Thanks for all your support and to Sue for putting my message on the forum. I had a lovely weekend and travelling 1st Class was a bonus! (Had to rough it on the way home though! ) Still felt a bit teary a couple of times, but I had a nice time, despite the roof leaking over my bed at the hotel on Sat night!
Good news-my mammogram was clear xx
Good to hear that Jencats ok on the train and on her way to see her friends. I'm glad she pulled her Wonder Woman pants up high and was very brave. I wouldn't want any of us to be missing out on stuff now. Just back from a lovely day in Essex with my family. Had a little too much to drink and slept all the way home 😂
Buddyfan, hope you're ok and enjoyed your holiday in Cornwall!
Interesting reading for you lovely TN girls xxx
Thank you as well Jill for telling me that anxiety is common after bc because I felt a bit silly, but can't help it, that I was fretting so much x
Thank you Jill x No, my friend couldn't meet me because she's already booked onto an earlier train. Feeling a little calmer now and not so tearful, so I'm going to hopefully go as I think I will regret it if I don't. Both my girls have been great and have spoken to my friend for me and explained my anxiety further. YD is going to come up to London with me and then all I've got to do is sit on one train!
I think part of my upset (subconsciously) is that I was with these friends last year when I found my lump. It was my friend from Wales daughter's wedding and my other friends were there too and the morning of the wedding I found the lump whilst in the shower. I didn't mention it to anyone because I didn't want to spoil the wedding and weekend, but because I was there by myself, I told no-one the whole weekend and then travelled home by myself and as YD pointed out to me, we haven't all been together since and the memories have resurfaced and knowing I'm coming home to my yearly appointment with my consultant and to get my mammogram results hasn't helped either x
Thank you Mishy for your reassuring words and understanding x I think I am too hard on myself and also trying to be strong for my YD and elderly dad. I don't know where all the tears have suddenly come from and now I've started, finding it hard to stop! I don't even know what I'm crying about! And the anxiety-I was fine catching a train to London on Monday, but now I feel anxious about it.
ED has offered to come down from Oxford and meet me off my train from Kent, take me for a coffee and then put me on the train to Carlisle! (My friends will meet me there) Really kind of her, but I feel a bit stupid that I might need her to do that. A big part of me wants to go and I'm sure it would be good for me to get away, but I'm also worried that I will spoil everything for everybody else if I get tearful or can't cope.
The hospital where I had my radiotherapy phoned me this morning to say my counselling can begin next Thursday-funnily I was going to phone them myself this morning to see how soon it would be before I could start as I really want to have had some before I return to work in Sept (another anxiety!) x
Thank you Cassie xx Unfortunately we can't meet half way this time because my friend from Wales and I are staying with my friend at Carlisle on Friday night and unbeknown to my Welsh friend, her daughter in Scotland is joining us and then a B&B is already booked at the Lake District for the weekend.
I don't know where the tears all came from last night, but I think I'm still vulnerable and I can't cope with too much pressure. I'm probably expecting too much of myself a little too soon xx
Feeling weepy this evening, it's a bit like the floodgates have opened and now it's a bit difficult to stop! I'm meant to be staying with my friend in Carlisle this weekend to celebrate another close friend's birthday (going Fri-Mon) but it's a long journey from Kent. When we arranged it 6mths ago I was still having chemo and I thought I'd be fine by now. I've still got neuropathy in my feet and fingers and not much stamina and I'm not sure I can do the journey, just the thought of it makes me feel tired! My friend was sweet and said she didn't think I was up to coming and I'll find the weekend tiring as it will be busy, but we'll get together another time and I need to put my health first. I don't think it has helped me mentally that I would be coming back to a consultant's app and my mammogram results. (Had a bit of a scare this morning because the hospital phoned and immediately I thought it must be because of last week's mammogram. My consultant isn't going to be there next Tues now, so the call was to change my app to Monday eve) My head is telling me it's a long way to go, but my heart is telling me that I want to go and see my friends.
ED has offered to drive me some of the way, which is kind of her. If I don't go, she's going to spend some of the weekend with me and said we'll do some nice things together.
Sorry to go on, just feeling a bit sorry for myself and frustrated that I'm not back to how I was pre-bc yet xx
Thank you Sue x I feel like having a tantrum cause it's raining and I wanted to go to the seaside, but I suppose you can't do that when you're 59?! Never mind, we'll do something else nice instead and I'll have birthday mark 2 on Tuesday when ED is home too
When is your mammogram? xx
Morning Mishy x Yes it was the same for me, no gown and got changed in the mammo room. Still feel a bit sore, but my boob felt quite tender before I went! (Onc said last week that's nerve endings still sorting themselves out)
Thinking of you Shi x Btw, I took a couple of paracetamol before I went, which helped xx
Reassuring to know that the anxiety I felt yesterday was normal Mishy. Didn't realise bc ladies were seen first, I thought it was because I was upset x
Thank you too for the birthday wishes x
Been meaning to say, I'm really sorry but I ended up with 2 pink pens in my goody bag from Sue, so I must have taken someone else's as well as mine! x
Thank you Shi x I'd got tomorrow all planned out, fancied a day at the seaside with YD. (unfortunately ED can't get away from work, but will celebrate with her at a later date! ) A walk along the front and pier, a nice lunch and then a browse around the gift shops and then my Dad's going to take us out for a meal in the evening-feel very blessed that he is still able to do that+ drive down to me at the age of 90! However it looks like it's going to be sunny every day for the next few days apart from tomorrow! It never rains on my birthday! (Apart from last year when it poured and I made my YD take me out even though it was only a few days after my op, so wasn't walking very fast!) Might have to think of a Plan B for part of the day! xx
Thank you all for your good wishes, I'm fine, although a little tender (might not be because of the mammogram, boob was already a bit sensitive before I went!)
Everything was fine, but I ended up having a bit of a cry at the breast clinic! I was ok until I sat in the waiting room and then being there last year came flooding back! The nurse was very nice and let YD come with me into the inner-waiting room as well and then I was first to be called-not sure if I was just fortunate or whether they wanted to see me quickly incase I upset anyone else!
The nurse had already told the radiographer I was upset, which was just as well as I ended up having a cry on her as well! I asked her if this was normal and she said that it was, but it gets easier by the time you get to about your third one-does it?! She was matter of fact, but very nice. It was a bit painful, but bearable. Had to do an extra image as one was blurry (not on bc breast fortunately) but she said it was better to do it now than me being recalled and panicking why! Results in 2wks when I see my consultant-guessed that would be the case as I received that appointment letter last September! xx
Hello ladies! Great to meet some of you at the weekend I really had a fab time. Thank you Sue for arranging it for us.
Jencat, hope you got on ok at the mammogram and your boob isn't too sore.
Have we settled on a date for the next meet up?