observation at work this week. Think it went OK but observer summoned back to her own (reception) class, in the middle of it, so we could have a fire drill! Not had official feedback yet, but I'm not going to stress about it!

 

Had to get OH some cash, after swimming, tonight. This meant walking past the chippy. Twice! I managed it. Just. But had to have 2 pieces of toast when I got home instead! Oh, and some of those pesky charity sweets jumped off the counter at swimming!! Smiley Tongue Chocolate peanuts in my muesli in the morning then. Smiley Very Happy

 

YD coming for the weekend for the mince pieathon. Christmas must be nearly here! So much still to do!! Don't panic!

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FIND that thing that I persuaded you to buy and use it, please.  I do not want you to end up like me on meds and hoping for rain! Smiley Wink

Glad that you have sorted out Mums house and given back the keys, that must be a weight off your mind. And baby doing well too..  Is Mum now settled into her new home?  Nice for you to have tea and a catch up with GD too.  I rarely see my eldest GD these days but I know what's going on from my Daughter.

 

Very windy and rainy down here.........town has been briefly cut off from the rest of the world through floods but all roads now passable with care..