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Merry XmasSmiley Very Happy, have a wonderful day!! xx

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Merry Christmas everyone!! Wishing you all a pleasant, happy day however you like to spend it! xx

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Oooh cake looks lovelySmiley Happy

How long are your "girls" staying for JCJ?

Aaah you will enjoy the freedom................ lots of time for coffee afternoons................and doing what you want to do, when you want to do it!

Glad you have your appt FF, you will be soon super fit??? Fingers crossed. Hope Purdie has not been wrapped.

What a day, shops were crazy, supermarket almost empty of foodstuffs, couldn't believe it, never, ever seen it sooooooooo badSmiley Frustrated

Everything done, woo hoo, was out for hours today..............so feet are up and another takeaway for tea just couldn't be bothered (did not sit in it whew). Am on my own tonight and was same last night, stayed up so late which was incredibly silly so early bed tonight. xx

 

 

 

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There are lots of different mobility scooters about, perhaps you could persuade OH  to try some other ones.  After a suitable time lapse, maybe mention them in February...... or when he's having a grateful moment Smiley Tongue Lovely looking cake, I always prefer a rustic look, smooth does nothing for me!

 

We don't have a starter, just a good dinner (beef this year) and Christmas pudding when we feel we can eat it, usually at tea time Smiley Happy

 

I've been wrapping presents tonight and Purdie has been helping.  I've managed not to cut off her whiskers but it's been close a few times!   And I've had to pull sellotape off her fur and get her out of the bag that the presents have been in.

 

I'm back to work tomorrow after another month off sick, goodness knows what I'll find as my stand ins only do half the hours that I do.  One day, then I get Xmas hols for a week, back to work properly on the 2nd Jan.

 

The urgent referral to physio resulted in a phone call to see if an appt on 7th Jan was ok.  It is.

 

So, tomorrow, school, three items to buy and a visit to the Library.  Still need books to read when I'm not with family!

 

 

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That had me in fits, Katy! Just visualising you picking chips off your nether regions and eating them! Smiley Happy

 

Glad there's some improvement in GS's colic.

 

I've never eaten mussels - never really fancied them - don't know why. I love prawns.

 

Cards all delivered (except the inevitable ones I've forgotten?!) Last one put through their door as I dashed through torrential rain on the way to taking OH swimming. I hate driving in the dark in the rain and I just couldn't keep the windscreen from steaming up. Horrid. Sat in the car for an hour, while he swam, supping tea, eating "underwear-shop" salted caramel shortbread (yum! Present from a child at school) playing silly games on my tablet. Quite enjoyed myself really, although I was very glad it wasn't cold.

 

Christmas cake iced today. As every year I started out imagining I was going to do a smooth, professional looking job and, five minutes later, ended up going for "rustic"! Every year. Also made the Welsh cakes - without setting off the smoke alarm; a major achievement as the "bakestone" - a family heirloom - always smokes profusely. 

 

Collecting the turkey, fresh fruit & veg and cream from farm shop tomorrow. I'll make the stuffing and the fruit salad on Christmas Eve as the girls aren't arriving until the evening: DIL has to work until 3pm - and they have a 3-hour drive, so they'll eat on the way. I was going to do the (now traditional) lasagna for Christmas Eve dinner. I might still do that even though it's just us 2.

 

I was a bit sad leaving school yesterday. We had such a laugh in the staffroom, at lunchtime, and I realised how much I'm going to miss that! Smiley Sad Not immediately, I'll be there for some lunchtimes as I'm still going to do my library and homework clubs, but when I retire completely.....  I've made it clear to OH that I'm sorry to be giving up the best part of my job, and he's suitably grateful - at the moment! Something to remind him of when he's being an a***?

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woo hoo for the holidays, you will be glad and even better a part timer afterwardsSmiley Happy

So pleased food wasn't ruined what can you do? apart from nail the freezer shut, haha.

am typing one handed as am holding baby whilst YD is running around trying to buy last minute presents..........

new colic stuff has arrived and appears to be working, not all gone but a little better, we'll see.

prawns and mussels are the starters, checked underwear shop yesterday and there was hardly anything left and what was there i didn't likeSmiley Frustrated

realised i have to buy one more small gift, just chocs that were not on my list, grrrrr.

food on mon and thats it done, hurrah.

went to chippie last night and placed full plate on sofa while i went to get something, never do that, came back and sat on the said plateSmiley Embarassed ate it anyway...........xx

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I'm on the FF bench!! Smiley Mad OH left the freezer door open. Again! I discovered it after I'd been out to fetch him from the pub he'd got a taxi to, after I got home from a long - last week before Christmas in a primary school -  day at work (last ever full day Smiley Happy Smiley Sad ) via a wild goose chase around both local chemists and the surgery trying to track down his prescription. Totally kn***ered and, because I had Christmas dinner at school (yummy as ever: we are lucky to have an excellent school cook! Smiley Happy) I was just going to have a snack myself and find something quick in the freezer for OH. Of course, finding the door open changed that plan!! I had a bit of a melt down, but I'm proud of myself that I just cried and told him to leave me alone - I didn't shout and scream at him like I wanted to. The first two things I prodded were soft: a pack of bread rolls and a fish pie mix so I thought everything was thawed and potentially ruined - including the Christmas stuff. Arghhhh!! As it happened, everything else was actually still mostly frozen so I just had to make a fish pie and let the bread re-freeze which should be ok. Now I have 2 portions of fish pie in the freezer for when I CBA to cook in the holiday. Disaster turned into triumph.

 

Dragged myself off to swimming, despite afore mentioned exhaustion. Sooo annoyed though . because the website where I've been setting myself the swim distance challenges has been taken down and replaced with a, frankly, pathetic app. I have lost the record of all my swims towards the round-Jersey swim. I have no idea how far I'd got. Sooo cross. The distance challenges on the new app are really stupid too: London Marathon, 3 peaks challenge. I know we've had a lot of rain, but not enough to SWIM the London marathon surely or up mountains??! Grrrr!! Sent off a snotty email to them. They replied saying they will ask the techies to track down my data. I won't hold my breath!!! Grrrr. Smiley Mad

 

Half a day tomorrow. Then 2 weeks off. Hurrah!

 

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Yum yum, knew you would be good for ideas JCJ (cause of those wonderful Sunday Dinners) haha!!

Am going to have a look around hopefully before X day or it will just be soup, no I need to look.........

 

That is such a shame about scooter, there is a new one that folds down to about the size of a hoover, so it is really practical for car journeys, can just be popped in the boot. They are expensive but seem to be better than the huge bulky ones, depends on how safe OH would feel. You should maybe have a look in a mobility shop or online, good thing about shop is he can try it out, some chemists stock them too.

 

Have had a nightmare day today, just glad it's almost over, nothing drastic but just a lot of things all at once, grrrrrrrr.

No rain today, woo hoo!!

 

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If the "knickers shop" starters don't hijack you, another option could be smoked salmon with cream cheese on a toasted bagel, toast or even posh crackers? (Sorry, FF, perhaps you could have pate on whichever instead? Smiley Tongue

 

Mobility scooter was a disaster. I'm sooo disappointed. I really hoped it would help, but OH frightened himself silly just trying it on the flat by the man's house. He didn't even attempt to drive (ride?) the thing down the steep hill to our house. Because it is steered by handlebars, like a bike, it is too sensitive for him to use with his tremor, so the steering was all over the shop and he was terrified of tipping himself out. I really wish he could have waited to try it until I could have been with him. Perhaps I could have stopped him getting quite so anxious. Probably not. He has said he might try a different style - some are steered by a knob apparently, rather than handlebars, but I think he's secretly relieved not to have to learn a new trick, as it were. Hey ho. Carry on with taxis - and me - then! Smiley Sad

 

 

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Thank you for the ideas JCJ, prawn cocktail we did for 100 years haha, last year it was mussels, thought that smoked salmon minus avocado (melon replacement) may be quite yummy, (sorry FF), pate is a no no.

Went into that shop that is famous for underwear today and they have a lot of yummy starters so may take the cheats way............we'll see.

Think it's a great idea for a try out JCJ, he may love it..........it's just getting your head around the fact that it is there to help you, pride has to take a back seat, fingers crossed.

Good job you checked FF, here's hoping appt is very soon.

Just ordered some colic stuff has really good reviews, he slept through last night but has been screaming on and off most of the day, really not sure what is worst haha. 

Raining here all day, yuck xx

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I really don't like that sort of thing, smoked salmon...ugh, avocado... ugh, prawns... ugh,  Just no!  I can eat a few things that I don't really like to be polite but that would be my worst nightmare. 

 

I well remember a colicky baby daughter that didn't let me go to bed before 3am for ages. Night  terrors passed mine by, thank goodness.

 

Thank you for dinner, lovely as usual.  Good idea to sell mobility scooter to OH as a replacement car rather than a walking aid.  Hope he gets on with it.  Looking forward to seeing the dog jumper.

 

I went into Drs. last week to chase up the physio appts., they gave me the phone no. for physio to phone them direct.  It just rang and rang, no answer, so I popped up there today and surprise!  They've got no referral for me.  Back to Drs., they show a referral for me.......there's been a c**k up somewhere along the line . So, referred again today and marked as urgent.

 

Tried to organise yesterday to get things done so I wouldn't have to go out today as weather forecast awful........that all quickly went pear-shaped so I've had to go out today TWICE and got soaked both times.

 

Xmas is coming too quickly.  I'm just SO NOT READY!   Help!

 

 

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Another starter idea: I once had a smoked salmon, avocado and prawn salad in a restaurant. Easy to prepare. Looks posh. Tastes delicious - if you like that sort of thing! Smiley Happy

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Prawn cocktail is dead easy. Melon? Pate? - you can buy some lovely ones and toast and a bit of garnish is easy. We pig out so much on the main event that we don't bother with starters any more. I used to do prawn cocktail - until the year I had them, ready prepared, in wine glasses, in the door of the fridge and they fell out and smashed when I opened the door. Grrrr!

 

My sympathies. How I remember those evenings pacing with a screaming, squirming baby. It gets easier once they're on solid food (as long as they don't then suffer from night terrors like ES did!! Smiley Sad)

 

Yes we did have dinner last night: we had roast pork, apple sauce, stuffing, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, roasted beetroot, crispy kale, smashed roots and gravy followed by raspberry and apple crumble and custard. And that was after I made 2 dozen more mince pies. Neighbour mentioned that she doesn't make mince pies any more and doesn't like shop ones. Aha! That's what I'll give her for Christmas then! She's not having any of ours: we're already onto the freezer stash! It seemed to take aaages without my willing sous chef!!

 

Started the dog jumper. It's coming along nicely. Won't be done by the end of term though but should be done by the time we go back in January.

 

OH just had a phone call from someone he knows who is selling a mobility scooter (he has 3!) and is going to let OH borrow it, over Christmas, to try it out. OH is saying "Oh god! Has it come to THAT?" and I'm being very firm with him and saying it isn't instead of walking, it's instead of a CAR: so he can get further away from the house than he could on foot. We'll see. He's arranged to collect it on Wednesday - if he doesn't chicken out! I hope he loves it and it makes life a bit more bearable for him, but I'm not holding my breath!

 

 

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Did we have dinner last night?? Am so confused am forgetting which day it is..........

Did manage to wrap all presents last night, hurrah, it's not my favourite job........

Am on the "twitchy" bench, as you know I am not fond of clutter, whole house is full of clutter, mmmmmmmmmm. My bedroom has all the wrapped gifts and hallway has old tv and YD's presents for GS and herself, am trying very hard not to twitch too muchSmiley Frustrated

Oh my colic is awful, baby is superly good all through day and evening, come 11pm it starts and can last until 3am, it's terrible. I had no idea.

Now serious stuff, am trying to think of an EASY starter for X dinner, so any ideas would be more than welcome, do have soup but something else needed xx

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Cards finished, written and posted. Hand delivery ones will be delivered next weekend. Last presents bought - I think, haven't actually checked my stash yet! Cake marzipanned. I'm on the "getting there" bench. Still got a mahoosive "to do" list but what doesn't get done doesn't get done!

 

Turned on TV to watch recorded "Strictly" final, only to find it's in the last half hour and it hasn't recorded! NOOO! 

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Am on the "finally organised, woo hoo" bench!!! psst near the "I know I am getting on your nerves" bench.

All presents done, cards written and posted...................fresh food still to be purchased, list written so I know whats what! Do still have to wrap, hopefully this weekend.

 

Glad to hear SIL's Mum is doing better, yes FF you do now have to wrap up well, we are on an amber warning here for snow. 4* eating????  Why not?? You have to spoil yourselvesSmiley Happy!

That sounds interesting JCJ, a jumper/coat for a greyhound, you will need to put up pic when you are finished.

What are you both doing for the big day?? everyone will be here, so house will be superly noisy and busy, looking forward to it all apart from the dishes, daughters are nagging me to use dishwasher, am sure it will be defunct after 7 years.............

Had some surprising news this week, my Mum has been wandering around care home, WHAT??? I couldn't believe it.................staff nurse says it seems to be when she is relaxed she can do it but any stress and she's on the floor. Still in shock...........xx

 

 

 

 

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High street vouchers, FF! You can buy them online or in post office and they can be spent in lots of teenage-friendly shops as well as on "BigRiver" and other internet shops. Slightly more of a gift than money but still allows recipient the fun of spending. I bought one for son's GF's birthday.

 

Glad your son's MIL is improved. Sounds like she was right to refuse invasive investigations?! (Always reminds me of my late father's saying "Don't b**ger I about!")

 

Much colder here today too. Just come back from swimming and the red ice warning kept coming on in my car. The roads didn't look like they'd been gritted either! Noooo!

 

I'm nowhere near ready for the big day either. Still got at least 6 more cards to make, never mind writing and posting or delivering them! Christmas cake needs marzipanning and icing. None of the presents are wrapped - and I offered to do OH's as well (except mine! Smiley Very Happy) as he hates it so much. I haven't even checked whether I've got everything! Going to put tree and Dec's up tomorrow evening while OH is at swimming (his friend's taking him again. Yey!) Usually put them up on 11th, but I was out having the festive meal with ex-colleague at our favourite pub on Tuesday, frantically making cards last night and swimming tonight. Busy, busy, busy! Also, only 1 1/2 dozen mince pies left (and only because they are hidden in the freezer!) and neighbour has hinted that she'd like some. That's her Christmas present sorted - just need to find time to make them!

 

Can't wait for all the pre-Christmas faffing to be done because, at the school Christmas Fayre last week, a colleague asked me to knit a jumper for her greyhound! I've found a pattern online and bought it, along with some "wool" and I'm itching to get started on it! Smiley Happy

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The 25th of the month is looming, am I ready?  Noooo, I need at least another month. Sorted most of my family but two teenagers may be getting money to spend on whatever they want (they may prefer that....who knows). Even their parents can't give me any ideas what to buy them.

 

Went to nearest City shopping yesterday with Daughter, just found a couple of things but had a lovely lunch in a 4* restaurant.  That was worth the trip.

 

SIL's Mother is improving, more alert and eating again, so that's good. There are still problems but she's ok for the moment.

 

I popped out today to go to the Library and the market wearing the usual clothes and coat.  Big mistake, sooooo much colder today, temperature has plummeted. Fortunately I had a pair of gloves in the car but I so needed a scarf.  It's so cold and such a change.

 

 

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That's terribly sad FF, hopefully she remains peaceful and pain free.

Fingers crossed GD's depression is now under control, it's just awful. Great she can chat to you though, talking is a great help.

Well done JCJSmiley Happy, glad you enjoyed the Fayre, you are allowed to be happySmiley Happy, bah humbug to OH..............

 

All ok here, touching wood as I am typing.............

ED looks fit to burst and still needs iron tabs, YD had her post natal exam couple of issues but not drastic and also needs iron tabs. Baby doing so much better, whew!

Am out for dinner tomorrow night, woo hoo!!

Not having Festive Meal but sticking to main menu, X has crept up so quickly this year, am out of sorts cause am usually fully organised by Oct haha, not so this year..............

Very, very cold here, long way to go methinks xx

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Christmas Fayre today. Sold my knitted toys and Christmas decorations and home made jam. Also got rid of some unwanted school books. Made £76 to split between school and Macmillan, so I'm well chuffed.

 

Christmas cake is in the oven. Can't open the door until it's completely cold so it's fingers crossed it's cooked ok.

 

OH in a mood because he's had to pay the heating engineer today. For a job that didn't really need urgently doing but that OH has been pestering him to do as well as servicing the boiler. Honestly! I don't know what he expected. A free job? On a Saturday? He has pestered relentlessly and now it's done and he's in a mard about it. Seriously think he's losing his mind! He's also got his a**e in his hand because I went to school today. Well. Tough. I'm giving up my afternoons in January, and I love the Christmas Fayre, so he can just suck it up!! Oops! Sorry. Rant mode?

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So sorry everyone having alarms and excursions..  Hope your tummy is better today JCJ. Lawks, Katy, Mum falls over, ED having troubles and GS not well. all worrying.....and tea all over the floor.....yes, there are worse things.  On the bright side, glad you enjoyed tea with GD.

 

Down here, SIL's Mother (in a home 93 yrs old) has been moved onto end of life care.  There is, according to the Drs., something wrong with her digestive tract (she can't eat and is being sick every time she tries). Drs. wanted to put a camera down, she refused to have it done. so palliative care only. So hard on SIL .

 

Eldest GD diagnosed with depression, now on anti depressants,  I'm trying to help her too.  She sees her Mum as "that's what Mum's say" but seems to see me as an Oracle.  Help!

 

Haircut today, faced the mirror, and now looking better.

 

 

 

 

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Hope your tummy is holding out JCJ and you have managed your swim tonightSmiley Happy

GS is improving, is a little brighter, looks a little better, he's very needy as he obviously still feels yuckety yuck, so YD has banned all visitors until at least the middle of next week, whew! We were all terribly anxious but are calming down a bit now.

Went out for tea with GD tonight, we had a lovely time and spoke about X present, so pleased as instead of money she has decided she would like a ring, came home and ring is duly ordered, woo hoo! I am happy because I would rather still give her an actual gift.

YD was making tea when I arrived home she dropped the whole lot all over the floor and cooker, what a mess!!! Just shrugged my shoulders and smiled, there are worse things.................

Had afternoon meeting regarding care home fees etc, only lasted around half an hour so that is the almost final thing that had to be organised for Mum.

ED's baby is due in Jan so still a while to go yet. xx

 

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Oh good grief, Katy! It never ends?! I hope GS is ok. When is next GC due? I hope it's not too long - sounds very ouchy for ED! I've heard of "glue ear" but I think that's something different to mum's experience? Smiley Tongue

 

Stomach much better today - never got to the dashing to the loo stage; just "am I hungry or do I feel sick?" stage. Hope it continues to stay better: too much to do to be ill!

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Thumpy head much better now, BUT am on the "really????" bench................

Mum fell last night and split her ear open, after a long wait she has had things glued together again.

Baby GS was supposed to have his first immunisation today, couldn't be done as he had started coughing and sneezing, phoned health visitor and then doc, saw a doc and he was rushed down to other city hospital, gone straight into chest. Airways cleared, bloods taken, results good, was supposed to stay overnight but so many children in ward with contagious things going on they thought it would be safer for him to be at home, so an anxious night ahead. ED was also at hospital, her muscles have split because baby is lying hammock style and very low, so they will keep an eye on her.

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Hope your tummy is improving JCJ, so many bugs at this time of year!!!

Hope you also manage to keep knitting without having to run to loo too often xx

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Hope your thumpy head is better now, Katy, and everything crossed that they DO open up a lido ward in your city. That would make life sooo much easier?!

 

Don't knock it until you've tried it: muesli with the addition of chocolate peanuts (or chocolate peanuts & raisins) = delish.

 

Had a dodgy stomach for the last 24 hours - reminiscent of 3 years ago, but I think it's probably the bug that's doing the rounds at school (some schools in the area are actually closed because of it!) Managed to stagger around S*******y's tonight and I've got most of the Christmas shopping in - just in case we don't go again before the big day (3-weekly shop would be Christmas day itself!!) There's the fresh fruit & veg to get, obviously, but we can pick that up from the farm shop when we collect the turkey.

 

Now I'm frantically knitting Christmas tree decorations for my stall at the school Christmas Fair on Saturday. Received our first Christmas card yesterday and I haven't even started making mine yet! I seem to leave it later and later every year!!

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Choc peanuts and muesli?????????Mince pies and choc peanuts????????

Hope all went well and you had a lovely time with daughterSmiley Happy

Yes FF I am persevering, still half and half or maybe slightly less, have purchased a few and when I was sorting Mum's house I lost 2 yes 2 of them, men who were clearing found one of them. I spend half my days searching for them..........................drives me crazy, will have to tie them around my neck cause used to do same with my glasses, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Had my lido on Fri, bit of a thumpy head still going on but can live with that. Had to have a consultant do canula this time, went to loo and he was waiting outside for meSmiley EmbarassedSmiley Embarassed haha.

We are being moved to a different dept and are assuming there will be more of us as there only 4 people treated each day, consultant says a ward maybe opened in my city soon, that would be truly wonderful, they are really pushing for us so fingers crossed.

It has not stopped raining here for days and it's cold, winter is here, indeed xx

 

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Wet and very windy here too.

 

Hurrah! for having sorted Mum's house, KTC, hopefully life will calm down a bit now. Can you get a smaller "thing" that you can keep in a pocket so you don't keep losing it? 

 

Glad my finger crossing worked, FF, (although dodgy hips can be successfully replaced whereas spines not so much?!) I agree with Katy about your job. 

 

Lots of banging, crashing and sawing noises coming from next door yesterday and a Borough Council van parked outside until nearly 9pm. OH said they must be converting to make the house more accessible for Mrs H. How? It's a bungalow! OH said they might be widening doors for wheelchair access but I had to point out it's an ARM she's lost, not a leg! Dawned on me today that it's probably the bathroom they're adapting (toilet in the skip outside was a clue!). Perhaps that's where she fell? Smiley Sad Walk in bath or shower? Anyway, these major renovations probably mean she's coming home in the not too distant future. Smiley Happy

 

Good news today, OH has sorted transport for his Friday night swimming for the next four weeks so I don't have to do it and will have my Friday night "me time" back up until Christmas. Yipee!

 

Observation at work this week. Think it went OK but observer summoned back to her own (reception) class, in the middle of it, so we could have a fire drill! Not had official feedback yet, but I'm not going to stress about it!

 

Had to get OH some cash, after swimming, tonight. This meant walking past the chippy. Twice! I managed it. Just. But had to have 2 pieces of toast when I got home instead! Oh, and some of those pesky charity sweets jumped off the counter at swimming!! Smiley Tongue Chocolate peanuts in my muesli in the morning then. Smiley Very Happy

 

YD coming for the weekend for the mince pieathon. Christmas must be nearly here! So much still to do!! Don't panic!

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FIND that thing that I persuaded you to buy and use it, please.  I do not want you to end up like me on meds and hoping for rain! Smiley Wink

Glad that you have sorted out Mums house and given back the keys, that must be a weight off your mind. And baby doing well too..  Is Mum now settled into her new home?  Nice for you to have tea and a catch up with GD too.  I rarely see my eldest GD these days but I know what's going on from my Daughter.

 

Very windy and rainy down here.........town has been briefly cut off from the rest of the world through floods but all roads now passable with care.. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Oh my gosh JCJ, your poor neighbour, awful how things can turn.

It will take time for your OH to make adjustments, you always think that'll you will manage and it's so difficult to come to the realisation that you won't get better and you will have to change, it's just coming to terms with the fact that aids and appliances do make things betterSmiley Sad extremely difficult.............

FF, glad it's not your hips although having arthritis in your spine is no picnic, let's hope physio can ease things off a little. You may have to think seriously about work as no point in making things sooooooooo much worse as it is a physical jobSmiley Sad

Hope you are doing ok, ali.

Mum's house is DONE, keys handed back yesterday, woo hoo. Am having migraines constantly, obviously due to stress, fingers crossed I can feel calmer soon. 

Baby is now 7lb 1oz, woohoo.

Haven't been seeing GD too much recently, so have arranged that we are going to have tea out every few weeks for a catch up, she is growing up so fast, makes your heart beat faster.

Still raining here, so boring arrrgh..............

Keep losing that thing you persuaded me to purchase FF, drives me CRAZY, will have to tie it around my neck, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr xx

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Finger crossing worked JCJ, hips are ok.  That neck to groin CT scan that I had two years ago is now proving helpful as that is how they are comparing these new x-rays.  So hips show no change, Yay!   It's just my spine that is falling apart Smiley Sad. I asked the Dr. today did the degeneration have a name? Is it arthritis or osteoporosis or .....?  Answer...."We generally talk about wear and tear and getting older but since you've asked it's osteoarhritis".

 

I told her about the Xmas shopping yesterday and the many sit downs...... and the fact that my back is so much worse today after it, she was sympathetic and in nice words said " you can't do what you used to do"..

 

Apparently physio could well help but I'm still waiting to hear from them.

 

Two more weeks signed off work, how long is it going be before work gets kranky?

 

 

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Good luck today, FF, I hope they can sort your hips out. Fingers crossed. xx

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Well I wasn't washed away, the yellow warning turned into a bit of a damp squib.  Yes, it rained but not enough to flood around here, thank goodness.

 

So sorry to hear you're coughing for England/Scotland JCJ, but glad you're still managing to make us a lovely dinner!  Selfish? Me ? No!

It must be so difficult for your OH to reconcile what he once could do and what he can do now.  Your poor neighbour, awful news. You are so right in saying never take anything for granted!

 

Glad that your results were good Ali.

 

Been to local City today with Daughter, shopping for the December event, got some things, had to stop and sit down many times as back was complaining, thankfully there are a lot of benches along the High Street. 

 

Drs tomorrow to find out the results of the hip x-rays.

 

 

 

 

 

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Coughing for England - and Scotland! - and do feel a tad yukky. Despite this, I made a super hman effort and took OH to his volunteer allotment so he could clear some c**p out of the garage (to make room for a mobility scooter???? Maybe not yet) I messed up reversing his great beast of a car off the drive, so the trip didn't start well (I'd tucked it in tight to the hedge out of the way of my car coming and going.) 

 

He had a bit of a melt down while we were there - memories of when he was fit and well and enjoying being there. I said, after Christmas, when I'm working part time, I can take him - and any other volunteers - a couple of afternoons if he still wants to go. Not so long ago, he was saying it was becoming a chore and he was looking for excuses not to go. Perhaps that was just the stress of driving? You don't know what you'll miss until it's gone?

 

Bad news from next door when we got back. Lovely elderly couple in their 80s, been our neighbours for 20+ years. I got up to go to the bathroom at 3am one night last week, and saw flashing red lights. Had a nose and it was an ambulance next door! Oh No! Watched them wheel Mrs H out and drive off VERY carefully. No sign of anyone in the house, but we got to talk to her son a couple of days later, who said she'd fallen and shattered the bones in her shoulder - of her good arm, she has a not-Parkinson's tremor in her other Smiley Sad . Owy owy owy!! Today, we have just heard that they have had to amputate the arm because it went black. I cannot begin to imagine what the poor woman is going through, but apparently she's managing to laugh and joke with her family!! I keep thinking of all the things I do, that keep me sane, that require the use of both my hands. Never take a moment for granted!!

 

Dinner is cooking: lamb shanks, braised root vegetables, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, cabbage, broccoli, gravy and mint sauce followed by individual chocolate cheesecakes (bought). I'll have to go VERY steady on the lamb - can't digest it and I'm already sleeping badly due to coughing and a head full of snot!

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hope you are not coughing, spluttering and barking JCJ and cold has not taken hold.

Had a reasonably quiet day yesterday and fingers crossed today too, woo hoo!

It started raining here last week and hasn't stopped since, oh how I hate the rain, it's all fine as long as I don't have to go out...........

If you feel too yucky to even contemplate dinner tonight, I will step in, a takeaway of course, orders can/will be taken for local chippie soon xx

 

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Unexpected couple of hours to myself tonight. Yippee! I was expecting to take OH to his swimming and sit in the carpark again, like last week, but his friend came to collect him and he's getting a taxi home to give me a night off! Just as well, because the dreaded cough has started - inevitable whenever I get a cold. I'll be barking for weeks now! Sitting in a cold car for an hour would have been even silier swimming myself last night?!

 

Weekend! Woohoo!

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Sleep swimming, no, probably not a good idea - although if dreaming of swimming has the same health benefits you may be on to something!

Finding money, woohoo! I occasionally find a fiver in an old handbag (or the posh going out handbag, tbh I have more handbags than fivers - there's probably a link!) and that feeling of unexpected riches is rather lovely Smiley Happy

And yes, it's been bloomin cold here too! I assumed it was just me getting over the op, I've been huddled under a fleece blanket in front of the fire all week but if you think it's cold too then I can blame the weather. I'm struggling to get going again but my friend reminded me yesterday that it takes three weeks for the anaesthetic to be properly out of your system, not just one, so a snooze in front of the fire is perfectly acceptable.

Black Friday, hmmm. Anyone find any bargains or am I being too bah humbug about it all? As a small, independent  shopkeeper it's a nightmare trying to compete with online prices at the best of times, maybe I'm just not in the mood this year? Good for electrical gadgets though and those strange technology thingummybobs my OH and son love Smiley Happy

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woo hoo scooby/booby dooo, ali, great newsSmiley Happy

bet you are soooo relieved, a couple of years ago I had huge bruising all over my legs after numerous tests it was discovered a med I was taking was causing bruising, could it be something like that?

 

Oh no JCJ you cannot ever swim whilst sleeping..............chippie tonight?

FF, hope you are not in too much pain, hugs flying your way.

 

Few things to do today, keep saying to myself only a few more days of craziness then things will be calmer, touch wood haha.

Visitors have been here every day this weekSmiley Frustrated,WHAT............am used to relative peace and quiet...........

tidying out a drawer yesterday I found £80, woo hoo, usually put money aside for xmas stuff, so at one side was the money I have been adding to and on the other side under a duvet was the 80, think it must have been from last year am well pleased xx

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Woohoo! Ali, that's good news! Not the dreaded C! Yey! Sleep well.

 

Washed away FF? I hope you're not going to have to heft everything upstairs again, THAT certainly won't be good for your back!

 

My cold is making me feel c**p. Nearly didn't go swimming but dragged myself out and just managed the mile, but there were several moments when I thought about my bed and snuggling into it, and just stopped swimming. Not good when you're face down in 6ft of water?! 

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Well, they don't know what's causing the bruising but pathology reports are clear so it's not cancer!!!!!!!! Woohoo Smiley Happy

Im back in a month to see if my skin has calmed down and to discuss reconstructive surgery, sorry to dash in and out but I'm so tired and I suspect I might actually manage to sleep tonight. 

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Been thinking of you today Ali, hope all is ok.

 

I'm fine as long as I don't try to actually do anything!  I've had the hips x-ray done this Monday, results of that next Monday.  We will see.

 

Not freezing down here but preparing to be washed away in the next couple of days.

 

 

 

 

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Thinking of you today, Ali, hope your news was good. xx

 

Hope you're ok, too, FF.

 

Freezing here today! Had to scrape the car INSIDE as well as out. -4°!! Brrrrr!

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Hope all goes well for you tomorrow ali, fingers and toes crossed xx

 

Wet and wild weather here, brrrrrrrrrrr!!

On last legs of Mum's now, quick tidy and some hoovering to do, read electric and gas meters, then hand keys in either Fri or Mon, will be glad when things are finally done, one less thing to worry about..............

Was up to see Mum today, she was looking a little tired but chatted away fine. Learned yesterday that the delirium was/is not the cause of Mum's balance issues, it is chronic arthritis in her hip and spine, so chronic she is unable to successfully stand upright. Felt really sad when I was told this, would have been better coming from the consultant.................not that it makes a difference as she would be unable to have any ops anywaySmiley Sad

Today is baby's actual due date, was weighed yesterday and is now 6lb 10oz and doing fine xx

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Hugs. Ali. Fingers crossed. xx

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BCU have just rung me to go in this Thursday at 4:30. Hmmm. But, at least it's not long to wait....

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Big hugs flying your way ali, fingers and toes crossed all goes well for your appt.

FF, when does your physio start??

 

Thank you JCJ for dinner, yum yum, tummy is soooooooo fullSmiley Happy, hope sore throat calms down, there is always something..............

It's not changed much from your days ali, infa*** is what YD is using and baby massage, think it is awful, he is not screaming for hours on end, thank goodness, touching wood etc, but is obviously pained and discomfort is obviousSmiley Frustrated

Carpet is gone, woo hoo, 3 carrier bags to come back to mine and it's done, now 50 ton of paperwork to do. No POA yet so have to take stuff up to Mum for her to sign, hopefully will come through soon. xx

 

 

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Reciprocating the hugs, Ali, gently. Glad you're not too ouchy. I hope your follow up appointment comes quickly - (but not so quickly it causes alarm?!) and they can sort out whatever the problem is.

 

FF, I hope your physio is not too ouchy and they can help you get comfortable again. 

 

Baby colic! Oh how I remember that! Pacing the landing with a screaming baby (ES) for HOURS (days?) Also remember trying to get the lid off the gripe water (probably banned nowadays as it contained alcohol!)  and dispense it via a teaspoon whilst simultaneously juggling a writhing baby! Such fun. I see the children's medicines come with neat little dosing syringes now. So much easier. Far less medicine up the walls when the baby/toddler/child knocks the spoon out of your hand!

 

Dinner tonight is steak braised with mushrooms and onions, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, sprouts, carrots, broccoli and garlic buttered courgettes, followed by gooey chocolate pudding and chocolate sauce. Help yourselves. You're welcome.

 

The braising steak was because we shopped at C*-*p instead of S********'s last week because I had twighlight training, so was already later leaving school, and OH decided to need picking up from the town in the opposite direction from S's. The traffic was hideous and I just couldn't BA to drive back, so we ate and shopped at C*-*p. Stressful trying to find everything.  No joints of meat smaller than that required to feed 10. Smiley Sad Tried to get some at the local farm shop yesterday: same problem, but they did have locally reared braising steak and one home reared lamb shank (OH can have that next week - I'll have to have a chicken portion or something; lamb shanks usually cause me stomach problems! Smiley Sad

 

Yet another trip to the hospital tomorrow and yet another afternoon off work. OH got a physio appointment. I've told him, if he's got to go again, to get the appointment as late as possible. School are being brilliant but I really don't want to take the p!

 

Had a terrible sore throat on Friday night but Strep***s Max strength sorted it out. Just a snivelly nose now. Let's hope it doesn't convert to my usual hacking cough!

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Upright again! Slightly tender but nothing too ouchy, if anything I feel less uncomfortable than the implant was. Please excuse the rubbish grammar, I'm sure you get the drift! So just waiting for my follow on appointment to come through, because although I didn't tick all the boxes for cancer there's clearly something not right - and there are lots of things that aren't cancer Smiley Happy hoping they give me a prosthesis too so that I don't scare my customers when I go back to work.

Colic, poor babe, my son had that. I remember painting myself with infacol before each feed but that was 24 years ago, I'm sure it will be something different now!

House sorting and clearing, yes, you have my sympathy! It took us eight months to clear my mum in laws house after she passed away in January, we still have boxes of stuff to find homes for...don't ever buy cocktail sticks , she bought them in trade boxes and we have enough to build a replica Eiffel Tower.

Pain and aches and pains, awful, can really make you feel low and the worry of what may or may not be causing it doesn't help - in fact you're all going through it at the moment in one way or another, so sending out HUGE BENCHLAND HUGS to you all!!!! Xxxx

 

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Ouchy ouch FF, no wonder you are painedSmiley Sad, what happens next more painkillers or an op?? ouch.

Hope you managed everything JCJ and enjoyed your coffee with friend.

Is it a plastic brace?? Mum has one and they look soooooooo uncomfortable. It is hard to go down that route, you have to process it, when you make the decision, you have freedom............which is sooooooooo worth it.

 

Clearance DONE, took almost 5 hours.................had everything in boxes apart from furniture.........a very long day. One carpet to get rid off now and that's it, woo hoo!!

Have been neglecting my own home so had a "superclean" today, feels like home again. Clutter drives me crazy, YD is out so went mad in there, she will be annoyed but order was needed haha!

GS has colic, have no experience of that whatsoever so we are trying out lots of different things to try and ease the discomfort, evenings are wild here at the moment.

Have also managed to order X food, woo hoo! Another tick on that never ending list..........xx

 

 

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Ooh er! Degeneration of bones! Sounds hideous, but I suppose, at our age that happens to all of us to some degree? I know my scans (when they were investigating the gall stones symptoms) flagged up bone degeneration. Freaked me out a bit at the time! I hope they can sort you out so you're not in so much pain. 

 

Yey! For getting through the house clearance and other tasks, Katy! Soon be able to settle back on that CBA bench? Smiley Tongue

 

Had to take afternoon off school, again, today, to take OH to his orthotics appointment. He now has a leg brace to try to stop his leg bending backwards when he walks, causing pain in his foot and knee. He had high hopes for it making walking easier but he's very disappointed that it doesn't seem to help much Smiley Sad On the way home, we stopped off at a big garden centre to have lunch and look at some mobility scooters. I'm trying to persuade him to get one as it will give him back some independence, but he just can't accept that he's that much of an invalid. I'll have to back off and let him come to that milestone by himself, in his own time. 

 

Friday tomorrow! Yey! Pajamas for Pudsey day at school. I've got to go in OH's car so I can take it for its MOT straight after. Meeting a friend for a cuppa and catch up while the car's being seen to. Think I'll take some proper clothes with me - not sure I'm brave enough to brazen it out in my PJs at the garage - or in the pub where I'm meeting my friend! 

 

Got to take OH swimming again tomorrow. I'll probably take my tablet and/or kindle and a flask of tea and sit in the car playing silly games while he swims - save a big taxi fare. I've decided I'm not going to change my swimming night. I like Ladies night at the nearer pool. There's ladies there that I've been seeing every week for years. Also, it's ME time, away from work or OH, and that's important. Swam another mile tonight. Now 36% of the way around Jersey. Talking to someone who lives near us - mother of ES' best friend when he was at school - in the changing rooms, and she said she was impressed with my fitness!! Nobody has EVER said that to ME before!! 

 

Hope you're ok Ali!