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Re: How do I handle the diagnosis?

Thank you for the replies and support. My mom has been put on a treatment plan, and I'm starting to adjust. I must admit that this is the hardest thing that I've ever gone through (and it isn't even really happening to me). We MUST find a cure for this horrible disease.

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Re: How do I handle the diagnosis?

Hi Believer_1

 

Im so sorry you are facing this with your mum, it's a really scary time. I was 35 when my mum was diagnosed with BC 16 years ago and it's an awful shock to learn they are not invincible.

 

The first thing is not to Google and look at statistics, they are too vague and no two people with the same diagnosis will necessarily have the same outcome. We have ladies with secondary cancer in their lungs on this forum who are still going strong 10 + years on so please don't think anything is going to happen to your mum right now. 

 

There will be a treatment plan put in place for your mum and she will be well looked after, they have an abundance of tricks up their sleeves in the medical world to treat BC with new things coming along all the time, more and more ladies are living with secondaries for many many years now. 

 

Sadly my mum did die 5 years from her diagnosis but her circumstances were different, she hid it for so long and never gave herself a chance although when we first found out inspite of the size of her tumour she had no secondary spread, that happened 3 years later. I'm not trying to scare you and you mustn't believe this will happen to your mum too, it was a long time ago and today she most likely would still be here with the advances in treatments. 

 

Every diagnosis is individual so you can't compare, just take things a day at a time and trust the team looking after your mum, we are always around here to chat and answer any questions you have. Xx Jo 

 

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Registered: ‎08-09-2018

Re: How do I handle the diagnosis?

Hi
I can’t can’t help on the info side of things but didn’t want to read and not reply
Sending you massive hugs xx
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Re: How do I handle the diagnosis?

Hi believer_1,

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis, you're doing the right thing by reaching out and thinking about how to support you and your sister.

We have some information on our website about supporting a loved one with breast cancer, I hope this might be useful: https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/information-support/facing-breast-cancer/how-support-someone-bre...

It also sounds as though you're posting form the states, so you might also be interested in this information too: https://www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/caring-loved-one/young-adults-caring-parent-with-cancer

Take care of yourself and we'll be thinking of you and your family.

Becca at Breast Cancer Care.
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Registered: ‎04-12-2018

How do I handle the diagnosis?

Hi everyone,

 

My mom (age 50) was diagnosed (for the first time) with breast cancer about 4 weeks ago. Originally, the doctor told us that it was stage 2. However, a recent PET scan revealed 2 cancerous spots on her lungs. I am in complete shock. I am devastated, and I honestly don't know how to deal with this diagnosis. My mom is my best friend and my rock. She is the most important person in the world to me. I'm 23 years old and my little sister is only 17. I'm trying to be strong for both my mom and my sister, but I feel like my whole world is falling apart (I'm a complete mess). I'm trying to remain positive, but it's so hard... The statistics for stage 4 cancer are scary.. I don't know what I would do without my mom. Please help! Any experience supporting and caring for a very special loved one? as well as coping/adjusting to this new diagnosis?