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Diagnosed this week and very frightened

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Re: Diagnosed this week and very frightened

I was diagnosed in November and agree that the waiting around before treatment starts is a truly traumatic and worrying time.  My nurse told me it would get better once treatment started and it did.  Like you I have invasive ductal cancer and am having chemo before surgery.  I started chemo on 5th December and am on EC treatment.  I had ultrasound after two sessions and was relieved to hear that the chemo is working.  Thoroughly agree that the time of year did not help me either. I did not want to spoil anyones Christmas but mine was well and truly out the window. 

Stay positive and once you have started you will feel a bit better.  

Just a note anyone else start their chemo in December 2018

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Am I being paranoid ? Had one session of chemo 8 days ago , had period four days after ( not had one for 4 months ) and I’ve convinced myself the lump is getting bigger . It was sore and large before chemo but I dreamt last night it’s growing and spreading everywhere 😬 ( chemo first , then lumpectomy, lymph nodes clear ) I’m hoping it’s hormones , and the lump will change size , feel etc as it’s being treated ?
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Hi Val. I just wanted to say that my Mum is in a very similar position to you. She had a mammogram recall and was diagnosed with a large tumour last week. They did biopsies of that and also some lymph nodes. These tests are positive but we don’t know the extent of lymph involvement. Last week they said definite mastectomy and maybe chemo/radiotherapy etc depending on staging and hormone results. Today the breast clinic consultant said probably chemo first before any surgery but was evasive about the reasons why. She also wouldn’t reveal hormone testing results saying that the team where my Mums treatment will be carried out will discuss this. Poor Mum is now worried sick about some info being revealed but not other. All the woman would say is that it’s not first stage! They seemed very surprised Mum wanted a frank discussion with everything laid out on the table. I hope you are going on ok and know a little more about your treatment plan. My Mum has been told she has to have a CAT scan and am presuming this is to check to see whether the cancer has spread.

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I started chemo Wednesday and already feel mentally better that everything is moving forward . I’ve also met some amazing ladies in various waiting rooms at different stages in treatments , who have given me advise , and made me laugh 😄
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Re: Diagnosed this week and very frightened

Hello to you all, sorry you are here but glad to have you all the same!

It is the most difficult time when you have just been diagnosed, so many unanswered questions, new terminology to get your head round and those dreaded waiting times for results.   I was diagnosed with Grade 2 ductal in April 2018.  I had to have an MRI before treatment plan was sorted, they explained it was to give a clearer picture of what was going on.  Gave a definite answer to location, size etc.   Once they had this and the results of the biospy (which sorted out whether it was ER+ (oestrogen) or HER+) I was then given my treatment plan.  Before I could start chemo I had to have a bone scan, a CT scan and a heart scan... all are straight forward and pretty standard as far as I have read.. they just want to get a clear picture before they start.   Unfortunately a 2 week wait for any results seems to be pretty standard.. and boy do those 2 weeks seem a long while... but like others have said before... once the treatment plan starts you do feel more in control and glad something is happening. 

Hang in there, call your BCN and ask questions if you are worried, thats why they are there and obviously come on here and chat, someone always around to answer.

Take care ladies

Kip

xx

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Hi! I was diagnosed this afternoon and head was reeling - just found your threads and forum which is very helpful and thankfully feeling more grounded x Smiley Happy

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Thankyou sally , I suppose I won’t know until I get there ,x
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I had to see the oncologist in the breast clinic several times during chemo. They just want to check you're ok and managing any side effects.
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Started chemo today , all ok so far , but come back to a letter from breast clinic ( different hosp from chemo ) to go in 2 weeks , doesn’t say why , is this normal , all my results are back hence started chemo , is this usual ? Do they just check your doing ok ? Every letter I get I go in panic mode 🙁
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Re: Diagnosed this week and very frightened

Susan

 

I had grade 1 tubular cancer , hormone recepter positive and I never had an MRI, my treatment plan was lumpectomy, sentinel node biopsy, both came back clear so I went on to have radiotherapy and have been on tamoxifen just over 2 years, I will be on it for 10 years altogether.

 

Helena xxx

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Strange, my recent cancer was lobular and I still didn't have an MRI.
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Hi Susan ,I didn't have an MRI either - like Ann says certain types of cancer are harder to see on mammogram so MRI is needed .Higher grades of cancer and those where spread to lynphnodes is suspected may have MRI as a precaution but 95% of Breast cancers have not spread beyond breasts or lynphnodes so it really is a precaution .
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Hi Susan,
As Sally says, not everyone has an MRI. It’s usually done for certain situations, such as if the intial biopsy shows ‘lobular’ bc. If it is ‘ductal’ it’s not usually done as this type of bc can be seen on mammogram more clearly. Lobular bc is more diffuse, so needs another imaging technique.
If you’re not sure, do check with your team.
It is a shock getting a diagnosis, so it takes time to get your head around, but we all do.
ann x
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I never had an MRI, either first time or this time so not everyone has one.

I had a bone scan and a CT scan this time to check for spread but 1st time round I never had then either. I think it depends on the size and grade?
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Hi..just been diagnoised yesterday grade 1cancer...tteatment plan next week. Is an mri part of all plans. It was not mentioned at diagnosis meeting
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Thanks for the reply. I am pretty resigned to waiting... And I keep reassuring myself that a week or two won't make that much difference.

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Hi Jill,

Sorry for taking so long to respond. I'm doing fine although real life has taken over this last year, which is  good thing I guess but has given me less time to spend here. I do know that you have had a very challenging time lately, to put it mildly. I'm so sorry about that and hope 2019 gives you some respite on that front. Happy new year and hope to catch up more this year. 

Take care.

Ruth

 

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My results took 2 weeks - pretty much each step has taken 2 weeks! So frustrating xx
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Bluetit,

Thank you for your reply. How long did it take from MRI to receiving your results? We have decided to tell the children while they are still on school holidays. Hopefully that will give us all time to process it. It will also explain why I keep having to go back to the hospital! I will keep you posted on how it went...

Happy New Year everyone. Onwards and upwards. 

xxx

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Interesting times - you sound very much like I was last month. We also chose to wait until I had a treatment plan before telling our children. Looking back we were right to do that as we wouldn't have been able to answer any of their questions. The MRI contrast injection is really easy, I bizarrely found it quite interesting. It didn't hurt at all, I was quite comfortable and it just felt slightly cool as it was pushed in half way through the scan. Be good to hear how you get on xx

Val- thank you for posting. I also had a large lump, seemingly much bigger than many who have posted here, which still frightens me. My boob is now off & I'm waiting for my chemo date. I also had a CT scan for bones, liver, lungs etc which by far has been my most anxious time so far. To reassure you, the scan itself was fine & very quick. The contrast dye they used was a warm one that sometimes makes you think you've wet yourself (I didn't feel that myself but thought it was worth mentioning in case they don't tell you!) The wait for results also was very quick but totally agonising. I'd love to hear how you get on, hopefully all good.

Keep in touch x