Louise this forum is fabulous because suddenly you have thousands of women who have gone through or are going through exactly what you are. We all have our highs and equally our lows but it’s amazing just knowing you can type out what’s going on for you and someone you don’t know and will probably never meet can connect with you in a way your friends and family can’t. We all have those feelings we can’t express to those closest to us because we try to protect them and also because they will try to rescue you and not really understand what you’re saying. On here we all understand, we’ve mostly all been there and we are all here for you now.
im not sure if I will have the reduction on the other side, right now I’d say I won’t but that might be because my surgery is so recent and so raw. When the time comes to make that decision I know who I’ll be talking to and it’s the ladies in this forum. I can’t talk to my family about my concerns about my sex life, the sensations in my nipple or my lopsided appearance but I can talk to the ladies on here.
you are being hugged by hundreds of women, especially me. Stay strong, keep your chin up and take care and know there is always someone here for you xx Melanie
thank you so much for your reply; you described everything I’m feeling, I am also sorry to hear that you are going to have to undergo further surgery. I don’t know anyone else who has breast cancer and undergone a mastectomy and I felt totally lost from the moment I woke up from surgery.
i wish you all the best ❤️
Hi Loulinen, sorry you find yourself on this site and fully understand how you’re feeling. I had my right side mastectomy on 7 Dec and had immediate reconstruction with a silicon implant. I was worried about mine when it was first done as like you it didn’t look how I’d anticipated it would. I could see dips, dents and it looked off centre. I’m now 7 weeks on, I do still have one drain in as it’s still drawing 60ml per day but the shape is much better now it’s settled. I had a lot of strapping and dressings and as these were removed / reduced it settled much better. I also felt the weight of it everytime I moved. Getting up from lying on my back was a very strange sensation and I seemed to walk round “holding” it quite a lot. Again that’s passed and now I can lie on my operation side for short periods and the other side for most of the night.
The challenge I now have is the size difference. I was a 40E cup the implant is 600cl and I’d estimate it’s a good B cup. The plan is to reduce the other side to match, lift it and move the nipple but to be honest I’m not sure I want to put myself through more surgery. For now I’m using a softee to balance me up and will get a prosthetic when my scar is properly healed.
youve been through a huge amount, take it easy, stay strong, keep your chin up and allow yourself to heal. The swelling will reduce your muscles will relax again and then you’ll see much better how it looks. Heal swiftly xx Melanie
Hi; I’m 44 years old and I had a mastectomy and reconstruction to my left breast last friday. I came home from hospital yesterday and still feel a bit consfused with how my new breast looks. I know it’s early days and I have swelling and pain from the drain. I was so worried to look at it but when I did I noticed it was quite dented in places. Unfortunately the nurses at the hospital were unable to reassure me and I don’t see my consultant until 6 February. I think I am just overwhelmed with the cancer diagnosis that my emotionally I don’t seem to be able to think straight. Has anyone else had issues with breast reconstruction using a silicone implant.