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Re: Are there any lesbian women out there diagnosed with bc? feel like I'm the only one!

Hi BenitsyKim
I'm so sorry to hear about your partner's secondary diagnosis. I really hope that she starts to improve on the treatment. Your profile pic is gorgeous - you look like a lovely family.
Love and light,
Alix
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Re: Are there any lesbian women out there diagnosed with bc? feel like I'm the only one!

Hi, my partner had breast cancer in 2011 and now diagnosed in early march with secondaries to lungand bone and is currently seeming very poorly. She started xeloda yesterday but it is very hard for her to get in as the cancer and anxiety is making her very nauseous and at times sick. We also have a 9 week old baby that I conceivedvia a donor. I have a feeling the onc last Tues wasnt telling us how quickly things are deteriorating..
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Hi Debbie, im here too!
There are times when being gay IS different in the BC world and it always feels better to know you're not alone!
I have never had any awkward moments from my 'team', oncologist/chemo nurses/surgeons when my partner sara has been with me at appts and together we already know the strength and love from friends and family and work colleagues.
what can be sometimes difficult is supporting one another emotionally! As 2 women in 1 relationship there can be an awful lot of talking about meaningful issues and feelings!! and thats without a (secondary, in my case) diagnosis of breast cancer.
sara and i weren't together when i was first diagnosed 10 yrs ago so im a bit of an old hand re the emotional side in some ways and at times i find it tricky sharing this journey with someone so close and caring and she finds it hard that, true to form, i dont always behave in the way she would have expected someone in my position to do so! The hardest thing for me is dealing with her scared emotions and seeing her hurting cos as women we aint that good at keeping things back!
Anyway - wishing you and yours all the very best
Alize
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Hi Deb
You're not alone! I was diagnosed just over a year ago, and have had three lots of surgery and chemo since then, and I'm on Tamoxifen. I'm now back at work, and me and my OH are having our civil partnership on May 31st (postponed from last year because of diagnosis). When did you finish your treatment?
Alix x
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Hello Deb,
Just bumping this to the top in the hope that you get some replies from the gay community. My sister in law is gay so I understand, but honestly you can join any of the threads we ladies do not mind at all. We just want to be able to offer help and advice, love and positive vibes. Do not feel freaky you are perfectly normal. I keep in touch with a couple of my sil's ex partners and we are very good friends with another gay couple and went to their civil ceremony. I hope you have a good partner who can help you cope with everything. Do you have any other concerns ? I too had mx and FEC T Chemo but chose not to have Rads. I now take Tamoxifen. Take good care of yourself .Love Tracy x
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Hi Deb and welcome to the forum

I'm just bumping up this post for you as you're right that there haven't been many posts in this section recently, but I know people do sometimes pop back so hopefully they'll say hi.

In the meantime, you can contact our one to one peer support service http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/breast-cancer-services/someone-talk/one-one-support. I know we do have some peer support volunteers who are gay women, so definitely worth seeing if we can put you in touch. You can contact the team on 0845 077 1893 or email: ukpeersupportteam@breastcancercare.org.uk

Best wishes

Leah

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Are there any lesbian women out there diagnosed with bc? feel like I'm the only one!

Hi.i was diagnosed over a year ago with triple negative bc with lymph node involvement. I've had surgery., chemo and rads. I would love to hear from any gay women who have been diagnosed/affected by bc as i feel I'm the only one. Feel a bit freaky as there doesn't appear to be any posts by gay women recently. Look forward to hearing from anyone who fits the bill.
Cheers
Deb