Yes the waiting is the hardest part, whatever the news is I would rather know than be left in limbo it's brutal.
Im sure she will love her flowers, you do feel helpless and having been on both sides I know a gesture to say I'm here and I'm thinking of you is greatly appreciated ❤️
That's rotten news Kt but here's hoping it is something other than the dreaded spread 🤞🏻it is such a scary time I remember so well from my mum,we would all be on tender hooks while they went off to appointments and jumping when the Phone rang afterwards almost not wanting to hear the news. My mums had spread to her lungs but with treatment she went on to have 3 really good years before we lost her and today I'm sure it would have been so much more with the new treatments available.
So much can be done now adays though and many ladies are living with a secondary diagnosis and enjoying life to the full, my mum was diagnosed 20 years ago and things have come a long way since then so as frightening as it is to face this there is always hope 😊
It's Emily here from Breast Cancer Care. I'm really sorry to hear about the position you're in.
While you're waiting for responses on here, I wanted to let you know that one of our email volunteers called Gemma has had a similar experience, in that her mother had breast cancer too, and she then went through genetic testing herself.
Her profile is here and her email address is firstname.lastname@example.org - you'd be very welcome to email her to hear a personal perspective.
Emily at Breast Cancer Care
Thank you I hope so too. I assumed my diagnosis would set the ball rolling from a genetic point but i didnt meet the criteria, my younger sister who was 42 at the time had to push to start having mammograms due to her age so you may find you have some resistance but it's worth pushing. My cancer was actually found by ultrasound after a clear mammogram so they don't pick up everything but they are very worthwhile.
Great to hear you run the race for life, i have done it many times myself with my sister over the years.
I was fortunate enough not to need Chemo and just had radiotheraphy but I know from mum how hard it is, hopefully they can offer your mum something that's easier on her this time around, it's a vile disease and no one should have to go through it a second time XxJo
I'm sorry to hear your mum has a reacurrance. You do seem to have a fairly strong history of breast / Ovarian cancer and these two along with prostate in men can be linked to a faulty gene but it's not always the case as it is very rare and more often it's just sheer bad luck.
My mum died from breast cancer in 2003 aged 60 and I was diagnosed in 2015 aged 46, I've also since found out that my Nan on my mums side had Ovarian cancer diagnosed when she was 80. I was refused genetic testing because 3 of us in a long line of females wasn't enough to ring any alarm bells plus we were not considered to be young in breast cancer terms. Had we all been in our 30's then things may have been different.
As your mums result was negative for the fault then you may struggle to get tested yourself as I'm sure she would need to have Had a positive result for you to be checked.
My mums sisters have been having annual mammograms since her death and now my two sisters are doing the same Since my diagnosis and everyone has remained clear thankfully so I hope we were just unlucky and there's isn't anything more going on.
I hope your mum gets her treatment plan sorted out soon and can crack on with getting herself well again Xx Jo