Hey, you lovely lot
I've missed you all and am at great risk of writing one of my famously looong posts (see below, Aaaargh!!!), it having been so long. I apologise in advance. And please don't be offended if I don't mention you personally, could only go back so far.
LadyH-bowler - Helena, glad you're now recovered from your "Hysteria-ectomy", and can't tell you how bloomin good it was to hear your removed delicate lady bits and pieces were all CLEEEAR! Yahoooo!!!!! Hope your Col's going on okay and enjoying the benefit of his stairlift and bathseat, being able to get a few "normal" everyday functions back, that the rest of us just take for granted.
Mishy - Thanks darlin'. Hope you reach the top of the list soon for your back op. Sounds like a complicated, delicate op to have (as any spinal does). I'm presuming the 'C' is meaning Cervical is it, as you mentioned your arms could be affected? Don't ever feel you're gatecrashing on here.
Jak - Hope your knee's coming along well, and you're soon back to your active self. After a major knee op, I borrowed someone's static bike to have in my lounge. Great for getting back the range of "bend" quickly from having to push the pedals round, whilst gradually increasing the resistance helped strengthened up the quads again. Was so strict and hot with the exercises, I was climbing a Welsh mountain after 4 months. Hope you're getting lots of physio and are being strict with yourself. Keep at it girl.
Alibobs - Yeh, "bosom buddies" is bang on right for this lot, a tad apt too! I love your wicked humour. Am just giggling at "Mentalpause", ha ha hee. Goes well with the "Hysteria-ectomy"!!
Charys - Oooooo, I've just got all wobbly at your beeeautiful Xmas card and deeply heart touching message. Thanks for that, you little darlin'. Congratulations on your final check. Would think you're feeling a sense of relief combined with a "Whooohooo, releeeease!!!"
Janey - That's so lovely to hear, our Magnolia bush is still going strong and building itself up (no doubt with the help of some ripe smelling manure?), ready to burst open with its pretty flowers again. Jeez, I was sooo pleased you've got rid of those polyp blighters. But I'm really sorry to hear about your nurse friend's recent diagnosis, gave me goosebumps when I read it. Hope she does make good use of the Forum and comes on this wonderfully friendly, supportive and sometimes loony thread. Let us know what her user name is, to keep an eye open for her.
Well, I didn't think I'd fade away in my postings, thought you'd be stuck with me forever, but it happens doesn't it.
I'd love to have been able to say I've finally sorted out my house (in both senses of the word house), self and life out, and been off on a six months tour of Italy, but I havn't, unfortunately. What then?
I got worse. Didn't go out of the house for 3 months, end of Sept to just after Xmas, not even to the corner shop for a few bits. Stopped getting dressed. Have wrecked my body from so much time in bed over the last 9 months, but the last 3 especially. Muscles wasted and no tone. Even started having food and drink (non alchy note) delivered. Not shopping food either. Food from the take-away down the road, once I'd discovered they delivered, and making it last for 2-3 days. Ate it in my bedroom. Don't know what I'd have done without the lovely guys down there. Didn't even bat an eyelid at me always being in my dressing gown when I opened the door, looking like a cross between Norah Batty (was actually an insult to her!) and some wild woman with unkempt and unwashed hair. But I'd got well past caring. I'd even sent off for the Wiltshire and Oak Farm Food frozen ready meals brochures, to get some healthier options delivered and cut down on costs, but didn't use them. Look very tasty and tempting though.
Had it not felt painful, I'd have probably starved myself.
Think it was the last text message from one of my oldest friends in the South, that had a no nonsense and urgent "Get in touch Delly please, or else" type message, that gave me a "nudge". Her previous two over 4 weeks, I'd just left unanswered, due to my head state. Needless to say, I responded, to let her know I was still on the planet. That was at just after Xmas.
That, and then also perhaps some help from trying some natural tablets I'd decided to give a better go of. I slowly started to surface, had a bit of a clean up, got dressed and eventually emerged from the house, just very locally to the shop. I'd kept in better text contact with my best buddy who's more local, had mentioned something of my state, but kept the worst of it quiet, wouldn't let her come to see me. But finally came fully clean just before New Year. She, a very astute woman and a therapist type, gave me a goal or carrot, of two weeks to take me out for a nice dinner and evening to celebrate my 60th birthday, 14th Jan. And her knowing it to be plenty of time to gradually build myself up to it. It worked. I wasn't so bothered about celebrating my birthday, but I was determined to get to see and spend some time with someone very special to me, far better than any present. Even had my hair cut specially on the day for it (hadn't had done since March, was very wild and untamed as you can imagine), so was looking and smelling a darn sight sweeter. She spoilt me rotten with beautiful flowers and other pressies. I was sooo touched, bowled over.
I'd got totally "Lost", felt "Spent/Tired", had "Given up". Perhaps I'd also sunk deeper because I'd lost touch with my special friends and place on here, literally just at the end of my fingertips. I too have occasionally gone back to the origins of this thread, and have often marvelled at the support I've had from the many of you, in some of my previous darker hours. My few real life friends and all you "through the ether" friends are my family, and I hadn't realised how much I needed you. All of you "Diamonds". So thanks for still being there. (Ahh sha up Delly will ya, you'll be avin us all in tears in a minit!)
Loadsa love, Dellywellydingdong xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Helloooooo all Fluffylisciouslies
Just crawled out from somewhere to wish you all a rather belated, but very
"HAPPY AND HEALTHY NEW YEAR"
Hope everyone is well, or as well as can be.
Lee - Hope you're still doing well, and your husband.
Lady H - How did your op go girly?
We should really be revving up for the nearing Panto season - Yehhhhhhhhhhhhh !!
Happy New Year Charys! Lovely to hear from you Lee. 2018 really tough for you and I hope 2019 is nothing but positive for you and your family. Hope you are all keeping warm and well xx
9th of January and here I am rather late wishing everyone a health and happy 2019.
Hello and happy new year to you my dear.
So glad to hear that you have finished active treatment it has been a tough journey for you this one, it will take a bit of time for you to get your strength back and for the tiredness to ease. Glad to see that you are still keeping an eye on us all as I often think of you.
How is your husband doing?
Has your oncologist arranged a dexa scan for you so that they have a benchmark for your bone density? If not might be worth asking them to do it and then it should be checked every two years.
Sending you loads of hugs
Lee, Happy New Year and congratulations on finishing treatment. The combination of chemo and radiotherapy must be really tiring, but hopefully will improve with time and rest. Hopefully you have some nice summer weather to sit in the garden with your feet up!
...& wishing all you lovely fluffies a happy & peaceful new year 🥂
Sending you all the very best of wishes for a fab 2019.
Janey cant wait to see it in flower again
Happy New Year to everyone, I hope 2019 will turn out to be a great year for us all.😁
Ooooo I am really liking the sound of that custom......I suspect I've managed it this year, but will need to thoroughly check and log next year and commit myself to the task LOL
Seasons greetings to all of you; hoping 2019 will be kinder to everyone and an improvement on 2018.
There is an old Yorkshire custom that every mince pie you eat between 1 Dec and 6 Jan, made by a different pair of hands (or a different commercial firm), gives you a wish and a happy month for the coming year. So if you manage 12 different ones in that time, you should be well set for a better 2019!
May your wishes come true.
Just popping in to wish everyone on here a merry Christmas. Hope you all have a lovely happy healthy time with your loved ones xx
Oh that is fab lovely to hear that you are doing so well.
Have a wonderful Christmas xxx
Happy Christmas to friends old and new, and thanks for your company, jokes and wonderful cartoons over the last year. (specìal mention to Rubycat here!)
Hi Lovely Ladies!
I am recovering well from the knee op thank you Mishy - hope you can get bumped up the list x
I wish you all a very merry crimblemess and a snappy yew near!!
And the very best for 2019 to you as well my friend.
Right back at you for the wonderful support you have given as well this year
Heyyyyyy all !!!! Wow, wasn't expecting so many replies YOU LOT are the best !!!
And the same to you my friend, have a wonderful Christmas and all the very best for 2019 xxx
Charys's words are just perfect in describing this thread and the lovely ladies who are part of it xxx
Charys, Janey, Helana, Jak, Wombatwoo, Mishy, Lesley, Alibobs Juliewulie & lovely fluffies old & new, just to wish you all a fabulous christmas & wonderful new year 🎄🎅🥂
Lovely words, Charys ❤️
...and to you Wombat Woo and Helena! May 2019 bring you the very best!!!
Merry Christmas my friend, have an absolutely fabulous time, all best wishes for a happy and healthy 2019.
What would we have done without this thread over the past two years. I am sure that old residents will still pop in from time to time, I know I certainly will.
To all 'old' thread residents, to
those now moved on,
to those who are new here and
Life carries on, but the love and
support on this thread
will never be forgotten x
Hiya, oh it is a sense of achievement when those flipping staples come out and you can start to move forward.
I know what you mean about making the cards, I have been doing the same in making cross stitch cards, it has sort of!! kept me sane over the past 3 months.
I am back to work tomorrow, looking forward to it with a little bit of trepidation, but I am so ready to get back in there again. I am only doing 3 hours a day until mid Jan to break me in, plus I have the whole of the Xmas period off so really the next two weeks are just to get me used to things again.
How are you?
I'm OK thanks - staples coming out tomorrow and on to the next phase of physio. Had to shift BC follow up appointment because it clashed with dressing change - how priorities have changed! I've been enjoying having the time to sit and make Christmas cards instead of rushing them at the last minute.
Hi to everyone else - hope all is well and that you are keeping 'abreast' of things!
how are you doing my friend, how is your recovery coming on xxxx
There has been recent research by some American doctor (he was on Radio two a few weeks ago) that HRT has nowt to do with breast cancer. This US oncologist has written a book called “ oestrogen matters”, but he is kind of going against the mainstream tide at the moment. His wife and daughter both had BC and are both on HRt since having BC. I think there is still a lot of research to be done on this area really....and we don't have definitive answers at the moment.
Well Alibobs, my sister insists my BC was caused by taking hrt for years, however, since being diagnosed I have come into contact with a large number of fellow sufferers and so far I’m the only one I know who took hrt so I’m still not convinced. I wasn’t told it was a contributing factor but was told that as I scored 8/8 er I mustn’t take it any longer and needed to take anastrazole for a minimum of 5 years. Only managed 3 months before stopping as it made me so ill. Have to admit I’d love to go back on hrt just to get a good nights sleep but guess it’s too risky. That programme did say that hrt only made a slight increase in the risk and being overweight or drinking was worse, There are plenty of tee total slim women who have never taken hrt who get BC and plenty of over weight heavy drinkers who don’t so I refuse to be made to feel guilty for taking something that I needed. I’m sure men aren’t made to feel guilty when they are unlucky enough to be one of the statistics.
Right, enough yattering from me, time for a lemsip and bed xx
Exactly the same with me, I did not have HRT and was post menopausal when I got bc. I recall the nurse asking me if I was on HRT when I was at the breast clinic and I said no xx