Im due to start on Thursday and no your not alone!! Im totally stressed about my hair, and yeah so paranoid that people are gonna look at me.
I think it’s perfectly normal feel like that 😀
Love & hugs Bee 🐝 xx
Hi everyone, first time writting on this thread and I already feel supported by reading your messages.
I have started chemo and my hair is beginning to fall out and I must admit I am stressing out over it. Being
bold seems to be the main thing I am concerned about. I have tried telling myself to pull myself together &
stop being silly. There are more things to worry about like cancer!! Maybe I am using the hair loss as a
distraction from the real issue or perhaps I am just being vain. I keep thinking what if my wig or headwear
falls off my head when I am out but really so what if it does. I imagine people will be looking at me when I
have not got my hair but again so what if they do. I am fine with the cancer, treatment etc. It's just this hair
loss/boldness that is getting to me. Is it just me or is anyone else over reacting like me?
I agree, I've not googled anything about my cancer or treatment and am putting my complete trust in my medical team, who have been brilliant. I am trying to stay strong, not just for myself but also for my lovely husband and children. Just occasionally I crack, but I guess that's not surprising.
Just had a lovely offer from a friend to go dog-walking with her (her dog, not mine) when I feel up to it - somehow these small things seem to make a big difference.
More blood tests tomorrow, then Picc line on Thursday and a lengthy kidney test on Friday - what fun!
Its so lovely to hear from you ladies who have been there, really helps Thank you 😀
I have a 6yr daughter who has been great she knows whats been happening and whats about to happen, i will letting the school know on Wednesday (when she goes back) other mums have already offered to help with school run if needed. I will be off sick from work all the way through due to working around alot people (supermarket) get full pay so thats a bonus lol.
I will more then likely cut hair very short just after first chemo, dont wanna see big clumps!
Hi alittlepixie, Lisa, Mama Tony and Millie (good luck for tomorrow 🤞) xx
Hugs & love bee 🐝 x
I'm starting chemo for stage 2 triple negative on the 12th Sept. Waiting for this date is nerve-wracking, but I am being kept busy by my medical team with all sorts of tests etc. Am having a Picc line put in on Thursday. I have to go in for weekly chemo until December (is anyone else on a weekly regime?!) and can't face having needles poked in to me every week. I am also going to try a cold cap. I've got lovely long hair, but have a hairdresser appointment for next week to cut it short in an attempt to prepare myself for hairloss; not looking forward to that at all! I am hoping the cold cap will help, but there is no guarantee of course. Have decided not to go for a wig, can't face that. I'd rather order myself lots of fun hats and scarves - my 11 and 17 year olds will help me choose!
Like others here I have been completely open with my kids, who have been absolutely fantastic. Am meeting with my son's school today to discuss what they can do to help him over the next year, should he need it. My older daughter wants to tell school herself, which is very mature of her. Although this illness is deftinively the worst thing that has ever, ever happened to me, it is also revealing so much kindness and strength in so many of my friends and family, it's quite overwhelming.
When I was first diagnosed in early August this forum and the replies I got back were so incredibly helpful and comforting. It really does help to off-load and to know that we are not alone in this.
We will get through this together!
Hello all September ladies! Im .from June cbemc thread too! Its very scary starting chemo, fear of the unknown etc but as the others have said these forums really do help, we ask all sorts of things and sometimes just rant... Its good to get it all out there. i i ha had 3 x fec and 1 x T, having my next T today and final one on 24th September, the cycles do come round quickly really altough some days it xoesnt feel like it. Overall they have been .doable with some days when you feel bleuh but yiu geg through just listen to your body and always rinb uour nurse or hotline if you have problems, they will always hve something up their sleeves to try.. don't suffer in silence.
Hair... Mine was long but i cut it to pixie cut before chemo then about by day 15 of first cycle it was falling out quickly so had it had shaved to grade 1... Was very emotional i wont lie but son got used to it and its now startjst to grow back on firsf cycle of T. I have a wig and several hats but usually go bald at home... Saves a fortune on shampoo.
Those of uou with children.. j have a 16 and 13 year old and tried to be very open with them and they seem to be ok, son took GCSEs during this and pased them all!! Get school on board tell them whats happening, our schools have been great with them offering the chance to meet and chat if they re worried. Their biggest worry was seeing me ill but iI'v only had a few days when ive not felt great but otherwise continued working (from home so very lucky). If you can and feel able try to get out for a stroll even a litle one helps.
Oh and book yourselves onto Looking good Feeling better course if you can, nice pampering session with loads of freebie make-up!
Take care.. big hugs
Hi Ladies, just popping on to wish you well for your chemo. I finished 8 rounds of FEC-T almost a year ago and life is pretty normal again, back at work full-time. I was stage 3 and had a mastectomy and full lymph node removal. Life moves on and I hope this gives you a light at the end of the chemo tunnel. Here is my blog which has lots of tips for managing side effects: http://lifeafterlola.com If you find anything useful in there you can share it with other ladies joining this thread later in September. Lots of love. xxxx
I just re-read some of the posts on here and see that a lot of people are worried about hair and how to deal with it.
There is no right or wrong way to do any of this; everyone is individual, but with FEC I have noticed that for many people, hair begins to get a bit weak after around days 10 - 15 and it is then that people tend to feel the need to make changes. I personally decided to buy in and play with a few scarves as soon as I found out I would need chemo, as I didn't personally like the wig option. Many do though.... and love them.
When on about day 13 I was bringing more than my hairbrush away from my hair when I brushed it, I decided to have my thick curly hair cut short. A few days later though, my daughter took it back to a grade 3 with clippers. By this point, the short cut was 'lumpy' under a scarf, and falling out unevenly. I haven't actually shaved it, but I'm wearing scarves and sleep hats all the time now, and there is still a little tiny 2 or 3 mm sparse bit of hair coverage, which I expect will be completely gone in a week or so. I still 'wash' what is left, but it dries in a few seconds😬!
Best wishes everyone 😘
Hi September Ladies,
I am Georgie Gee and I mostly appear on the August chemo starters thread.
Please feel free to ask as many questions as you need to.
Sometimes it helps to have 'real people' to talk to!
Just in case it helps anyone, I am currently having FEC-T chemo, with 2 cycles of FEC under my belt now and 1 more before I start the T part, also known as Docetaxol, and will also then have Herceptin once every 3 weeks for a year. Also 3 years of bone protection IV once every 6 months. As I do not have any hormones involved, I do not need the 5 or 10 years of tamoxifen or other hormone drugs.
I had surgery before the chemo, for removal of a 29mm grade 3 HER2+ invasive ductal tumour and complete node clearance from affected side. Also had 2 lymph nodes with cancer plus one with micro metastasis.
You will be starting to know the new terminology we all now have to understand once diagnosed with breast cancer, and one of the things I began to realise straight away when I joined this forum is that we speak from experience and help one another along the way as and when we need it.
Most of of the NHS hospitals seem to be similar with treatment, and we compare notes and share experience with one another on the forum.
All the best to everyone starting treatment this week.
I didn’t cold cap & decided enough was enough day 19 of first chemo (day 1 is chemo day). It gets sore a bit like pony tail head. I clippered it to a grade 3 & although it was v emotional it felt so much better. I couldn’t bring myself to actually shave it off and allowed to do its own thing, it was all gone a few weeks later. I didn’t like the scarves on me as I felt that I looked like a cancer patient.
The good thing about this time of year is that you can mess around with hats, I tended to wear beanies when at home and wiggy when I went out.
It soon grew back once treatment finished xx
Im probably not alone on this but im so nervous about possible side effects??? Ive been reading through all the past posts to prepare myself as never been through something like this before!! The main thing im stressed about is my hair! Its shoulder length ,im not even tempted by cold capping it just isnt for me. So im gonna brave the shave (is that wise???) cant bring myself to do it tho!!
Love & hugs x
Hello all, my first time posting since diagnosis in June and surgery in July. Am due to start 3 FEC 3 T on Tuesday 4th. Am feeling very apprehensive and a bit overwhelmed by it all like many who have trodden this path before I guess. I want to wish you all, all the very best for treatment. With each other's support we can do this, we are strong 😄 lots of love xx
Good evening ladies.
I was in your shoes September 2013
This monthly chemo forum was an absolute godsend & I am still in contact with a number of ladies that I met back then.
I was triple neg, had a mastectomy, axillary clearance, 6 rounds of Fec-t and later reconstruction.
As this is my 5 yr anniversary I felt drawn to come back here and will continue to pop in now & again to see how you’re getting on.
If you have any questions, pls ask I’ll do my best to answer x
Ooh top tip drink lots of water especially the day before, the day of and the day after chemo.
Best of Luck xx
Hi! First time posting
Starting 6x ec on Thursday 6th, after having lumpectomy and 3 nodes removed (clear) Her2 positive so chemo needed 😕.Also will be getting radio, herceptin injections and tamoxifen after. Feeling very nervous and massively emotional lol. Xx