Diagnosed this week and very frightened

[Mai7]

Hi ValBeach, sorry you find yourself here, especially at Christmas (but then there is never a good time to receive a diagnosis).  You are right that this is the worst time whilst you are waiting with nothing being done and you can get very paranoid about cancer spreading.  Once your treatment plan is in place you can chat with others going through the same on the "going through treatment" thread.  Here is my story which I hope you find some comfort from :  lifeafterlola.com.  I hope you have a good New Year in spite of it all. xxxx

[interestingtimes]

Thanks Helena.

[ladybowler]

interestingtimes

Hello and welcome to the forum, know it is not somewhere any of us would choose to be.  Just wanted to wish you well for your MRI on Wednesday hope it all goes well.

As you can see on here we are a lovely bunch of ladies who will help and support you in whatever way we can.

Helena xxx

[interestingtimes]

Hi Val,

I was diagnosed on the 21st December so I am with you 100%. I completely understand (as do most of us on here apparently!) the fear, frustration and thinking that it's growing as we speak! I have an MRI scheduled for Wednesday but that's because I have super dense tissue and they want to be sure of what's there. (The bit that freaked me out was the contrast chemical they will use!)

Like you, I just want it sorted. I haven't told my children and won't until we have a treatment plan. I am probably waffling now but just wanted to say I am with you and we're in this together! xx

[ann-m]

Yes Val, that is exactly how in feels in those grotty early days of diagnosis, we’ve all been there, but it does pass.
As ever it’s the not knowing & the ‘what ifs’ that’s so hard to deal with in the early days.
It’s quite normal to feel all over the place & it’s ok to feel the way you do.
Although it doesn’t feel like it, getting diagnosed means, thankfully, it can now be treated.
Loads of support here whenever you need it.
ann x

[Val Beach]

Thankyou eveyone , it’s so lovely to be able to speak to other ladies . I feel like I’m sitting here with this “thing “ and nothings being done to get rid of it , which I know isn’t true . You think it’s spreading with every ilittle tinge you get in your body ! From what I’ve read it seems this can be the worst bit , tests , scans , more tests , and trying to get your head around having it as well , I’ve got to stay positive and except I will have down moments , Merry Christmas all you lovely , strong , positive ladies ( and men ) and thankyou for all your lovely words 😬😄

[Jmm]

Hello Val. It's entirely understandable that being diagnosed with breast cancer is causing you to feel panicky, frightened and unable to eat or sleep. Four days after diagnosis, I blacked out, cracked my teeth and ended up with two black eyes! Not a pretty sight but it certainly took my mind off cancer! So you are in the hands of professionals who are well versed in working through all aspects of the process and getting data at every stage to inform the next step in the process. I too had a bone scan to potentially inform future medication choices. So sending you a virtual hug, and encourage you to look after yourself. It may feel that time moves slowly as you wait for your next appointment/set of results but as other people are saying, you are not alone, there is love, support and experience to draw upon if you choose to do so. xx

[Jill1998]

Happy Christmas Ruth ,hope you are doing ok ?

[PeggyCat]

Hello Val, so sorry you have had to join the forum, especially at this time of year when the waiting is likely to take a bit longer because of the holidays etc. This really is the worst time when you are waiting for results and want to know the whole picture. At this stage we all feel/felt helpless and distressed and I'm sure lots of other people here will come along and back me up on that. 

Initially there is a lot of waiting around for the full story but once your team know the full picture and share it with you things will get easier. The vast majority of people who have BC will have sucessful treatment and go on with their lives. This period you are living through now really is the pits but you will get through it. 

This time three years ago I was half way through chemo, facing Christmas with no hair and worrying I would feel too sick to enjoy it. I actually enjoyed that Christmas and I enjoy life now more than ever. 

Do you have a date for chemo to start? Really don't fret about it too much. For the vast majority of people it's a lot less traumatic than you would imagine. 

You will get lots of good advice and friendly banter here so stick around.

Ruth xxxx

[Jill1998]

https://forum.breastcancercare.org.uk/t5/Chemotherapy-monthly-threads/January-2019-chemo-starters/td...

[Jill1998]

Hello Val ,welcome to the forum.Not the Christmas present you wanted ! It's a very horrible, shocking time when you are first diagnosed but it does get better - the initial uncertainty and anxiety is awful but once you know exactly what is going on and what your treatment plan is you do feel a lot better - no matter what the outcome of scans etc .There is lots of support and advice here from people who understand how it feels .If you are starting chemo in Jan - join the Jan monthly thread - you will get loads of advice and support .We are all here for you - you are not alone .Best wishes Jill x



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[Val Beach]

I was just diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m told it’s invasive ductal, treatable with chemo before op as I have a large lump. Don’t currently know grading or anything. In huge panic as I had node biopsy today ( get results next week ) and have come home to letters re nm bone scan ? Is this the normal ? Can’t sleep , eat , panic all the time , any advice x