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Yes I think I've come to realize I'm a bit more reserved than I imagined myself to be. Lol.
I love your story! I can only imagine..it becomes like second nature doesn't it? I'm sure you have had some giggles when thinking of that. 😊
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Yes, absolutely  Smiley Very Happy

 

I know it doesnt feel natural to some people, it didnt to me at first (for all my bravado), to 'expose' myself to the opposite gender. After all, most of us (unless we are strippers lol) spend our lives only showing our private parts to very select people in our lives. It amazing how quickly you can get over that. Here's a funny story; after spending months being looked at and being used to being topless infront of people, I was out in the front garden doing some work after active treatment had finished. I had an annoying itch on the radiotherapy side, and without even thinking I lifted my top and pulled my bra right down to expose that breast. Id like to point out this is on a residential road, WITH builders working on a new development about 10 M away! Eeeek, I honestly shocked myself Smiley Very Happy

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So true. I never thought of it in that way. I guess I need to focus on the fact that they are there for medical purposes and to help me. Guess I have a few insecurities to get over lol.
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Thats ok, I figured the bit it was that you had smiled at Smiley Wink Well, I did feel a bit bad for the men to be honest at the radiotherapy appointments, having to plop their parts out day after day for the young female teams. I guess they adopted the very same strategy as I am advocating for you, gender and age of staff is irrelevant when you are faced with needing treatment for prostate cancer.

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I didn't see your whole post. Sorry. I was saying your thoughts of the two male team vs the head oncologist was funny. Thank you for your insight. Nice to know how others experiences are. It makes me not as nervous going into all of this.
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Lol. That last part was funny. And yes I agree that no matter who it is that trust is soo important and being likable. I think I had some bad experiences which made me a bit weary around some Drs. So hoping he's awesome and the best at what he does.
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Hiyer, well I can't speak for the system over there, but my experience has been that I have seen an equal number of males and females through all parts of the process. A breast is a breast is a breast, my personal opinion is that they don't see it any differently to any other body part that needs a biopsy, and have more than likely seen hundreds, or thousands. In the same way the female team also does the male 'parts' lol I think IF , and it is an IF you are needing further treatment based on your biopsy then its more important that you like and trust the people you are having treatment with, than base it on their gender. The male double radiotherapy team were great, we had a right laugh, the female head oncologist was a cow  and very disinterested lol The only area I personally havent encountered a male staff member was in the breast cancer nurse section, but I doubt that has anything to do with staffing choices and more to do with the fact that certain areas of the profession interest certain people. I had a 6 month check-up only last week with a male doctor at the breast clinic, and he was very thoughtful and professional. I'd say, dont sweat the small stuff, itll be over before you know it. Stay strong.

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Hi there Charys. I feel more relieved now that you said that. I was thinking that some places were mostly staffed with women for this. Don't ask me where I got that idea from lol. I know some women feel more comfortable with a female dr. I kind of turned into that way for awhile too. I was curious if other facilities were similar to the va system😊
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Hiyer, it depends how comfortable you feel I guess....its your right to ask for female if you prefer but there might not be one there to do the procedure. However, I'm an equal opportunities gal and to be honest have never bothered. During treatment I had a 2 male team doing radiotherapy treatment on many days and the oncology team and every medical team contains male and female. To me a body is a body and I just want the best radiologist/surgeon/oncologist irrespective of them bring male, female, gender neutral, transgender etc.
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I am now scheduled for Friday. I'm happy that I don't have to wait too long but now the nerves begin again. I was wondering, since the radiologist does the biopsy, do most have a female or male radiologist? Just curious. I'm in the Veterans system here which is mostly male dominated but we do have two radiologists that specialize in the biopsies. So I know I'm seeing a male radiologist. I was thinking whether I should ask if the other one might be a female? Is it more comfortable? Or does it really matter in the end?
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jenny4joy,

 

I'm so sorry to hear that you were unable to have your biopsy today.  I hope that you don"t have to wait too long for another appointment.  Stay safe xxx

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Charys. I'm the same way with medication. I try to stay away from it so much but I have to give in sometimes. I'm sure it's a whole different world when you have to go through these processes after having so many years with little issues. But yes you are so right. You just gain strength in all of this. Although I'm strong one second and crying like a baby the next. I guess it's the journey of it all. 😊
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Thank you so very much Helena. Yes I'm a bit far away from there. I looked for awhile trying to find a group online and this group was the absolute best. So thankful I found all of you amazing women. Thank you for the kind words. The firefighters are working so so hard. They are our angels right now. πŸ’œ
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You won't be the first person to have a panic attack, and you certainly won't be the last, even if you do Smiley Wink I am appalling with anything medical, partly due to never having to take any medication or have any operation or treatments in my whole (48 year) life, until the point of needing something a year and a half ago. I have - or rather HAD - an extreme phobia about any medication entering my system, and hadn't taken so much as a paracetamol in 20 years. So, I hear where you are coming from, really I do....but you come out of this whole thing much stronger and more resilient about certain things.

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Hi Charys! Yes and the waiting continues. And I'm a very anxious person so it just affects my everyday. Although it won't hurt much, I think that clicking sound will scare me just as much. I think A panic attack when I'm there is very possible too. I'm just not very good with these things. My mind wanders and every thought imaginable comes my way! Thank you for your message!!
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Thanks so much crocrazy for your message!! I will be waiting a bit longer now for my biopsies. Waiting is just awful isn't it.
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Hi Hufflepuff! Thank you so much for the message. Im sure that is hard doing a biopsy without notice too. i usually like planning things out in my head first but then again that makes me lose my mind! Lol. I'm thankful knowing that it is not too painful though. I really love the idea of being able to look at the handsome George Clooney too! Thank you for your well wishes. Sad to say that I had to cancel my appt due to the fires surrounding us. Now I must wait even longer.
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Oh flip, no, so you've gotta go through more waiting......thats so horrible. I don't know if anybody else has said this, but they do give you a local anaesthetic in the area they are doing the biopsy from, and you literally feel nothing. (but hear a click as it takes the sample). I actually, embarrasingly, had a MAJOR panic attack just as they were about to give me the anaesthetic injection, and another nurse had to go for water and they had to let me calm down. I think it was the whole stressfulness of the possible diagnosis and high adrenaline, so maybe not that embarrasing as I bet its happened quite a few times to people before.

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Helena, Thank you so much for the tough pants☺️
Unfortunately my biopsy was postponed due to the fires surrounding our area. The waiting continues...
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jenny4joy

 

OMG I didnt know you lived in the USA, sorry to hear about the biopsies cancelled but please please keep safe and thoughts are with you all there, we have been hearing about it on the news here, and that all your wonderful firefighters keep safe

 

Helena xxx