07-12-2018 03:01 PM
High2k - good decision to get some counselling to help. I love the fact that you have started us all calling it the goblin and everyone has different ideas to kick it/take it by the scruff! Yes it's tough when people talk about being cured, until you have been there you would have no idea how upsetting this can be.
Lyn and Jo - my husband asked me the other day if I had ever felt "proud" that I had got through treatment. I said I hadn't ever considered it in that way, so thank you for reinforcing that message.
Hugs to you all, that was a great thread to start High2k.
06-12-2018 08:44 PM
06-12-2018 07:46 PM
Well said Jo. I've just had my first mammo post surgery so I'm hoping I can put it to bed for a while! I'm sure it will raise it's ugly head now and then but for now I too am going to kick that Goblin!
06-12-2018 07:36 PM
Bless you Evie that is so nice of you to say 😊
You will all gain confidence as time goes by, there is no magic wand and I will never ever forget it but there just comes a time when it's not the loudest thing in your brain anymore.
Be proud of yourselves ladies you have faced the unimaginable and it's bound to leave its mark but it doesn't have to define you. Xx Jo
06-12-2018 07:20 PM
Like you I have irrational fears, the what if it hasn't all gone, what if it comes back, I am due my first annual mammogram in January following surgery last February. I am trying to hold myself together and hoping that nothing else shows up and if this is the case I will move forward through the next year in a state of contained anxiety - knowing i will have to go through another one in another 12 months.
If I get a good result I hopefully will relax a little. If I get another recall for more investigations and possible surgery I will have to face it and hope for the best, The breast care teams are very supportive and can offer support if you need it. You have to be able to move forward, the alternative is surely not an option - do not let this illness beat you, do not let it make you feel insecure be proud that you have come through this so far and having done so be proud of your achievement this far and know that you can deal with this thing - do not let it beat you, you are a survivor. xx
06-12-2018 12:19 PM
06-12-2018 10:36 AM
High2k - I totally get where you are coming from and I could have written an identical post especially as I come up on the 2 year anniversary of diagnosis. I too feel like I have a "fear goblin" on my shoulder (perfect description), so I'm glad you shared your worries as it shows that there are many of us out there who are also scared.
BUT Jobey68 has written a brilliant piece of advice and it is one that I am going to save and read when the fear goblin starts talking. Thank you Jo.
Hugs to you both.
05-12-2018 08:22 PM
There just in no way we can have a 100% assurance that this will never come back but we have to believe it won't to be able to move on. We can't spend our lives in fear of what may be as that just robs us of enjoying the here and now.
I'm 4 years post diagnosis in March and every year that passes brings confidence, we don't read about those who have gone on to have no further problems, they are off living, it's the sadder stories that get published but that doesn't happen to the majority. My mindset is if I need to deal with it again then I will but for now all is well and that's what I focus on.
It does get easier, Cancer won't always be in the forefront of your mind I can assure you Xx Jo
05-12-2018 07:47 PM
A year after finishing all my treatment I find that I am losing the battle with the fear-goblin on my shoulder. I hear stories of women who've had their cancer come back and women who have died, and it scares the bejesus out of me to the point where I convince myself it's coming back.
I feel healthy and have maintained a super healthy lifestyle, but that still doesn't make me feel better. I recently heard of a local woman who had her annual check up, was given the all-clear, and now six months later is in a hospice with weeks to live. What if a seed of cancer starts growing the week after your check-up and it then has a year to grow before your next one?
I just don't know how to live with a semblance of confidence that it's not there somewhere in my body quietly festering away......