03-04-2018 12:39 AM
My brother in law passed away last Autumn aged 46yrs he had bowel and stomach cancer
my sister is a young widow.
im so sorry Seb for your loss I can't imagine if I lost my wife it is so sad for you.
we as a family got through the first Christmas together and then just in early January I was diagnosed with breast cancer too.
It is not so devastating loss as your loss but he was an amazing lovely man who is sadly missed, it is also really hard for my sister and I dreaded telling her.
jyst seen you message would have replied sooner
thinking of you
this forum is a good way for us to support each other
06-01-2018 04:36 PM
06-01-2018 08:55 AM
Well the surgery is done. Pretty sore and less movement than I had last time. The exercises are more difficult and the loss of sensation is a bit disturbing. Just found one of those sticky pads they use to monitor you during surgery stuck to my bra at the back. And this is a clean bra I put on yesterday after a wash so goodness knows where the pad has been lurking! My partner has a nasty cold so I’m trying to look after her without catching it.
03-01-2018 08:23 AM
02-01-2018 11:53 PM
i have arranged for a friend to come with me. We had to do the same for my last results appointment as it clashed with the chemo day. Changing the day is very difficult for all sorts of reasons to do with continuity and avoiding gaps which might bring the treatment to an end because of funding rules. I don't think they quite realise how much our lives are governed by appointments. For example When we met with the breast care nurse to discuss my diagnosis my partners phone rang and it was the hospital wanting to book her in for MRI and CT scans. It's constant. We are trying to get my chemo delivered at the Guy's cancer centre because I am familiar with the set up and I'm involved in the patient reference group. We just need to make sure they don't give us the same day as one of us needs to look after the other!
02-01-2018 09:04 AM
02-01-2018 01:21 AM
I've only just joined so forgive me if things have moved on a lot for you.
My partner has stage four bowel cancer. She was diagnosed almost five years ago now and although things remain stable at the moment we know that won't last for long. It's a waiting game. I'm her carer.
meanwhile I was diagnosed with breast cancer in October and had a wide local excision with sentinel node biopsy on 22 November. Unfortunately they found cancer in one of the nodes so I am having an axilliary clearance on Wednesday. I expect this may well involve chemotherapy as well. I don't look forward to this as we expect this to be the last year in which my partner will be well enough for us to do things together like going away and now I'm going to be sick too. She has chemo every fortnight and the next will be number 55.
Weve been together 32 years. It's hard to know how to cope with the situation. For example she can't come to the results appointment because she is having chemo all day. There isn't much space to think about the impact on me of my diagnosis because of the situation she is in.
We are very involved with improving services and I'm involved in research. It seems the best way to make sense of it all.
02-05-2017 01:01 AM
That is so so sad to hear from you..I can feel your grief and it's really depressing. I will include you in my prayers. Are starting your treatment now or soon?
09-04-2017 10:35 PM
That is sooo kind of you to take time to reply. I sort of know I am not alone, I know couple of women who were diagnosed after the loss of their husband/ a close family member.
Thank you for your good wishes. I wish you a quality life with much laughter.
09-04-2017 09:10 PM
15-03-2017 04:44 PM
I am a gay woman and I lost my beautiful wife ( to ovarian cancer) under a year ago. I am now diagnosed with breast cancer myself and just had my operation.
I wondered if any of you are also battling with grief alongside your own cancer treatment. I have wonderful friends but it feels a bit lonely as I don't know anybody who has a similar experience to mine. Hopefully there is nobody but if there is I would very much like to hear from you.
Seb (short for Sebnem)