Thank you Aneeebel Yes,it was very sad about my friend, she was only 53. It makes me feel very grateful for my treatment x
Funnily my breast feels slightly less uncomfy today-wonder if I was more aware of it because I was feeling anxious?! Also, because I haven't gone out today, I've remained braless and I think that helps! But I will contact BCN (If I can get hold of her!) if nothing has changed after I've followed consultants advice of massaging my breast regularly, although I was already doing that a lot xx
Thank you very much Michele and so pleased that you received good news too I don't see anyone for a year now (unless I have any problems in the meantime) which seems a long time! Especially as I'm TN xx
Great news Jencat. I just heard that my mammogram is clear as well. I have a follow up with the surgeon in October. I know what you mean about wanting to tell your Dad. 😢 X
Jencat, yes, I do know what you mean! 💗💙
I also know what you mean about feeling like you're being rushed...
Why don't you ring your Breast Care nurse and ask her your questions... it would be better than wondering about thing or even Ask the Nurses on here -that may be helpful! 💗
Sorry to hear about your friend x 😘
Thank you very much Aneeebel
My mum died 22 years ago, but I still miss her Dad used to keep mum 'alive' by talking about her and I feel a bit like I lost both of them when Dad died if that makes sense.
I'm so grateful that everything was fine yesterday and I feel bad about having a little moan, but I just wish the appointment had been a little longer to discuss side effects of bc a bit more. It was a bit like everything is fine, the scar tissue is normal, keep massaging it and see you next year, but contact us if you have any problems.
I do feel appreciative of my treatment though-a friend was diagnosed with lung cancer the month before my bc and died last month xx
Aneeebel and the lovely ladies who have sent me kind messages, thank you for all your support. My mammogram was clear, I still can't quite take it in as I'd convinced myself that something was wrong. Nothing was found when the consultant examined me either. The scar tissue is normal and it will take a long time to go and I was told that my bc breast will never feel the same as the other one I must admit I shed a tear when we left the unit, relief, but also sadness that I couldn't phone my dad to tell him the good news xx
Sooo pleased to read you've had good news Aneeebel It's not good enough though that letters are taking several weeks, especially for people who are having a mammogram after having treatment for bc. I had a routine smear test recently and the nurse told me it could be up to 8 weeks before I got the results! (I think it was about 5 weeks when I received my letter) If I'd had treatment for cervical cancer that wait would have been unbearable. I think post cancer patients should be a priority to receive their results.
Thank you for your good thoughts for today x I'm feeling very anxious about it, not helped that I've got to back to the same place where I was diagnosed and my appointment isn't until this afternoon. I go from thinking everything's fine to convincing myself that the bc is back xx
I didn't receive my letter again so I emailed my BC Nurse to ask if my mammogram had been reviewed yet and whether any correspondence had been sent out "as the waiting was driving me mad"...
She replied saying That it was normal...
I was soooooooooooo relieved I had a tear in my eye!!
She also said that "letters are taking several weeks at the moment!!!!"
No way could I have waited several weeks!!!
Thankyou for asking x 💕
Everything is crossed for you for tomorrow!
Aneeebel, I found the lump 8mths before my next mammogram was due- the letter inviting me to go for one arrived whilst I was in the middle of having chemo!
I hope you receive your results soon and it's good news Yes it's in the back (and sometimes the front too!) of my mind as well. I'm definitely more anxious about it than this time last year, probably because it's left to us to find something now. My anxiety is also heightened because I'm TN and 2/3 years after diagnosis is when there can be a recurrence and this is my 2nd mammogram since diagnosis.
My daughter has just asked me what my plans are this week and the only ones I've got is the hospital appointment on Tuesday, I don't seem to be able to think beyond that at the moment xx
I was advised 10-12 days but usually much sooner than that!!
(I only had my mammo 9 days ago but it's on the back of my mind...)
I've only ever had one routine mammogram (I'd ignored the previous 2 invites!!) and was called back and diagnosed with Invasive Lobular BC in August last year! 😫
Thank you Aneeebel and thinking of you too x It's horrible having to wait for the post and then seeing the familiar hospital envelope arrive. When were your results due?
It's different in my area, I have to see my consultant for the results and have my yearly check up then too.
I think unless you've been through this then people have no idea how anxious we feel. It wasn't the same waiting for a letter when it was a routine mammogram x
Thinking of you for Tuesday Jencat 😘💗🤞🏻
(I'm still waiting for my results from my 1st annual mammo...it's driving me insane!!)
Thank you very much Michele and Sue for your kind words and birthday wishes x
My birthday was emotional at times, but I had a nice day with my daughters and then later on we went to stay with some friends for the weekend. 60! How did that happen?!
Reassuring that hard breasts can be normal Sue and Michele. My breast still seems a bit swollen, but my onc didn't seem concerned about it when she examined me. I just worry that I might have overlooked something with my dad being ill and dying and not being so focused on my own health.
I am starting to feel anxious as the appointment with my consultant for my mammogram results gets nearer (next Tuesday) which is not helped that it's back to the same waiting room where I waited for my bc diagnosis 2 years ago x
Happy BIRTHDAY Jencat 🎂🎉🍾❤️ Wishing you an extra special day.
I have lympoedema in my arm and breast and that makes my breast hard (with an orange peel effect) and in turn makes me anxious as difficult to self examine. So I am grateful that at the moment I am on Annual screening. Michele X
It is perfectly normal to have harder areas, and you should take reassurance from what your oncologist says. They really know what to look for. But I agree with you, as the waiting for test results is just awful.
Chin up.... You will get through this xx
Thank you Sue and Aneeebel xx
Also feeling anxious about the mammogram results! I'm TN, so I'm more at risk of a recurrence now. My anxiety is heightened because I've got a hard area in my breast, which the oncologist checked and said it was scar tissue and normal-the radiologist told me yesterday that lots of women get it, but I'm convincing myself that it's not and worrying because of losing Dad, I haven't been so aware of what's going on with my breast as I might have been. I also hate that I have to get my results from my consultant and I always feel anxious in the waiting room with all the other poor women waiting to get theirs. xx
Thank you Lucy, Sue C, willowherb, Optimisticmz and Aneeebel for your kind words and x I'm sorry to read Lucy, willowherb and Optimisticmz that you've recently lost your dads too and sending you a hug. Aneeebel, my mum died 22 years ago and I can understand what you're saying, even after a length of time our parents are still very much missed. It would have been my mum's birthday on the 12th August.
Sue C, I took paracetamol before my mammogram yesterday and you're right, I'm sure it helped.
Well, it's my 60th birthday today (60, how did that happen?!) and I'm sure I will do some nice things, but feeling emotional about not spending it with my Dad and that's before I even open any cards! I bought the card Dad gave me last year with me as the words were so lovely, I didn't realise then that would be the last one i'd receive from him, so I'm glad it was extra special.
Thank you all again for your kindness xxx
Well I am now home...
Met a friend there too (unexpectedly!) which was nice. Took the advice and had the tablets. It did hurt, but not as much as I feared. Now my shoulders are all aching from being pulled around and up to add to the stabbing pains.
1-3 weeks for results .
Glass of wine tonight
Well Ladies...I've been...👙🎀💪🏻
-now the waiting begins for my results!! I should receive a letter within 10-14 days...
I did point out I could be an alcoholic by then!!! 🙄🤔🍷
willowherb...I hope you got on okay and you weren't in too much pain! 😘
Sorry to hear about your beloved Dad x 💙
Jencat...hope you have a lovely birthday! Sorry to hear about your beloved Dad too... Stay strong! All the waiting is enough to tip you over the edge! 😘💙
Optimisticmz...blimey, that's a long time to wait!! Sorry to hear about your Dad 💙
My Mum passed away 9 years ago....I still miss her desperately! The last 12 months even more so! 💗
Sue C...thankyou x 😘💪🏻
Keep your chin up Girls...hope all goes well...thinking of you all xx 💗🌸🎀😘
Hi Jencat. I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I had my 2nd mammogram Monday and feeling very anxious. They said results in 3-4 weeks and that they will write to me but they didn't write last year. I also lost my Dad in January. I hope you can relax enough to enjoy your Birthday. Congratulations! Michele x
The reason I have to go away in September is to scatter my Dad's ashes - like you it's been one helluva year - first this b awful diagnosis and then Dad's decline and death. Now we have to start again wit the tests.
I never told him about the bc - there was no point as he would have been so worried. Because of all the stuff with him I have not thaought about the bc - and now it's all rushing back.
Willowherb, if you get to read this before you go, take some paracetamol beforehand. Also, tell the ladies doing the mammogram that you still have pain.... They are able to do the machine manually, so can be slow and gentle.
Aahhh Jencat, sending you a gentle hug xx
I'm not sure that it gets any easier. The tests and waiting for results are the worst part of all this nonsense! I haven't found a way round it yet.... Just remind yourself of all the excellent treatment you've had.
People say keep busy, but I'm not always sure that's possible, so just sending you, and others waiting for test results, positive vibes ❤️
Firstly so sorry to hear about your dad, I also lost mine a year ago, the loss of a parent is always hard.xx
I had my mammogram yesterday, forth one, I going on holiday for two weeks, the radiographer told me not to worry, but I think worry is now part of our lives.
do try to enjoy your birthday, remember, we're still here! we've got through it and will, Im sure, be here to celebrate many more birthdays to come
all the best
Hope you don't mind me joining you. I've just had my 2nd mammogram this morning and feeling anxious! I didn't cry when I got to the unit this time like I did last year-I think I was more emotional then, this year I feel more scared. I don't get the results until the 20th. In hindsight I should have tried to change the dates because it's my 60th birthday tomorrow and this is hanging over me. The radiologist was lovely, but obviously they can't tell you anything. All she said was think positive and enjoy your birthday. I'm feeling down anyway as my Dad died a few months ago and this will be my first birthday without him x
I have decided to go for my first annual one today (we just 'drop-in' here in the right month)
I feel sick. I had a lumpectomy and my boob still has stabbing pains so I am dreading the moment.
And dreading the wait for results, but I can't book to go away in September (which I absolutely have to) until I know.
All I can think about is that they didn't spot the DCIS around the lump on the first mammo, so what if...?
Oh , and I also have to have my last smear too - deep joy
Thank you Evie...
I'm sure I'll be fine! 😳😳😳💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Thanks for "holding my hand" x 😘💗
Lulu... hope everything went well yesterday x 💪🏻💗
Stay strong Ladies x 😘
Hi Lulu and Aneeebel -
Lulu - I hope you were ok today at your mammogram and get clear results quickly. I think you are right, I’m not sure we ever get over the fear. I’ve got my 3rd one coming up this autumn and I know I’ll get really anxious as the time comes.
Aneeebel - big hugs and strength to you for your mammogram tomorrow. I hope you too get clear results very quickly. Sue has given some good advice - so just know that we will all be with you tomorrow holding your hand “virtually”.
Big hugs to all those going through mammograms.
Aneeebel, good luck for tomorrow ❤️
Having had 3 annual mammograms now, and various other tests, I'm not sure that the anxiety ever leaves totally!! However, just tell yourself that you've had all the treatment now, so the liklihood of it returning is absolutely miniscule.
I hope you don't mind me adding to your thread... 🤔💗
Im going for my 1st annual mammogram since diagnosis tomorrow...
I've been pretty laid back about it 'as its bound to be clear' (😳 ) (Surely!) until the last couple of days when I've been getting myself in a tiz and having a bit of an "Oooh my giddy aunt" moment!!!
Yikes!!!!! And breathe..... 👙💪🏻💗
LuLu...hope your mammogram goes well today! Everything is crossed! Stay strong! Let us know how you get on! 😘💗🎀 xx
I too have my 4th Mammogram tomorrow, it is always a tough time for me, I get tearful, have nightmares and increased anxiety on the build up to the examination. I think its normal, it reminds us of a very difficult time.
thankfully I have good family and husband for support and I try hard to look at it in a positive way, Im still here!
I wonder if we ever really 'get over it'
best wishes to all here.....onwards and upwards
Hi Raaspberi - that’s wonderful news for your Mum and for all of the family, thanks so much for coming back on here to let us know. Wishing her all the best for the next years ahead.
Sorry, I hope you didn’t mind me hijacking your thread to discuss books etc.
Hugs, Evie xx
I didn't realise this thread had grown so much. My mum got the all clear from her mammogram so now has entered the final year of the 5 years.It was such a relief for her and the rest of the family. She's now counting down the days to big number 5.
Hi oldspice - that’s wonderful news, thank you for coming back to share your good news 😊. And hope you get the green light to stop Tamoxifen in September.
Thanks also for your kind wishes - and also for recommending the book. It really is very good. I know it’s one I will return to time and again.
Hugs to you too 🤗
I'm so pleased for you. I can imagine the last two weeks or so you have been on edge all the time. I know I am when waiting for results. Let's hope you get the news you want in September regarding Tamoxifen too.
Thanks for recommending the book too. I am getting through it slowly as trying to take it all in. It all makes common sense but hard to put to practice every day.
Sending you hugs.
Hi Julie and Evie! Just thought I'd share the good news that my mammogram was clear and I have now achieved my 5 years NED 🙂. Now I am looking forward to receiving confirmation that I can stop Tamoxifen in September 🌝 Sending hugs and hope you are both doing well xxx
Unfortunately the plaster is not drying as quickly as we had hoped ( weather doesn't help) so the builders are not back here until next Monday. It means longer without comfy chairs!! We're hoping it will be finished by Wednesday (ish) next week so can put everything back together ( nightmare!) and concentrate on the holiday.
I went to Counselling today and am now being referred to Mindfulness ( via GP) as well as Counselling via my Cancer hospital. I feel as if I have to give Mindfulness another go. This runs for nine weeks not four like before, although before it was not just Mindfulness - it was just touched upon among other things.
Hope you are well and finding the books really helpful.